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In Laws
How do you deal with the cancer patient's parents? The patient is my husband, and the issue is his mother. We've never been close, but apparently instead of the cancer bringing us together as a family, she's been taking everything I do as a personal insult. She's ignored all the positives, and apparently is only seeing…
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Boyfriend with cancer shutting me out
I'm at a complete loss for what to do. My boyfriend of two months informed me a few weeks ago that they found a spot near his brain stem. He's had cancer...testicular and then into his kidneys. I knew his history and I was concerned but we really feel like we've found our partner in life. I am 34, he is 39. So he had some…
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The roller coaster ride caused by decadron
This site has been a wonderful source of support for me during this time as the caregiver for my husband with brain cancer. This week has been an especially hard week so I hope it is ok that I vent..He had a biopsy a few weeks ago as the last MRI showed progression of the tumor despite the chemo therapy he was receiving.…
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Hospice reactions
On Friday the dr. will tell us that there is nothing else he can try that will work and he will suggest getting in touch with hospice. Don has fought very hard and is very tough. He has faced other health problems and always won. His positive attitude has slowly degraded as he feels worse, struggles to stop coughing, sees…
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Advice needed on finances and family
Don deserves better kids. Period. He has four kids. The oldest is genuinely nice (40), hard-working and rarely asks him for anything. Her brother (38) is charming, helpful and a leech if he can find blood. He's not greedy, exactly; he simply finds good excuses for not working, grows roots on people's couches and, I think,…
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depressed and don't know what to do
As my husband's illness (stage 4 EC)goes on, I get more depressed. He's completely shut me out in the process. On his better days, he prefers to spend time at the bar with people who have no positive expectations of him. On his days he's feeling bad, he snaps at me or makes demands to do stuff for him right away. The one…
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Does it get easier
They say each day gets easier, but i dont see that, i cry all the time, I went back to my old job but there are so many memories just from work, I use to rush home and Jack would be waiting for me, so i just want to know what happens to the caretaker once we lose our love ones, I have notice once Jack passed alot of the…
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Relays in Beecher
Hello to Everyone My name is Emma Barnes im 13 years old.I have an idea for Beecher,Illinois I just moved to Beecher in June,2009 but there is no relay for life. I got together with acouple of my friends and are hoping we could hold a relay. My friends and I have made some estimates and think the relay would be worth it.…
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I'm no good at this
My boyfriend just had his first scan yesterday and his doctor emailed his results. The doc says things look good, but I am furious that he is communicating this important news via email. The email also had a couple of typos, which led to some questions about what he was telling us. I also thought I would feel more…
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Hope Lodge
I have to bring my husband to a hospital in another state next week for treatment. They have set us up in the Hope Lodge, a free hotel for cancer patients. Has anyone stayed at one? The information says to bring your own food. It is a new facility, just wanted to know what to expect. Sheila
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manic depression and cancer
My husband was diagnosed with esophageal cancer (stage IV) more than a year ago. This diagnosis seems to have triggered manic symptoms that recurr whenever he is feeling physically good (recovered somewhat from treatment). It got to a point last year that he had to be hospitalized because he hadn't slept in several days…
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No so alone
Hello everyone, it's been a long time since I've posted. My husband was diagnosed in July of 2007 and he is currently losing his battle with colon cancer. I hope it's okay to post this - it seems that everyone is so positive and I don't want to be a downer. I want to start by saying that the reason for this post is that I…
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feeing bad about the way I feel
I feel really confused about the way i am feeling. I know there are a lot people who had a lot worse outcome than ours. In the end of November, right before Thanksgiving my husband went to have a small lesion that was possibly cancer removed from his kidney. The it all fell apart. The Dr came out and told me that while…
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having a hard time
I am 34 and my husband is 39 with stage 3c colon cancer. I feel very selfish for even saying this, but i feel so lonely. My husband show no affection. No touching, holding, kissing etc. Everyone tells me its the chemo, or the fact he has a illiostomy and feels gross and so on and so on. But to be honest it is making me…
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ENVIRONMENT, CHEMICALS AND CANCER
ENVIRONMEENT, CHEMICALS AND CANCER I wish to release the topic below for consideration and comments by different interested persons. A significant part of cancers are considered to be due to environmental factors. Recommendations in cancer management stress the need to make individual treatments or improving food intake or…
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Help getting back to mainstream after caregiving ends.
I am looking for help to make the transistion back into the mainstream after caregiving, grieving and most change towards a new normal have happened. It is 1-1/2 years since my mother died and I am still having trouble with sleep patterns. What was an adjustment to a 3-11AM sleep pattern to best care for her has become a…
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New to CSN
I'm new to this network. I'm anxious to meet others going through the overwhelming trials and tribulations of caring for a spouse with metastic renal cancer. Marty is newly diagnosed with his metastsis and, thus far, feeling ok. He recently started taking Sutent. Kay
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Feeling kind of blank, angry ...
Hi all. My names Aaron and I'm really new to all of this, so please forgive the lack of information and possibly understanding everything that's going on. My father was recently diagnosed with stage 3B lung cancer. I've been reading up on it and I've found out there are different types, but I'm not sure what type my father…
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Husband terminal, but wants a child
I'm sorry, I don't know exactly where to post this. My husband has Meso, and though we've been married for almost 13 years, we never had any children. Now that he's confronting this disease, which is very likely going to be terminal within the next few years, he's decided he really wants a child now. I absolutely feel this…
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Last days of good eats
I’m leaving Mom to the excellent care of my siblings for a few days next week, and I’d like to leave them a list of simple, soft semi-bland foods to provide. Mom has advanced ovarian cancer and seems to be flirting with an intestinal blockage. As long as I watch her diet she does okay, but she “tastes” restaurant food for…
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Rumblings of SUICIDE
I've been waiting to write this for a while, hoping the nonsensical threats of suicide in my house would stop. But they don't. My husband was diagnosed with small cell lung cancer in 2005. That year he had two surgeries. He was clean for four years and it showed up again a few months ago. He went through his third surgery…
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Mesothelioma
A loved one has just been diagnosed with mesothelioma. It is mestatic and epithiliod. Does anyone have any experience with this type of cancer? WE see the oncologist on Jan 12, but the pathology report and the surgeon seem to suggest pallitative care. Surgery is not an option. I don't know what to do. Any suggestions? Cindy
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feeling lonely, stressed, and scared
My husband has testicular cancer and is currently undergoing a very aggresive cycle of chemo. It is taking a toll on him in a very hard way. He is 29 years old and usually very active, he can't do much but sleep and barely stay awake long enough to watch our 2 little girls play. He used to get down and play with them from…
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When they won't talk to someone?
Hi all, I'm wondering how you help your loved one who refuses to talk to anyone who might be able to help? My mom got a diagnosis of stage IV breast cancer with mets to at least 4 places back in October. She had never been sick before this, and we had no idea anything was wrong. She's undergone radiation therapy on spinal…
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How fast can it spread?
Mom had a pet scan two weeks ago. Results were that her left chest was lite (Stage 4 Breast on the left side) and a verterbra in her neck. The oncologist said "We're really really going to hope it's arthritis." Oncologist has told us all along she has a very agressive cancer. Many complications later, port went in, chemo…
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one year down.
hey, everybody. i have never posted on a discussion board before, but tonight is an anniversary of sorts. so, i just wanted to do some sharing with some people about the love i have for my husband. one year ago tonight was the beginning of what will prove to be a long road for us. actually, it seems that it has already…
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We need help.....
My dad has stage 4 nslc with copd and blood clots in neck and shoulder. He is 74 years old and was just recently diagnoised. He has been through 10 rounds of radiation and just finished his first round of chemo. His doctor is only going to give him 3 rounds of chemo, one day every three weeks. My problem is he has so much…
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Very Frustrated
My daughter seems to be very angry. I find it very hard to deal with. She lives with her father up North and I travel there to see her. The environment that she is in is in my opinion not a good one. She has chosen to live with her father. I have told her that I would love for her to live with me. The area in which she…
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How do you know when it is time to stop treatment?
My dad is 72 and has been battling colon cancer for 3 years, mets to the liver and now the lungs. He was doing great until he had a stroke May 19th. The stroke didn't paralyze him so we thought he dodged a bullet but in fact, it was the game changer. He never regained his strength and his cancer moved to his lungs. Cure is…
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New caregivers job
Well I took a job at Christus HomeHealth Care as a caretakere, Im starting to think this is my calling, I don't know, I now have 2 patients, and yea one of them is a cancer patient, She is a very nice lady, this is her 2nd time with cancer, I have mixed feelings about this, and the thing is I have not been able to sleep…