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Great to connect
It was so gratifying to see responses to my first post. I have really needed to connect with other caregivers for awhile, and this is helping me deal with the constant stress. Right now my husband is going thru a "delirium" phase....I think it is called Sundowner's Syndrome. Too many pain and other meds, and now he is…
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32 year old daughter diagnosed with breast cancer
My daughter was just diagnosed with breast cancer. She's a single mom of my four year old grandson. I will be going to the doctor with her this week so for now I don't have a lot of information. She is going to have a lumpectomy but they are giving her some heavy duty meds for a month before hand. I don't even know what…
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Mom's First Day of Chemo....
Today is my mom's first day of chemo. She was diagnosed with Breast cancer and had a mascetomy last month. I've felt really detached from the whole process, she is doing fantastic and in good spirits the chemo is just preventive but i dont know what to expect next.. Looking for some good words and experiences of someone…
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Father w/Multiple Myeloma, Dementia, and Peripheral Neuropathy
I have a difficult time asking for help, even as I write this I probably have deleted and retyped 100 times. I'm not even sure where to begin, I know this cancer is incurable, my Dad's future is inevitable. However, to look at it negatively is silly, because we all have the same future and none of us know when not even my…
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Extended Family Advice
My father was diagnosed with Stage IV colon cancer a year and a half ago. Previous to this diagnosis and increasingly more persistently afterward we encouraged and pleaded with him to move from Ohio where he lived alone to North Carolina with my husband and I. Understandably he resisted and wanted to live independently for…
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When you live a thousand miles away...
Any tips for what family members can do to be supportive, if they live a thousand miles away? Also, i wanted to visit, but they think chemo might make my father's white blood cell count go down, and so since I have a 4yo and 6yo they don't think we should visit (kids being germier than adults and all that). Do a lot of…
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When you feel unappreciated/taken for granted by a parent with cancer
My mother was diagnosed with breast cancer last year. I give up what would have been the start of a new career to move back to a state/city that I absolutely hate to be there for her. I have been there from the beginning of chemotherapy to surgery. I am an only child so it has been me doing it all. What bothers me the most…
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Mums cancer diagnosis
Hello, My mum (65) was just diagnosed with stage 2 HCC. She's never really drank and to get this diagnosis has been a shocker. I am so angry and so confused. I don't know what the future holds. She wants me to move back home. I just finished college and was looking forward to working and applying to graduate programs. I…
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My Story
Hi all, Just joined the forums today, looking for some help with questions (posted elsewhere). Long and short of it. My father has been diagnosed with Stage 4 lung cancer with bone metastasis. He is 71. I am 45, and the only daughter in the family. Parents divorced when I was a baby. Lost my wonderful step-father 9 years…
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Won't eat or drink
Hi, I've just discovered this forum, and have been reading about others experiences. However, I haven't found any posts that are similar to what I'm currently experiencing. My Mom has stage 4 lung cancer, she is EGFR+ and is currently on afatinib. Since her diagnosis, her appetite has been poor, but in the last few weeks…
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I'm a college student and my mom has cancer
So, my mom has cancer. She hasn't been fully diagnosed with a particular type but it is cancer. While she was in the hospital, there wasn't much I could do. I am trying to maintain my classes, help my family, and maintain a semblence of a life. But more and more, I feel like im slipping away in all of the daily living.…
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Hi....need to vent.....too much going on...(long rant)
Hi, I'm relatively new to the caregivers field. The wife was diagnosed with 1st stage, triple-negative breast cancer about 6 weeks ago. since then, she has had successful surgery, just completed her localized(internal) radiation, and is set to heal for around 3-4 weeks before starting TC chemo(4 doses over 12 weeks) All in…
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My Best Friend Has Cancer
On Monday (3 days ago), my best friend in the entire world -- who is like my big brother, my protector, my confidante -- who I have spoken to daily for years now...found out he has Lymphoma. The same cancer that killed his aunt last year and is currently killing his father. I feel like a selfish idiot, because I am falling…
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Dad's Feeling Sorry for Himself... Advice?
Hi, so my dad had his third major surgery in three years March 31, he was diagnosed with cholangiocarcinoma (liver bile duct cancer) February 2013. This surgery he had a 21" incision from sternum to below belly button, made to perform exploratory searches to find whether or not he had more cancer or scar tissue causing…
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Hello! I'm New To The Group
I'm a newbie to this fabulous forum! My husband, just 48 years old, was diagnosed with colon and omentum cancer in August 2016. We started off with our best foot forward, knowing we would beat this thing, and now have hit a brick wall and seem to be at each others throats. Just when I thought no one could possibly…
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My wife has stage IV endometrial cancer, and I cannot stand her
I have been with my wife for 16 years. Together we raised a blended family (I have one son and two stepsons). I raised her kids, shopped, cooked and cleaned. I helped the kids with their homework, and tutored one with a learning disability. He is a good boy, and he is graduating from college next month. All this, while…
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What to Expect?
Hi there - My mother (55) was diagnosed with Stage 3 Stomach Cancer. She also has cancer in the lymph nodes around the stomach. I am 35. My dad and I are now her "caregivers" She had her porta-cath put in yesterday. Today the radiologist said that we will do 5 days per week for 5-6 weeks, and the chemo as well. My mom…
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Support/advice needed- my father's battle with pleural mesothelioma
I'm on the brink of mental collapse. I don't know how/if this will help but even temporarily, I just want to offload in the form of written word vomit.. The backstory: My dad was diagnosed with advanced malignant pleural mesothelioma in July 2016, despite having never worked in construction or served in the military. He is…
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Orange County, CA
Hello, I'm 43 years old and my husband has stage 4 lymphoma. We have been battling it for 3 years and it just keeps spreading. He is very sick. Our life consists of immunotheraphy and Dr. appointments. He sleeps a lot and I don't leave the house much because I feel like I need to be here if he needs me. I don't really have…
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His family hates me!
I have been here for 2 years, a yr. seeking a diagnoses, 7 Rad/Chemo weeks, and now 6 weeks post, he is way sicker now than he ever was during treatment. His Ex-wife of 8 yrs, took over all medical care, and even went on vacation with him, prior to starting treatment, his adult children have come and thrown me out of his…
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What to do (cook?) for someone recovering from chemo?
Hello everyone! I hope I'm posting this in the right section. Anyway, my best friend's mother has been battleing cancer (lung cancer I'm fairly certain) for some time now, and she just finished her chemo maybe a week or so ago. She actually finished one session early because the treatment was taking its toll on her (she…
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So tired and feeling bad for feeling that way....
Hello, I am turning 51 tomorrow and my husband is 47. We have a 14 yr old and an 11 yr old. My husband was diagnosed with rectal cancer on December 12th. He just finished chemo and radiation and will have surgery around April 26th and then four more months of chemo (pump 2 days a week). Doctor's anticipate him to be…
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Joining your group
My husband has metastatic esophageal cancer and is quickly losing the battle. We have 3 children, and I am truly at my wit's end. Between trying to work, caring for him, being a mom and having my heart break every single day watching my husband fight yet not winning (when he was never sick a single day in his life prior to…
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Please don't judge me - a caregiver's story
It has been nearly 6 months since my father was diagnosed with Stage 4 Prostate Cancer that has metastasized to his lungs and ribs. My parents were not prepared for this...they had no insurance and no idea what to do. I worked tirelessly to get them covered on Medicaid, get them to the right specialist, and arrange…
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Mom with Stage 4 BC on rad, extremely restless
Hello, I've been reading this very helpful forum and benefitting from information and camaraderie among caregivers, and I've finally joined in. My Mom was diagnosed early last year with Stage 2 BC, Her2+. She refused chemotherapy and other "standard" medical treatments. By November, her cancer progressed to Stage 4. She's…
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End of life hospice
So I know people can be on hospice for a long time. My mom recently went on hospice but she was already in pretty rough shape. At home she was in such horrible pain that she was needing a lot more morphine than was prescribed. The night before we finally decided to go back to the hopital, she was asking for morphine every…
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CUP (Cancer with unknown Primary)
Is there an area for discusing CUP? For help in caring for a loved one with CUP?
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Feeling Lost
My husband went for chemo this last time and was told his platelets were way to low to receive treatment. Now we wait two more weeks to see if they go up so he can receive his next treatment. With all this going on last January he had gotten a mesh put into his belly and that has been causing him pain. So, between the…
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Diet
New to the board, as my partner was recently diagnosed with TNB ,had the mastectomy, and the port installed. Chemo begins this week. Am trying to get her to eat a bit healthier to build immunity and strength. Meeting resistance at every turn. I know this is not my battle but it does affect me. Spending money like it was…
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2 Cancers
Was not sure where to post this. My wife has stage IV leiomyosarcoma and has been through the ringer over the last 20 years. Just recently it has gotten more aggressive. Now to add to the fun, last week she had a tumor removed from her rectum. Now she has high grade invasive adenocarcinoma. Anyone else fighting a war on 2…