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Scared and Confussed
My wife was diagnosed with Vulvar cancer about a month ago and im still trying to process everything, im angry, im scared, i dont know what to do,,, anyone have any advice?
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Child Care for Patient
My SIL is a stay at home dad undergoing chemo. He needs help with childcare for infant. Sometimes at short notice. Suggestions on how to find help. $ is limited.
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Bladder cancer
My 86 dad has bladder and lung cancer they is nothing else they can do.for him and he has been having blood clots in urine making it hard to urinate he is on hospice they irrigate his bladder its so hard to watch him be sick he was a true mountain man loved hiking finding waterfalls and loved nature he waljed three miles a…
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angry husband
I can not imagine what anyone feels when the doctor says those three dreaded words "you have cancer". I only know what I as a spouse and caregiver felt... devistated. That was 4 years ago. My husband of 5 years (at the time) called me at work to tell me his dr had just explained to him he did not have pneumonia as…
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Concerned about my dear father and doing this all alone
Hello everyone I'm new here and my name is Sean. My dad finished his treatment about 2 1/2 weeks ago(rad and chemo). He's throwing up non stop either in my care and at his rehab facility and now at the hospital he was transferred to(high temp and high hear rate plus he just got pneumonia). I'm at my wits end in what to do.…
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Is Chemo Dangerous for Caregivers?
My partner's doctors have told us to be careful around her tears or sweat when she has been given chemotherapy in the last 48 hours becuase it could cause chemo burn or be harmful to other people. At the same time, they say it's fine for me to hug and touch her as long as she isn't sweating heavily. She doesn't trust her…
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Anger/Stress/Overwhelmed/In-Over My Head
couldn't figure out how to delete my post, so I'm only overwriting.
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I feel dead inside...
My husbands cancer has been over (the docs told him there was only a 5 percent chance of it ever coming back) had and neck cancer. He sits all day long, his teeth are gone, yet he refuses to go and get any dentistry done. He has always been difficult to live with, emotionally abusive. He was so mean to mean during the…
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New to caregiving
Hi, I am new to this site and new to being a caregiver for someone with cancer. My mom has had two types if cancer in the last year. First she had lung cancer, which they removed part of her lung for that one and it is totaly gone but it was surgery and done. Now she is battling esphogeal cancer and this time she has to…
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How do you help a cancer patient who is losing their will to live?
My father was diagnosed with stage 4 rectal cancer in July 2020, with mets on his lungs. He was told he had 3-6months to live without treatment or 3-5 years with. He began having trouble relieving his bowels in December of 2019. In June he passed out outside our home, when taken to the er they discovered a large brain…
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Stage 4 & not the woman I married anymore
Omg what is going on? Married 24 years,the last three have been tough. Midlife crisis? Fighting? Then she was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer only theee weeks ago. Inoperable, mets to liver, lungs, spine,adrenal glands and 9 inch tumor in her chest that's strangling her bronchial tubes were getting radiochemo but…
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Living with an abusive cancer patient/survivor
My boyfriend has had cancer (skull-base chondrosarcoma) since he was 13 years old (he is turning 40 this year). Because of cancer he has had more than 18 surgeries and radiations. He has lost one eye, forehead bone, eye socket, lost the ability to blink, lost ability to produce tears, lived with severe pain, has to take…
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Anyone else feel totally numb
Hi all, My husband was diagnosed with rectal cancer in Dec 2016. Metastized to liver and lungs June 2018. Has has surgery, chemo, radiation, chemo, more chemo and now on an immunotherapy trial. In 2018 he had a number of small bowel blockages that resulted in hospitalizations....after being taken to the hospital in the…
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Patients rights -
requesting a move to another hospital . Is there a form in ontario to do this?
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Caregiving to 2nd Spouse (1st died in2003)Caregiving and Upcoming Hospice Care
Hello, I stumbled across this site today...I am currently caring for my 2nd spouse who has leukemia. He will be entering hospice care soon. My first husband died in 2003 from lung cancer, leaving me to raise 2 children. The children are grown and on their own so this situation is different, but I'm finding I'm struggling…
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New here, partner diagnosed with TC
Hello, I just created my account because my boyfriend of 2.5 years was diagnosed with testicular cancer yesterday and he's getting surgery to remove the testicle in 2 days. I know TC is one of the more easily treatable diagnoses so I'm trying to be as calm and positive as I can but I'm still terrified. Because of COVID, I…
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Caregivers, can you give me some advice?
Dear Caregivers, whatever would we do without you? So, I am heading down the road for needing care, not right away, but by the middle or end of 2020. As I think about how to do this, let me say I am a cancer warrior since 1997. My children were in their 20's then, and I managed to not need any care except during and after…
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Sister's cancer is back
Hi all. My sister's leukemia came back again. She was first diagnosed in 2015, went through chemo / maintenance chemo for the next 4 years, and was finally starting to live her life again when it came back last month. She's pretty young - only now in her early 30's - and it kills me that this is happening to her. I wish…
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What can we do to make caregivers forum more active?
I am guilty of not participating very much. I know it bothers me when I respond to someone and they dont follow up with a comment, to tell us how they are doing. I wish that didn't bother me, but it does. I know we do need to be careful here because what we write is public. I want to feel a fellowship with other caregivers…
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I have basically had a mental break down
Hello, I am a husband of a cancer patient who has been battling stage three cervical cancer. It has really been extremely difficult. Our marriage has been a little rocky for the ten years we have been together. There was an infidelity in the very early part of our relationship (we were not married at the time when my…
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Sister’s behavior
My sister has stage IV cancer. The doctors have run out of options for her. She has a great deal of emotions which is expected. We as her family understand this and try to support her, however some of them are directed towards us. When she is angry, she becomes verbally abusive. When her behavior is called to her…
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...dang
this was originally a topic on how rough it is and how you get treated but I had to delete most of the subject matter for privacy reasons. best of luck to all in this battle. it's brutal and they can be downright mean. she says absolutely horrible things to me like you will read below. it wasnt that bad initially but it…
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Cancer may be wrecking my marriage
I love my wife more than ever, and I am afraid that though her cancer prognosis is fairly good (keeping our fingers crossed), I may now lose my marriage. In both my wife's and my opinion, we had an excellent marriage before the cancer. Now she tells me constantly that I "can't understand" what she is going through, that I…
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Caregiver-Spouse with cancer is mad at me
In October I posted the same subject; but now that my wife is at the end of her chemo I now need some caregiver support and advise. After her last chemo, she has portrayed me as "not being there" for her, being basically selfish, and delegating duties to others. She said she just wanted me to be there for her. I did go on…
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Support for Caregivers
My mom was diagnosed with colon cancer which has spread to her liver on February 1. She stayed with us until Father's Day so I could care for her while I was pregnant (baby girl born May 2) and caring for my 2 year old son! Talk about stress! I'm glad to say that she is doing ok on chemo and can take care of herself now…
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Dont know what to do!
My mom was diagnosed with stage 4c colon cancer this time last year. It had metastasized to her liver. She did a years worth of chemo. 2 weeks ago we found out it wasn't working. She is now in hospice care at home and waiting to get into a nursing home. She is on some pain meds and has severe anxiety. I am trying…
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Feeling pushed out
My spouse was recently diagnosed with stage 3 cancer. It has been an emotional rollercoaster, because the diagnosis was so unexpected. He went to the ER for breathing troubles, and we thought he might have pneumonia but it turned out to be much more serious. He had already been to several doctors who ignored his concerns…
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Exhausted, Needs Support
My grandma has had stage 4 lung cancer since May of this year and it is steadily getting worse since a tumor is causing fluid to build up by one lung. In the beginning my mom promised I wouldn't go through it alone this time because I live with my grandma and was her full time caregiver at one point. Now I've grown older,…
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I filed for divorce
Hi all, Like the headline says, I filed for divorce a few weeks ago. I am the main caregiver to my 29 year old husband. A week after we were married Mark had a seizure in Sept 08 and a MRI revealed a brain tumor. It turned out to be a grade 3 oligoastrocytoma. You all know the feeling and emotions that come with a cancer…
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Husband has cancer; how do I handle my feelings?
I’m not sure where to start but my husband is 33 and was diagnosed with Stage IV appendix cancer in November 2018. It was a rough 7 months while he was healing from a big surgery then chose to go through intravenous chemo but he has not had recent growth and is taking the pill form as “maintenance” chemo now. I am super…