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Diets During Chemo and After.
Hi, We are new to this network and are looking for anyone who can advice us as to aspects related to diets or not for my wife. She was recently diagonosed (3 months back) with Carcinoma of Unknown primary with metastasis to the liver and spleen. Currently she has completed 3 rounds of chemo and her cancer seems to have…
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The fear of what's next
Hello Everyone My name is Lindsay and my dad was diagnosed with Lung Cancer on Dec. 23rd 2014. Right now I am feeling quite lost and confused. My dad had his right lower lung removed and had several chemo treatments. He was told he was cancer free in May of 2015. 3 weeks later they found it went to his brain. He has had a…
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Dad starting hospice need advice!
My dad has been dealing with stage 4 lung cancer that caused a brain tumo. It was removed in June 2015. Also he has a tumor on his kidney and lymphoma. He was diagnoised in May of 2015. Now after 3 rounds of radiation, 2 rounds of chemo and he starting taking optivo. The new cancer treatment. He has had 4 treatments. No…
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Grasping at Straws
So my mom was diagnosed with metastatic kidney cancer in April. It had already spread to her lower spine and some surrounding bones. She is single and has ZERO savings so she came to live with me and my husband. She did the radiation and maybe 4 chemo treatments before she just decided to stop and throw health food at it…
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Trouble Sleeping
Are any of you having trouble sleeping? A few weeks ago I did the unthinkable and moved into another room so I could sleep. There are two reasons for me doing that (My dear wife understands). My wife gets restless at night I stay awake all night just listening to her breathe and my mind starts to race I finally went into…
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moms final months
It's hard to know where to begin. I want to vent about my personal life because I'm full of anger and resentment and so much frustration, but it pales in comparison to what my mom is facing. I'm 27, my mom 64, my grandma 84. We all live together and drive each other crazy. My mom was diagnosed 3 years ago with stage 3…
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Final weeks with Mom; so lost, mad, confused, lonely. Please help me hold on...
My Mom is in her final weeks with Stage IV breast cancer-- she is 72, I am 44. I lost my Dad to prostate cancer in 2003-- he was 63, I was 31. To say I HATE cancer is about the understatement of the century. But here we are-- my Mom is probably 88 lbs; is on hospice (despite this being a bit of a battle with her); has…
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throat cancer/caregiver
Hi, I'm new to this site. My husband was diagnosised 4 weeks ago with stage 2 larynx cancer. so far they have taken a biop and lasered his vocal chords, to open his airway. he was haveing difficulty breathing. We have two kids, one 21 and one 11. both boys, oldest has severe anxiety attacks, and cant work, or drive.…
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Uncaring Oncologist
My husband was diagnosed with small intestine cancer in February 2015. The first oncologist we went to was a major teaching hospital on the west coast, one of the top cancer centers in the USA, and the oncologist we were to meet with one of the top in the field (according to his bio on the institution's web site). He kept…
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Medical Bill Errors (Problem Solved) Follow-Up!
Hi Everyone, Original Question: I am responsible for caring for my elderly relative, who is sick and in need of constant attention. As of late, the medical bills and procedures have significantly increased. Unfortunately, I am getting incredibly fatigued and frustrated. On top of all of this, I believe the medical bills of…
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Helping to cope with isolation
My husband has stage 4 colon cancer. He was diagnosed in June just after a serious accident left him in a wheel chair with 2 broken feet. It took 6 weeks before they could start Chemo. It was too late to have surgery as the cancer spreads to his liver lymph nodes and bones. Now he is severely alergic to the 5FU and they…
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fiance has testicular cancer started chemo today and I'm a wreck
my fiance and I are both mid twenties and Super Active so when we found out that he had testicular cancer that turned our world upside down. he's had the surgery and started chemotherapy today. he's always such a positive and uplifting guy, always looking on the bright side. but of course this morning before he went to…
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Mom Newly Diagnosed with Lung Cancer- My Wedding is in 5 Weeks :(
I just learned within the past week that my mom has stage II to III small cell lung cancer. I'm getting married in 5 weeks so, while there's never a good time to receive news like that, this is really horrible timing. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation to this? On top of normal emotions of receiving news like this,…
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Tired (Feeling sorry for myself)
Hi guys-I'm tired today. My wife had a tough week, high fever with increased back pain, likely from tumor on her spine. We are having our church over Sunday afternoon and I spent most of the week getting yard ready by myself because she was simply not up to helping (Understandable) We left this morning for an MRI but found…
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f*** your problems my mother's dying
Today at my mothers doctor appoinment we discussed her very limited options for treating her small cell lung cancer. Right now she's on Topotecan but its starting to be less effective. She's been on this chemo for almost a year and there arent anymore options. The doctor is giving her the option to continue the chemo or…
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Not handling things well as a partner
I am new to the forum, and basically joined because I have nobody to talk to and I'm not in a very good place mentally right now. I am 31 years old. My boyfriend is 33 and recently was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma for the second time. We've been together 6 years, and I was not in the picture his first go round with…
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feeling adrift
My wife has Stage 3/4 primary peritoneal cancer so the long term prognosis isn't great. She had her first round of chemo. From the first diagnosis through the bad days after chemo it was easy to know what to do; console, provide comfort, run errands etc. Right now she is feeling quite good, not prior to cancer good, but…
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Trying to understand
Hello everyone; I guess I statrted off in the wrong group, I hope someone can help my confusion. My wife had a small orange size mass removed from her colon a month ago, the pathology came back saying the tumor was cancer (20 of the 24 lymph nodes came back cancerous as well). The Oncologist stated she has stage 4 cancer…
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Trying to be a forgiving Catholic...
Here is my story and its a true story and I can't begin to express how frustrated I am. I got married at age 30 and my wife and I have 3 kids. I love my kids. After the birth of our 2nd child, my wife became angry often. She was like a boiling pot of water constantly boiling. After our 3rd child was born, my wife moved to…
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daughter newly diagnosed breast cancer
My adult daughter just found out she has breast cancer. She will meet with the surgeon, oncologist & radiologist (all together) next week. I felt she would want me with her as there will be much info at one meeting...& for support. But no. She wants to go alone & said she will bring a notebook. She wanted to go alone for…
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caregivers chat room
I am interested in starting a weekly chat room to discuss the issues of being a caregiver. Anyone interested?. Let me know.
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Invisible Caregiver Stress?
It has taken me seven years to find my way to this forum but I am so grateful to have found it. I don’t even know what to say except that I am only now realizing the full impact our situation is having on me, and it finally occurred to me to connect with others with similar experiences. My husband I are in our late 40s.…
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random thoughts...
Sometimes I just get these random thoughts that pop into my head out of nowhere. I am trying to be as positive as I can, esp around the hubby, but when I am alone is when my mind really wanders. This am, I was thinking about how everything happens for a reason (I believe this - as good or bad as it is) and was thinking of…
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Need help planning for this
Hello, My father was recently diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer. I'm staying with him and my step-mother for a couple weeks now, and more down the road. So far he's doing great. Generally very positive, and still getting about, doing his normal things. I'm trying to prepare for what we'll all need to be able to do once…
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Lost husband taking care of his wife, kids, dogs, full-time job, and house
Hi everyone, just joined today and I am looking for a little guidance. My wife was diagnosed with stage 3A breast cancer in October 2015. She is 45 years old (now), has a terrible family history of other cancers, and is scared to death. She has been through two rounds of AC/T chemo so far and the tumor has shrunk quite a…
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new to the caregiver role- Intro
x-posted - I'm so thankful for the internet. Thankful for the information available (even though sometimes TOO much information) as well as the communities and support groups that can be found. Almost 3 weeks ago, after excruiating pain for weeks, we found out my husband has cancer (colon w/mets to liver). It was an…
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My husband just passed away and I am so lost!
My husband passed away on March 6, 2016 from stage 4 lung cancer. We started up hospice a month before his death because he refused anymore treatment and medications and was placed on oxygen till the day he died. He is the love of my life and losing him was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through. 5 days before his…
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Inept medical groups
Venting here, again! Have any of you had to deal with medical groups, particularly receptionists and lab personnell that were terrible?! My spouse had to have a CBC and differential drawn at a local lab with results faxed to her oncologist in another city. When she went in (She had a very low white count) she asked them to…
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Wife wants to stop chemotherapy
My wife has been on chemotherapy since early December. She wants to stop. He oncologist was very pleased with her last CT scan which demonstrated no growth of tumors. This, however, is not enough for my wife to want to stop tx. It makes her feel so sick, every two weeks of feeling like she is going to die to only have…
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Barely Hanging On
My husband has stage 4 head and neck cancer, he's had numerous radiation and chemo treatments over the last few years and recently completed another round of treatments. The man I married and loved and still love is gone. His cancer and pain have turned him into a hateful angry nasty person. He belittles me every chance he…