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She doesnt want anything anymore
Just a little while ago, my wife, Judy, said that she has had it. She does not want calls, people visiting, texting, no programs like visiting dogs---which she use to love, no future talk, nothing at all. What do I do or say?
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Cancer is a business not a disease.A Secret Has Been Uncovered
Today I read an article about cancer.....I am shocked when i read ,it's not a disease,it is a business how can we care from it and main thing how dangerious items are in our daily use which caused cancer share it with others thanks. <Content removed by CSN Support Team 10/14/2016.>
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Singing
It's 0530 and I hear a beautiful sound. It's my wife humming a song downstairs. Haven't heard that in a long time. Perhaps she feels better this morning. Nothing more soothing and beautiful than hearing my wifes soft, soothing voice. If she sees me, she will be embarassed. I will lay here a few more minutes and just…
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Not knowing what to say
I swear, this is so hard. You feel bad because you don't have the C and are the one trying to offer support and make it make some kind of sense, then you feel bad because you feel anything you say sounds stupid, then you just feel plain stupid. They ask you to be the strong one and not get upset so they can be strong but…
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Free Educational Conference in Phila, PA 11/18/2016
I wanted to share the following information with all who may be in the Philadelphia, PA area and interested in attending in person (or via livestream for those not in the area or not able to attend in person): OPEN TO THE PUBLIC: FREE Educational Conference - Focus on Leukemia, Lymphoma, Myeloma, and Bone Marrow/Stem Cell…
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Helps to know we're not the only ones feeling this way
I just want to tell everyone who posts on this forum - THANK YOU. Like you, I am struggling to stay strong while my husband and partner of over 35 years suffers with metastatic disease. What his cancer is called is not important anymore - its not operable and its all over the place and unless a miracle cure is discovered…
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Angry Wife
We found out my husband has metastic melanom about 3 weeks ago. He had surgery to remove a tumor in his brain about 2 weeks ago. Since then he has been very angery and rude. All that anger is focused at me. He rolls his eyes when I go into his hospital room. Today he told me to "just go home". After 2 weeks of this I…
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Mesothelioma
My husband was diagnosed with Mesothelioma in October. In November he had his pleura, lining around his heart and diaphram removed. He just took his third chemo treatment last week. He got out of the bed the day after chemo but has not been up since. He is very weak. After much prodding from me they said it was figured as…
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Anger, Depression, Lashing Out
I am lost and need some input. My father was diagnosed with bladder cancer approximately 15 years ago. The doctors removed his bladder and built him a new one out of his lower intestine. He has gone for PET scans and blood work regularly, and up until April 2016 he was clear. In April, his PET scan revealed that he had…
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disfunction with in family
My wife was diagnosed with breast cancer 6 weeks ago. As one would believe it has turned our world up side down. Since the diagnosis she has repeatedly state "this is a death sentence" " doing chemotherapy will kill me, I would rather be dead then deal with it." I have tried to get her to talk with counsellors that are a…
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Coping with financial difficulties of cancer diagnosis of loved one
hi everyone, i am new to the boards. My brother just started chemo for testicular cancer. He was dignosed 3 years ago and had surgery and was told of he was cancer free. However it has spread and he now has to do 3 months of treatment. In between his first surgery and now he got divorced and has had some financial…
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Dad newly diagnosed, searching for other daughter caregivers
Hello community, My dad was recently diagnoised with stage 4 lung cancer. He will begin his chemotherapy this upcoming Monday and I've been an emotional wreck. I am his primary caregiver and it hasn't been easy processing everything. Although I have a lot of support from my family and friends, I feel very isolated and…
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Angry Wife
There are 3 time frames in my life. 1. Prior to my wife being diagnosed with breast cancer. Prior to any visits to a clinic, my wife for years was an angry person. She slept in the basement (and the kids and I slept upstairs on the 2nd floor). She was angry, depressed, cold, moody, violent, extremely lazy and constantly…
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Cancer Diagnosis and a Toxic relationship.
I have been a caregiver, going on @ 6 years. First, for my mother, who was an amazingly, appreciative woman. Then a few years later, for my boyfriend's father, for a very long five years He passed last year from complications from emphysema. In between those five years, things have been tough for the b.f. and I. I even…
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Cancer Book Reccomendations and inspiration?
Hi everyone. Hoping that I can get some inspiration for some health book / cancer-related stories. I'm building a small collection for a friend who mentioned that she wants to read more about other people's stories. How they dealt with cancer and more importantly how they lived happy lives - kept active etc.... If anyone…
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How to dispute false medical bills? (Caregiving Question)
Hi Everyone, I am responsible for caring for my elderly relative, who is sick and in need of constant attention. As of late, the medical bills and procedures have significantly increased. Unfortunately, I am getting incredibly fatigued and frustrated. On top of all of this, I believe the medical bills of the individual are…
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Struggling with a new relationship and cancer
I am 46, in a same sex relationship with a woman who is almost 46. We have been dating about 11 months. 4 months ago she was diagnosed with stage 1 breast cancer and had a lumpectomy/sentinel node biopsy. Everything looks good on pathology and oncotyping and she has an excellent prognosis. She has been on tamoxifen for…
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Diets During Chemo and After.
Hi, We are new to this network and are looking for anyone who can advice us as to aspects related to diets or not for my wife. She was recently diagonosed (3 months back) with Carcinoma of Unknown primary with metastasis to the liver and spleen. Currently she has completed 3 rounds of chemo and her cancer seems to have…
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The fear of what's next
Hello Everyone My name is Lindsay and my dad was diagnosed with Lung Cancer on Dec. 23rd 2014. Right now I am feeling quite lost and confused. My dad had his right lower lung removed and had several chemo treatments. He was told he was cancer free in May of 2015. 3 weeks later they found it went to his brain. He has had a…
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Dad starting hospice need advice!
My dad has been dealing with stage 4 lung cancer that caused a brain tumo. It was removed in June 2015. Also he has a tumor on his kidney and lymphoma. He was diagnoised in May of 2015. Now after 3 rounds of radiation, 2 rounds of chemo and he starting taking optivo. The new cancer treatment. He has had 4 treatments. No…
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Grasping at Straws
So my mom was diagnosed with metastatic kidney cancer in April. It had already spread to her lower spine and some surrounding bones. She is single and has ZERO savings so she came to live with me and my husband. She did the radiation and maybe 4 chemo treatments before she just decided to stop and throw health food at it…
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Trouble Sleeping
Are any of you having trouble sleeping? A few weeks ago I did the unthinkable and moved into another room so I could sleep. There are two reasons for me doing that (My dear wife understands). My wife gets restless at night I stay awake all night just listening to her breathe and my mind starts to race I finally went into…
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moms final months
It's hard to know where to begin. I want to vent about my personal life because I'm full of anger and resentment and so much frustration, but it pales in comparison to what my mom is facing. I'm 27, my mom 64, my grandma 84. We all live together and drive each other crazy. My mom was diagnosed 3 years ago with stage 3…
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Final weeks with Mom; so lost, mad, confused, lonely. Please help me hold on...
My Mom is in her final weeks with Stage IV breast cancer-- she is 72, I am 44. I lost my Dad to prostate cancer in 2003-- he was 63, I was 31. To say I HATE cancer is about the understatement of the century. But here we are-- my Mom is probably 88 lbs; is on hospice (despite this being a bit of a battle with her); has…
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throat cancer/caregiver
Hi, I'm new to this site. My husband was diagnosised 4 weeks ago with stage 2 larynx cancer. so far they have taken a biop and lasered his vocal chords, to open his airway. he was haveing difficulty breathing. We have two kids, one 21 and one 11. both boys, oldest has severe anxiety attacks, and cant work, or drive.…
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Uncaring Oncologist
My husband was diagnosed with small intestine cancer in February 2015. The first oncologist we went to was a major teaching hospital on the west coast, one of the top cancer centers in the USA, and the oncologist we were to meet with one of the top in the field (according to his bio on the institution's web site). He kept…
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Medical Bill Errors (Problem Solved) Follow-Up!
Hi Everyone, Original Question: I am responsible for caring for my elderly relative, who is sick and in need of constant attention. As of late, the medical bills and procedures have significantly increased. Unfortunately, I am getting incredibly fatigued and frustrated. On top of all of this, I believe the medical bills of…
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Helping to cope with isolation
My husband has stage 4 colon cancer. He was diagnosed in June just after a serious accident left him in a wheel chair with 2 broken feet. It took 6 weeks before they could start Chemo. It was too late to have surgery as the cancer spreads to his liver lymph nodes and bones. Now he is severely alergic to the 5FU and they…
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fiance has testicular cancer started chemo today and I'm a wreck
my fiance and I are both mid twenties and Super Active so when we found out that he had testicular cancer that turned our world upside down. he's had the surgery and started chemotherapy today. he's always such a positive and uplifting guy, always looking on the bright side. but of course this morning before he went to…
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Mom Newly Diagnosed with Lung Cancer- My Wedding is in 5 Weeks :(
I just learned within the past week that my mom has stage II to III small cell lung cancer. I'm getting married in 5 weeks so, while there's never a good time to receive news like that, this is really horrible timing. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation to this? On top of normal emotions of receiving news like this,…