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Having a Tough Time
My Mom is 58 years old and was diagnosed with stage three multiple myeloma (most advanced stage for her type) at the end of January. March 2nd, she moved from MN to NC to live with us and get treatment. She left her job, home and community in order to come here and get treatment with a specialist at Duke. I am 28 years…
Cancer plus Dementia
This is my first post. I have read a lot of yours, though. My husband was diagnosed with stage iv lung cancer in November 2008. It was already in his brain and both lungs. He had whole brain radiation and 8 sessions of chemo. In July of 2009 he was hospitalized with pneumonia and renal failure. He was in the hospital for 3…
Is it time for Hospice?
I think the time may be drawing near to get hospice for my mom. What is the process and how does it get started?
Lung Cancer Treatment - Dimentia
Hello all, This past February/March, My 74 year old mother underwent two cycles of chemo to treat lung cancer. Shortly after the second cycle, her physical and mental state deteriorated very quickly. Within a week following her second cycle, she began exhibiting dimentia like behavior. She recently got out of the hospital…
destressed daugter
Hi. This is the first time on this network. I've read all of ur support and trial.My dad was diagnosis with tongue Cancer stage three and had spread to the neck. On July 2009, my father had two Massive Heart Attacks and was in a Coma for days. I arrived upon being notified, by that time I arrived to bedside he was awake…
Caregiver/survivor/caregiver-anybody else out there do both?
I'm sure that I'm not the only person to have done this. I was mom's primary caregiver during her whole 20+ year battle. She had thyroid cancer, ovarian, then metastasis to other areas. Dad was there but he's not a medical guy at all. Mom died in Dec 2003. I was diagnosed in May of 2004 with endometrial cancer. Luckily I…
her daddy
i have a question may-be some one can help me out. our daughter has hodgkins stage 2. i have come to accept this and in fact she is getting very good treatment and getting better. the question is that her dad has not talked about it. he has not even mentioned it to our other children. his best friend dosen't even know. i…
Gut Feeling
My wife has stage 4 met colon cancer-liver and lung. She has ascites and will have a paracentesis tomorrow. She has had the full regimen of both FOLFOX and FOLFIRI. She did well with the first regimen but the peripheral neuropathy became too intense. Her condition is changing the past few weeks. She complains of lower back…
Frustrated with Mom
My mom has inoperable uterine cancer that was diagnosed Feb. 2009. Several rounds of chemo have not been that successful. The tumor has enlarged and she now has mets to her neck lymph nodes, which are visible. Currently she is taking Xeloda orally. She has now confined herself to the room in which she watches TV and her…
Trying to adjust to the ups and downs
This is my first post. I am caring for my 90yr old mother who has carcinoid syndrome, which is turning out to be only one of her many debilitating symptoms. She still lives at home and does most of her own care on her good days. My brother lives nearby and helps several times a week. I live next door. I work full time and…
Frustrated or just frightened?
My husband was DX'ed with Metastatic Lung Cancer in March....I have been told he will maybe make it though the summer....he is on Hospice. My problem is that I am showing more signs of mental fatique....I see huge changes in him both physically and mentally almost daily.... His most prominent problem at present is the…
14 year old acting our after his father's death - should we move or stay in our home?
Hello~ My husband passed away on 10-31-09. I have a 14, 22 and 24 year old. In the past few weeks the 14 year old's grades have dropped (not much but enough to raise a flag - normally he carries a 4.0 or higher GPA). He has made a new group of friends which has led to a 5 day suspension for starting a fight club. My main…
My mom has lost her will and is having hallucinations.
She has been diagnosed with lung cancer via an MRI and biopsy. She has an 8 cm mass on her lung. She has yet to start chemo becuase she isn't strong enough. She went from being in the hospital to a rehab facility. She has started to give up hope. Originally she wanted to get the process moving and get the chemo started but…
being a caregiver is starting to wear me down
I recently became a caregiver for my little cousin Ashleya. I am not sure how much I can take with it. I really dearly love my little cousin but it scares me seing her sick while fighting cancer. Has anyone else felt similar to what I am feeling?
My mom
Hi all - I'm new to this site. My mom was diagnosed with stage IV metastatic CUP at the end of February. She just turned 80 on Feb. 22nd - the woman is amazing. Has never been sick - plays golf twice a week, exercises, reads 5 novels a week, has tons of friends and a wonderful social network. She's also fiercely…
Myelodysplastic Syndrome
Hello out there. I am a Mom of a 20 year old with his second kind of cancer. He first cancer was Ewing sarcoma we found it his seinor year in High school. Auguest 2007. Now because of the treatment we recevied that had made the ewings gone for now. He developed Myelodyspla and now needs a bone marrow transplant. His…
Assisted Living or Nursing Homes
My mom will begin chemo treatments when she is released from her rehabilitation facility. My sister and I are not comforable with her living alone. She is on oxygen and is only partially mobile using a wheelchair and for small amounts of time a walker. We will be transporting her to treatment but are unable to be with her…
What to expect, how to prepare - new to this Mom starting chemo
Hello, I am new here. My mother (77 years old) has been diagnosed with lung cancer and will be starting chemo next week. She lives alone but my sister and I are both close by and will be doing the majority of the care. I want to stock up her house with food she may want to eat. I know she will most likely not have much of…
Not sure where to turn to help my Father.
Hello, all I am brand new to this and I am reaching for advice, and direction. My father is terminal with bone cancer, his diagnosis came Christmas Eve, and he started chemo (which was the only option) and is not doing well. I am looking at the end stages, but do not know how to financially cope with this. Right now he is…
Spouse playing the "Cancer Card"
So, as I've posted before, my husband has stage IV Mesothelioma. The prognosis was 12 months tops. He's been receiving chemo and responding well to it so far, and has been feeling better. I don't believe his overall prognosis will change much, Meso just isn't "curable"; but I am thrilled to tears that for at least some of…
Does anyone else have family that just doesn't seem to care?
My mom has been diagnosed with liver cancer since June 2009. My dad back in 2006 had major surgery which resulted in amputation of part of his right leg and left foot. That being said, he has been relying on my mom to take care of him, because he can't drive or do lots of other things he used to. Now that my mom is more…
cancer causes
I'd like to get any stories from people who developed a cancer in an area that was hit or traumatized by any means. I've been told stories of people getting hit in an area, having pain weeks or months later, getting checked, and being told they had cancer in the same area. If anybody here has a similar story twho would…
We could all use a laugh...
And I've noticed nothing real joke-y like has been posted to the Humor board...so I did. Will try to post something there to keep some cheer up...join along if you feel up to it. (((((((((hugs)))))))))
To anyone who thinks I haven't done right by my father
I just wrote a letter, not to send, just to get things off my chest. It is to members of my family, and to the unreasonable guilt in my own heart, regarding my father's choice to refuse treatment and tests for his cancer and potential other conditions. He is a stubborn, angry, bitter man and has not been a positive…
is anybody out there
I feel totally alone. I read all of these message boards and all i can think it what about me. I am a caregiver, my husband just finished treatment and I just need a break. I feel like the world has revolved around him for so long. All I can think is that I need to get away. I have terrible guilt about this. I have done so…
Lonely
My husband with stage 4 cancer is in the house with me and actually doing pretty good health wise right now, but he has become so quiet. I miss having conversations with him, he is my best friend. Not sure how to handle all the extra responsibilites that being a caregiver has put on me and not having my best friend to talk…
Where Are We?
My husband has Stage IV colorectal cancer. He had a resection two years ago, chemo one year ago, bowel blockage in November, now another (partial) small bowel blockage. His doctor told me on the phone that the situation is "bad," and that the cancer is very aggressive. Mets to the lungs and peritoneum. There were two spots…
New to this board and frustrated
I previously have posted on the Uterine cancer board regarding my mom. She has inoperable uterine cancer that was diagnosed a year ago. She has been very positive until a few weeks ago. Radiation is no longer an option. She has had several cycles of chemo, but the tumor is progressing. She has just started Xeloda today.…
How to deal with hubby that wont try.
Looking for advice on how to deal with hubby that has just shut down. He is newly diagnosed EC. Has had a stent placed and first round of chemo. He just keeps losing weight and is so withdrawn. He has no pain. The esophagus is open and food will pass. The sore scratchy throat has even gotten better. He has gotten to the…
new member
hello..my name is janie, i am 31, and my mother has small cell mastastized lung cancer ( think)..its at stage four and i have already done some research on it to find out the survival rate is 10 percent in the long term, as well as being allowed to speak with both her doctors that confirmed her survival rate is 5 percent,…

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