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Pain management through diet
Dear brave soliders (all caregivers) I am new at this and would probably remind you of your selves at some point or another, researching everything and wanting dad to try every gimmick or idea under the sun. But I know I need to sift and do the RIGHT thing. He is in much pain currently on 30mg morphine twice a day and…
Please Help Me.!
My name is Brittaney and i am 16.! My mom was just diagnosed with uterine cancer and im terrified.! Her first chemo is on the 4th of January and I dont know what to expect.! My mom is all that i have.! My dad died of pancreatic cancer 11 years ago and he was miserable yet he fought so hard for his life so he could raise…
My first Christmas in Heaven
Just had to share this poem with all of you, My First Christmas in Heaven by Wanda Bencke I see the countless Christmas Trees Around the world below With tiny lights Like heaven's stars Reflecting on the snow The sight is so spectacular Please wipe away that tear For I am spending Christmas With Jesus Christ this year I…
Camp Hope for cancer survivors ages 7-17
Camp Hope, sponsored by the American Cancer Society is a weeklong camp for kids who have or had cancer, ages 7-17, and their siblings, free of charge. Located in Northern RI, transportation is not provided, but welcomes patients from all over New England. For more information www.cancer.org/camphoperi.
Young People Who Have Been Caregivers For Their Parents/Relatives
Hi. My name is Ang and I am 21 and I am from Newfoundland. I have never had cancer but I was a caregiver for both of my parents... with my mom I was 18 and 19 with my dad. My mom is doing ok now but my dad has sinced passed away. I was just wondering if there were any other people out there that have been in a similar…
New to Caregivers Board..Been on the Ovarian Cancer Board-
Ok, I am tired today. Mom was diagnosed July 25th with ovarian cancer. She's had 3 chemos, major debulking, and now is on a taxol cisplatin regimen that nearly killed her last time. No exaggeration, she had to be hospitalized to get through it. She receives her next cisplatin tomorrow. She's in a horrible mood and I can't…
Terminal Diagnosis & Giving Things Away
For those of you who have lost a spouse or have a spouse that has been told there is nothing more that can be done, have you had to deal with your spouse giving their possessions away? My husband was told on October 1 that there is nothing mroe they can do for him and we have hospice in. We don't know how much time he has…
Any Young Caregivers Out There?
I'm a 23 yr. old who dropped out of college to take care of my mother who has stage 4 ovarian cancer. I have recently realized that while my mom is a fighter, there is no end in sight for the chemo. Her doctor told us that she should receive all of the chemo she can possibly handle in an effort to buy her time. My father…
First holiday without Jack
Well it was the first holiday without Jack , It was hard, Everytime I made something I just thought how much Jack would love it, I hope everyone is doing well and had a nice Thanksgiving and I am blessed to have all of ya support here . love patty
Appendiceal Cancer Caregiver
My husband was just diagnosed after appendectomy in August. He had surgery and they found widespread cancer. He starts chemo Monday and I am a renal transplant recipient. I'm having a difficult time coping and I am so sad. He is my best friend and my caregiver. I am happy to help him, but I can't imagine how to survive…
Hospice
Our onc. is calling Hospice tomorrow. I knew this day would come, but that doesn't make it any easier. We have talked about end of life issues in the past 6 years. Now we have to get down to the nitty gritty. We have been blessed by this gift of time, a wonderful and supportive family, and a supportive church family. We…
Chemo No. 5
Tomorrow is round 5 of 8 of chemo for my wife. At the half way mark last time the symptoms lasted longer. She's really getting weary and although we are on the downhill slide, it gets harder and harder to endure for her. I consider it an honor to be amongst all of you who are so strong and such inspirations. During her…
confused
Im trying I just seem to be losing everything, when Jack got sick I had to give up my apartment, now I am stuck in a situation and no way out, I made the promise to Jack to take care of his dad, but his dad is feaking me out, and his daughter says she tried of dealing with his behavior, He is making inapproiate remarks and…
Emotional Rollercoaster
This week has been insane. First last Thursday the nurse saw my husband and told me she is concerned that the tumor on his neck was ready to break though the skin and also that the tumor in his mouth is getting larger each time she sees him and she’s concerned it will rupture and we won’t be able to stop the bleeding so…
Chemo brain
My husband with colorectal cancer going through chemo has Chemo Brain. I am near tears trying to communicate with him. He snaps at me, thinks he told me something, doesn't remember things I say. I have had to come up with new communications skills and I can't always remember to do them which frustrates me and ultimately…
Actively Dying
Hospice listed my husband as "Actively Dying" on Monday and had to sedate him because he was so agitated and in so much pain. I asked what Actively Dying meant and was handed a booklet and was told it is all explained in this booklet. Well this booklet explained all these signs and symptoms of this actively dying thing…
2 week
Well it has bee 2 weeks since jack passing, It is not getting any easier I cant believe I am taking a job that starts tomorrow as a caretake for someone else, It is so hard Im just having a hard time to do anything, but look at pictures of jack, and go to different sites Im going to try to keep on this site and maybe I can…
how wise are you??
anyone out there who has walk this road ? more than ten years ago i was my brothers caregiver back in 93 when it was new, at least new to me. he died from colon cancer (lynch syndrome) at age 33.he was father of 2 young boys. i had to fill in often. 5yrs ago i was dianosed late stage 3 and survived. my mom had same illness…
Difficulty breathing, need some direction
My husband has end stage laryngeal cancer. He had trach tube put in Sept. to help with breathing. Lymph nodes in neck and collarbone growing. Trach tube changed last week by Dr. There was some bleeding. Dr. said everything looked good. What does that mean? He never commented on the lymph nodes. I don't have much faith in…
ashes
Well I had to pick up Jack ashes it seems to be finalzed that Jack is really gone, and but I still wait for him to come home and I was a little upset with a comment that Jacks brother said to his sister, he said I know we promised Jack that we would help Patty but we have to think about the family, Most all you were…
How do I do this?
I'm 27 yrs old and caring for my mother who has cancer of the tongue. She just recently had her third surgery and will start radiation in 5-6 weeks. My dad and grandparents and I are working together- taking shifts at the hospital with mom. In addition to that, running errands for everyone, and trying to keep on top of my…
confused
Im trying I just seem to be losing everything, when Jack got sick I had to give up my apartment, now I am stuck in a situation and no way out, I made the promise to Jack to take care of his dad, but his dad is feaking me out, and his daughter says she tried of dealing with his behavior, He is making inapproiate remarks and…
time to make the quality vs quantity decision
We have had a massive 24 hours. Paramjeet (my hubby) has been deteriorating rapidly since last Wednesday so we were expecting bad news from the scan results (for the scan he had last Friday) but we weren't exactly prepared for what we got. There is a recurrence in the original site and the new growth has grown and several…
everyone is judging me
I ready to call it quits, if i cry to much im told pull your self together read a grieving book, I plan on going out with my friends to see Jacks old band im told im cheating on Jack I give up , I promise Jack I would stay here and take care of his dad but it has his sister stimplatinons Im ready to just give up stay in…
thank you
I want to Thank all of you for your support this site has gotten me through alot of stuff, and I will continue to sty on becasue maybe I can help someone else, Im so use to getting up so early with Jack so here I am trying to figure out what to do, We are not having any services till Feb when the other family ( who was not…
i cant do this
I dont think I can do this without Jack We creamated him this morning, it is real now he is gone and there are people causing so much drama and Jack was here to stop all the stupidess, Im trying so hard but I am actally sleeping with his picture just to think he is here with me, I lost my soul mate, how do I go day by day…
I have dibs on the most stubborn partner
Just letting off steam. Hubby was put on dex by the oncologist about a week or so ago and has been having chest pains for the last few days. His left arm has even become numb but he will not go to the doctor. He insists he still has the fight in him i.e. he is not giving up. I have made an appointment for this evening and…
arrangements
well we had to make the arrangement for Jack, I got to see him one more time and kiss his forehead, I love him and miss him so much I am so lonely and in the middle of all of us grieving I had to deal with wife /ex wife, I never got a chance to file the papers so she made a scene and called the funeral home and wanted to…
My love is gone
Jack went home this morning, at 9:30 , Im going to miss the most amazing man I have ever met, he truly showed me how to love again, I feel so numb there are people here but I feel so alone, Now Im in Texas all alone, I dont even know what to do, I want Jack he was the stong one he was my support, I will love you forever…
its so unfair
I feel like I have been cheated with time with Jack, We meet in June 2009 and he was dx in Aug 2009, and I decided to stay and we fell so much in love, We had such a short time and most of the time was fighting cancer, The world lost an amazing drummer, and I lost the 2ns chance of love, so where do I go from here, My…

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