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Rumblings of SUICIDE
I've been waiting to write this for a while, hoping the nonsensical threats of suicide in my house would stop. But they don't. My husband was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer in 2005. That year he had two surgeries. He was clean for four years and it showed up again a few months ago. He went through his third surgery…
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Mesothelioma
A loved one has just been diagnosed with mesothelioma. It is mestatic and epithiliod. Does anyone have any experience with this type of cancer? WE see the oncologist on Jan 12, but the pathology report and the surgeon seem to suggest pallitative care. Surgery is not an option. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions? Cindy
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feeling lonely, stressed, and scared
My husband has testicular cancer and is currently undergoing a very aggresive cycle of chemo. It is taking a toll on him in a very hard way. He is 29 years old and usually very active, he can't do much but sleep and barely stay awake long enough to watch our 2 little girls play. He used to get down and play with them from…
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When they won't talk to someone?
Hi all, I'm wondering how you help your loved one who refuses to talk to anyone who might be able to help? My mom got a diagnosis of stage IV breast cancer with mets to at least 4 places back in October. She had never been sick before this, and we had no idea anything was wrong. She's undergone radiation therapy on spinal…
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How fast can it spread?
Mom had a pet scan two weeks ago. Results were that her left chest was lite (Stage 4 Breast on the left side) and a verterbra in her neck. The oncologist said "We're really really going to hope it's arthritis." Oncologist has told us all along she has a very agressive cancer. Many complications later, port went in, chemo…
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one year down.
hey, everybody. i have never posted on a discussion board before, but tonight is an anniversary of sorts. so, i just wanted to do some sharing with some people about the love i have for my husband. one year ago tonight was the beginning of what will prove to be a long road for us. actually, it seems that it has already…
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We need help.....
My dad has stage 4 nslc with copd and blood clots in neck and shoulder. He is 74 years old and was just recently diagnoised. He has been through 10 rounds of radiation and just finished his first round of chemo. His doctor is only going to give him 3 rounds of chemo, one day every three weeks. My problem is he has so much…
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Very Frustrated
My daughter seems to be very angry. I find it very hard to deal with. She lives with her father up North and I travel there to see her. The environment that she is in is in my opinion not a good one. She has chosen to live with her father. I have told her that I would love for her to live with me. The area in which she…
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How do you know when it is time to stop treatment?
My dad is 72 and has been battling colon cancer for 3 years, mets to the liver and now the lungs. He was doing great until he had a stroke May 19th. The stroke didn't paralyze him so we thought he dodged a bullet but in fact, it was the game changer. He never regained his strength and his cancer moved to his lungs. Cure is…
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New caregivers job
Well I took a job at Christus HomeHealth Care as a caretakere, Im starting to think this is my calling, I don't know, I now have 2 patients, and yea one of them is a cancer patient, She is a very nice lady, this is her 2nd time with cancer, I have mixed feelings about this, and the thing is I have not been able to sleep…
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Thank You
Thank you to everyone on the board. I just wanted to let you know that sadly, my husband passed away at 3:00 a.m. this morning. I don't think I could have gotten through the past several months without all of you.
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Caregiving your domestic partner
Just wondering if anyone else here is caregiving their domestic partner? Lisa
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Pain management through diet
Dear brave soliders (all caregivers) I am new at this and would probably remind you of your selves at some point or another, researching everything and wanting dad to try every gimmick or idea under the sun. But I know I need to sift and do the RIGHT thing. He is in much pain currently on 30mg morphine twice a day and…
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Please Help Me.!
My name is Brittaney and i am 16.! My mom was just diagnosed with uterine cancer and im terrified.! Her first chemo is on the 4th of January and I dont know what to expect.! My mom is all that i have.! My dad died of pancreatic cancer 11 years ago and he was miserable yet he fought so hard for his life so he could raise…
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My first Christmas in Heaven
Just had to share this poem with all of you, My First Christmas in Heaven by Wanda Bencke I see the countless Christmas Trees Around the world below With tiny lights Like heaven's stars Reflecting on the snow The sight is so spectacular Please wipe away that tear For I am spending Christmas With Jesus Christ this year I…
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Camp Hope for cancer survivors ages 7-17
Camp Hope, sponsored by the American Cancer Society is a weeklong camp for kids who have or had cancer, ages 7-17, and their siblings, free of charge. Located in Northern RI, transportation is not provided, but welcomes patients from all over New England. For more information www.cancer.org/camphoperi.
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Young People Who Have Been Caregivers For Their Parents/Relatives
Hi. My name is Ang and I am 21 and I am from Newfoundland. I have never had cancer but I was a caregiver for both of my parents... with my mom I was 18 and 19 with my dad. My mom is doing ok now but my dad has sinced passed away. I was just wondering if there were any other people out there that have been in a similar…
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New to Caregivers Board..Been on the Ovarian Cancer Board-
Ok, I am tired today. Mom was diagnosed July 25th with ovarian cancer. She's had 3 chemos, major debulking, and now is on a taxol cisplatin regimen that nearly killed her last time. No exaggeration, she had to be hospitalized to get through it. She receives her next cisplatin tomorrow. She's in a horrible mood and I can't…
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Terminal Diagnosis & Giving Things Away
For those of you who have lost a spouse or have a spouse that has been told there is nothing more that can be done, have you had to deal with your spouse giving their possessions away? My husband was told on October 1 that there is nothing mroe they can do for him and we have hospice in. We don't know how much time he has…
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Any Young Caregivers Out There?
I'm a 23 yr. old who dropped out of college to take care of my mother who has stage 4 ovarian cancer. I have recently realized that while my mom is a fighter, there is no end in sight for the chemo. Her doctor told us that she should receive all of the chemo she can possibly handle in an effort to buy her time. My father…
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First holiday without Jack
Well it was the first holiday without Jack , It was hard, Everytime I made something I just thought how much Jack would love it, I hope everyone is doing well and had a nice Thanksgiving and I am blessed to have all of ya support here . love patty
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Appendiceal Cancer Caregiver
My husband was just diagnosed after appendectomy in August. He had surgery and they found widespread cancer. He starts chemo Monday and I am a renal transplant recipient. I'm having a difficult time coping and I am so sad. He is my best friend and my caregiver. I am happy to help him, but I can't imagine how to survive…
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Hospice
Our onc. is calling Hospice tomorrow. I knew this day would come, but that doesn't make it any easier. We have talked about end of life issues in the past 6 years. Now we have to get down to the nitty gritty. We have been blessed by this gift of time, a wonderful and supportive family, and a supportive church family. We…
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Chemo No. 5
Tomorrow is round 5 of 8 of chemo for my wife. At the half way mark last time the symptoms lasted longer. She's really getting weary and although we are on the downhill slide, it gets harder and harder to endure for her. I consider it an honor to be amongst all of you who are so strong and such inspirations. During her…
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confused
Im trying I just seem to be losing everything, when Jack got sick I had to give up my apartment, now I am stuck in a situation and no way out, I made the promise to Jack to take care of his dad, but his dad is feaking me out, and his daughter says she tried of dealing with his behavior, He is making inapproiate remarks and…
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Emotional Rollercoaster
This week has been insane. First last Thursday the nurse saw my husband and told me she is concerned that the tumor on his neck was ready to break though the skin and also that the tumor in his mouth is getting larger each time she sees him and she’s concerned it will rupture and we won’t be able to stop the bleeding so…
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Chemo brain
My husband with colorectal cancer going through chemo has Chemo Brain. I am near tears trying to communicate with him. He snaps at me, thinks he told me something, doesn't remember things I say. I have had to come up with new communications skills and I can't always remember to do them which frustrates me and ultimately…
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Actively Dying
Hospice listed my husband as "Actively Dying" on Monday and had to sedate him because he was so agitated and in so much pain. I asked what Actively Dying meant and was handed a booklet and was told it is all explained in this booklet. Well this booklet explained all these signs and symptoms of this actively dying thing…
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2 week
Well it has bee 2 weeks since jack passing, It is not getting any easier I cant believe I am taking a job that starts tomorrow as a caretake for someone else, It is so hard Im just having a hard time to do anything, but look at pictures of jack, and go to different sites Im going to try to keep on this site and maybe I can…
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how wise are you??
anyone out there who has walk this road ? more than ten years ago i was my brothers caregiver back in 93 when it was new, at least new to me. he died from colon cancer (lynch syndrome) at age 33.he was father of 2 young boys. i had to fill in often. 5yrs ago i was dianosed late stage 3 and survived. my mom had same illness…