Help, please

Deathorglory Member Posts: 364 Member

My wife (my supposed caregiver) has been melting down far past my ability to deal with. She's screaming and ranting and terrifying the dogs (and me). She's ranting about things with a previous girlfriend from when Bill Clinton was president. She's just screaming and cursing for hours. I had to call 911 last week b/c I just couldn't deal with her breakdown anymore. She needs someone to take care of her, but I just don't have the strength. I'm struggling just to take care of myself b/c she really hasn't been super helpful. I have cancer for the fourth time, this time is stage III, locally advanced pancreatic cancer and it comes with a grim, but not hopeless prognosis. I've reached out to my family (she's estranged from her family) to maybe take her out to lunch or something just to get her some human contact that's not me, b/c I'm the stressor, not the solution. Any ideas on what might help her calm down and be able to help me?


  • CSNSupportTeam
    CSNSupportTeam admin Posts: 147

    Hi Deathorglory,

    Thank you for reaching out to your American Cancer Society's Cancer Survivors Network.

    Please reach out to us at ACS's National Cancer Information Center. You can call our toll-free number, 1.800.227.2345, where Cancer Information Specialists are available around the clock every day of the week to speak with you. We may be able to assist in finding resources to help you both. You can also utilize the Live Chat feature Monday through Friday between 7am-6:30pm CST on

    Best regards, 


    CSN Support Team