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Caregivers

Relate to others
I have read some of the various post on this forum and am so grateful to know know that others are going through the ups and down of this caregiving process. I knew it in my head but so nice to actually read others posts that I can actually relate to. I was at my wit's end last week, the stress was almost unbearable I…
Please help,need guidance, advice, opinions, anything
Where to start, this is such a complicated and long story. My mother, my best friend, my absolute everything was given four months to live yesterday with radiation on treatments on brain. The last several years I've watched this women suffer and be put thru hell and she has fought and fought! My mom is 63 years old. In…
Update on posted on another board but want to post here
I recently found a few days ago out that bf was told in the beginnng of November that he had 6 months to live. He told a few close personal friends and family, but not me. They were told not to tell me. We broke up sometime in December and he reached out to me on Xmas, New Years and last week to which I didn't respond…
Guilt
My wife was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in February of this year. I have been by her side the whole time. I have gone to every appointment with her and spent many nights sleeping in her hospital rooms. She has an appointment with her oncologist coming up in early October. In haste I mentioned that maybe her sister…
irritated at my sick hubby
I feel awful, my husband has been diagnosed with esophageal cancer, and we're still working out treatment will be. The first response was fear and love - he could do no wrong and I wanted to take care of everything. Already I'm burning out (typical for me to take on too much) and irritated that he's leaving empty gatorade…
I can't remember who my mom was before diagnosis...anyone else experience this?
Hi im new to this but to start of, my mom got diagnosed with Breast cancer when I was 12. My memories during and after this period arent very happy and are not what i want to remember my mom by. She went into remission for a year but her cancer metasisized to her liver my freshamn year of High School. I just feel like she…
New member asking for help
Hello everyone, I don't know where to start. My father was diagnosed with NSC stage 3A lung cancer in June. I moved back to Michigan to help my sister take care of him and spend time with both him and my sister. He has had chemo, radiation, and now a lung lobectomy. He is 3 weeks post op. His oncologist said he is "cured".…
Wits end
First of all this is my first time posting but I have been reading thru these for 9 months and found it incredibly helpful. Now my husband was diagnosed with sinonasal cancer in April. Surgery followed by 7 weeks of chemo and radiation and continuing infusions 3 times a week into October a hour and a half away. New spot…
New mysteries website
Hi anyone have any information on this mysterious new website where you download your thought process and personality onto a digital avatar that comes alive when you pass. Apparently the site is being tested using 100 volunteers from one of the big charities anyone knows anything about this please let me know also do you…
angry,sad,daily life vs big picture :(
I find myself working full time, then working full time at home to take care of everything he used to ..but has since stopped ..and then also handle all the medical info, visits, etc. I can't say that I do not find time for myself because I do. It's one thing I read early on that was a must to do for ones self. I have…
The dreaded waiting period
This may be the wrong forum to post, and if it is forgive me. My husband was diagnosed early this year with stage 3 kidney cancer. The kidney was removed and we were doing great until this last scan. The scan showed a lesion on his back. Additional testing is needed to determine what this is. If it is cancer then it has…
Caregiver to boyfriend with Lymphoma
Hi all, My boyfriend is 26 and was diagnosed in October with a rare T Cell Lymphoma. I am a single mom of two boys and have a full time job. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost two years. Before his diagnosis I was thinking I was ready to move in with him and saw a future with him. In what seems like an…
What to get someone going through chemo/radiation?
I just posted a question in the oral cancer section and I thought maybe I should check this forum as you may have done it for a loved one. My Father in Law just had cancer surgery and had his jaw bone removed. He is going through chemo and radiation tomorrow. I am going to visit him and wanted to know if I can purchase…
First time posting
Hello, I am sitting right now at the hospital, watching my wife, my Love, my Light fade into darkness. She was diagnosed over a year ago with a particularly nasty case of AML. In the end, a nasty case of GVHD did her in. I am surrounded by friends and family and yet, I feel alone. I wish I could lay down with her so she…
when is it time for inpaitent care
looking for advise on how to help care for father in law who lives alone we are dealing with state insurance and getting the fast answers that are no help
New to forum...daughter has breast cancer
being a caregiver for my mother is making me feel resentful and angry..
my mother has gbm grade 4...it has always just been me and her...i have 1 bro and 2 sisters all older...but they kind of put caring for her all on me probably because im the youngest and since she lives with me and im not married and dont have kids..they all are married with families...in the beginning it was hard finidng…
Dying spouse hates me now.
My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lung and brain cancer with multiple brain tumors on July 14th, and is now in the end of life stages. He has daily gone downhill these last two weeks, and can no longer stand up, even with help, and either can’t, or won’t talk to me. He has quit eating a couple of days ago, and barely…
Caregiver and tired
Mom was diagnosed with breast cancer in April just before her 72nd birthday. Dad had a stroke a year earlier. I'm worn out. I'm getting behind in the housework. I try to do the right thing-after all, they took care of me when I was actively bipolar. Yet I end up feeling like nothing more than a good girl. Brother is too…
The beginning and not sure what to expect.
My dad just got diagnosed with stage IV melanoma last month after breaking his femur due to a tumor that had weakedned it. It feels like we've been getting information piecemeal and we're at the point where they're trying to figure out what kind of treatment he is a candidate for. It's been my sister and I that have taken…
Advice on newly diagnosed bf
Hello everyone!! I wanted some advice for the situation with my bf. Doctors accidentally found tumors and they were removed. (I told him it was God’s will that they were found by mistake) He told me everything was fine. About a month after the surgery he started acting strange after just meeting my kids and I thought he…
Not sure what to do
This is my first post here, so my apologies if it is not in the right place. My mother was diagnosed with Stage 4 ovarian cancer a few years ago. At the time of diagnosis she had stopped eating and it took a long time before she was accuarately diagnosed and agreed to start treatment. She lost a lot of weight and was on…
I have one nerve...
PSW, scheduled for three hours tonight, phoned to say she'd be here i 15 minutes BUT has a "heavy cold" and will try not to give it to my sister. Said she was actually not feeling well when here last night. WTF? Why, I asked, did you not call this morning for a sub? Oh, you'll never get a sub on a holiday weekend, she…
Pushed to my limits
First time posting... Probably should have saught help years ago. I met my wife almost 8 years ago, she had multiple cancer spots and thankfully some have been successfully defeated. She takes her meds but doesnt talk about it... Only to remind me in an argument that she has cancer... Thinking i forgot. I have sacrificed…
Is it just me?
Hi, it's late, I am tired and can't fall asleep. my life has turn upside down since my husband was diagnosed with two cancers since December of 2016. Parotid gland and rectal. a couple weeks before that I had decided to go back to school and become a hairdresser. The whole project is put on the back burner. I decided my…
Treatment is done...feeling more stressed now
My husband just finished his treatment for stage 3 rectal cancer. He had 28 days of raditation and chemo, surgery which ended in permanent colostomy and then more radiation. He had his ct scans done and things look good at this point. This has been a journey to say the least. My issue right now is being critical of…
Lost Wife
My 36 year old husband has stage 4 esophageal/gastric cancer. It's been less than 1 year since the first cancer cells were found. He had lost 20 lbs out of nowhere, so eventually his esophagus was biopsied. Since then, it's been the same story as everyone else. J tube, chemo, surgeries, IV food, side effects, etc. I find…
How to handle "I won't be around for that"
My husband has Stage 4 prostate cancer with metastasis happening quickly to several organs, and is now exhausting treatments. I think we're looking at a year or so. I'd like some advice on how to respond when he says things like, "It is probably my last Christmas" or "I probably won't be around for that". Lately, nearly…
Hard to watch
I seem to be the only one here. Makes sense - after 2am here in Ottawa. Sitting by my sister's bedside. Gave her meds (PO) at 1am, decided to sit with her until she fell asleep. Fifteen minutes later, vomiting. She's resting now - hurts to talk - doesn't want replacement meds subQ just yet. She's palliative but some days…
spouse diagnosed eight months ago with metastasized small cell lung cancer
I have a lot of sensitive questions to ask about this disease that are hard to ask in front of my husband at doctor appointments. Any suggestions? Have any of you found support groups to be helpful for caregivers?

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