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Caregivers

Am I right, am I wrong?
My wife had her second paracentesis in two weeks for almost 8 liters of fluid. Bear in mind she is only about 5ft 2 inches and now with the fluid loss she weighs about 70 pounds. She has been miserable. She was up all night because her distended abdomen was causing her so much discomfort, hard to walk, no caloric intake. I…
Cancer....Divorce....What To Do?
My mom is going through chemotherapy currently and they're discussing the possibility of surgery when her platelettes jump. I am currently the oldest of three (my brother is 18 and my sister is 7) as well as my fiance who all live in the house with my parents. Currently, my fiance and I have not moved out due to my parents…
mom fainted during chemo
My mother is in her second session of chemmo. She went to the office yuesterday and came home with the package and today is the first day she had the box. She went to lay down and fainted falling off the bed. The oncologist told her to go the ER. They have her under cardiac observation. Is anyone else going through…
Don't Know What to Think
It's my first time posting because I need the ears and support of those going through caregiving hell. My 72 year old father was diagnosed with poorly differentiated neuroendocrine carcinoma of the pancreas back in February of this year. He's been through the whipple procedure and 4 rounds of chemo (cisplatin and…
Managing nausea
My friend has cancer of the appendix. Her chemo schedule is every two weeks. During sessions 2-4 she had medical marijuana which helped with the nausea and she was able to function pretty well. Now, the MM isn't helping. Any suggestions on 1. how do deal with the nausea and 2. how do I find someone who has survived this…
erbitux
ANYONE dealt hear with the effects of erbitux. 13 week sinto treatmnet of erbitux only. Very very dry and burney skin + acne ususal etc. ideas, treatments? Wifey WANTS TO STOP TREATMENT because of difficult effects. Clear
Keep on, keepin' on!
What a tough 5 months this has been. ; ( My active, young 66 yr old mom was dx w/SCLC w/mets to brain on March 1st. 12 WBR radiation treatments, then discover on spine...12 more rad treatments and on to chemo. It has been quite a rollercoaster ride to say the least. Mom is currently in remission so that is a wonderful…
hope?
Hi. I'm new here and I cannot tell you how amazing it felt when I first got here and read your posts. I am not alone. Wow. My husband has carcinoid cancer. He has had multiple surgeries including removal of his right lung, 6 other masses removed, 2 stents placed in main arteries and last week a feeding tube was placed. He…
today Why I give care
Today I though about our years together. I first saw you in 1972 there you were in you uniform, standing in the doorway. Yor big brown eyes and black hair,You were so sweet, You were so shy, yet you stayed and we talked. You had dropped my brother off on the way home. That day changed my life, I told my mother that is the…
Avastin
Can someone explain to me what Avastin is used for?
how we do it
the other day someone said caregivers are heaven sent. asked me how i do it. first of all i am a mom i will all ways be a mom. these children the were given to me they are a gift from heaven. my daughter is a true gift i was told i couldn't have any more children and 5 years later i had jackie. she is the gift. i will lay…
food: what to eat
There's so much confusing information about what to eat or not to eat. There's a free nutrition newsletter by a Cornell trained nutritionist whose current issue of Healthy-Gourmet.Org, has some information in the "Ask Marie" section about cancer and diet.
Chemo side effects, taxotere
I've read some of the posts from others regarding the side effects of chemo, specifically taxotere. I'm assisting my dad through his cancer treatment (lung cancer) and last week he had terrible, terrible joint pain in his hips and knees. He has severe arthritis in those joints and lives with a considerable amount of pain,…
Emotional Hell on A Rollercoaster
That's what my days fell like now. Not knowing what the dr knows and what she knows. I know what it is, where it is and what it's doing to her body. She is a nurse, worked in a hospital for close to 30 yrs. She knows what's coming and doesn't say anything. I'm a granite rock when we are together. She still works part-time,…
Just what I've been thinking lately
Sometimes when I am somewhere else in my head and smile, people ask me what I am smiling about. I am thinking of my spouse: When she screamed because there was a spider on the carpet, begging me to pick it up, leaving me amazed that at the same time could take on chemotherapy like a Spartan. When she screamed in delight…
Hell Week
It was a hellish week. My wife (Stage 4 colon cancer) had a paracentesis with almost 9 liters of fluid from her tiny little body. She developed terrible abdominal cramps after the procedure and I had to carry her from the car to the couch. The next day we traveled 550 miles to San Clemente to see her relatives that she…
Just venting
My mom was diagnosed with Stage 2 Ovarian Cancer. They found it earlier which is amazing and she has a pretty good chance of survival but things are still so hard. I am 20 years old and we found out in mid June and thankfully I am home from school for the summer. I have kinda taken over the role of mom since my mom isn't…
25 and stressed
My dad has esophageal cancer (it started in the stomach and came up) T3N1M0 and isn't a candidate for surgery because he had a massive stroke 6 years ago, has had seizures, and has sleep apnea. He was treated at MD Anderson for 6 weeks chemo/radiation, and we have been home for 6 weeks. We go back Sunday for a week of…
Depressed
My mom was diagnosed with 3C colon cancer. She is undergoing chemo. She is different now -no fight and tired. I want my mommy back. My sister and I start crying at the drop of the hat. Anywhere work the car in the grocery store. She saw a woman with her mother and burst into tears. It will never be the same. She is 70. She…
Gratitude
I have been so at a loss to explain my emotions to a wonderful network of supporters. I was beginning to process that I might need a therapist and no time to go to one. I happened upon these discussion boards and my prayers have been answered. So often when I read older threads, I think I must have posted it - the…
Feeling down
I wonder why am feeling so down, even though my mom is doing really well now, both physically and mentally. Just wanted to touch base with other caregivers. I am thinking of all of you. Tracey
Chemo brain - help!!!
My father is undergoing chemo for Stage IV CA with liver mets. My brother and I have noticed that at times he thinks he is somewhere else when he is at home or worse yet, does not recognize us as his children. He gets agitated when we have reoriented him for the upteenth time and tells us that we are confused, not him. He…
Your The Best
Im leaving the site this morning. The reasons are personal. I want to thank you for your kindness, courage and support you have given to the memebrs here. I want to wish you the best very best of health and happiness. I will miss your spirit and love for one another Heart of Soul
Did I do the right thing, now what
First I have to say it again I am truely taken back by all the support and love on this site. I have been a nurse for 20 years and involved with RFL and The Breast Cancer 3-day for several years. Now instead of sending one of my patients home or to another hospital with cancer I have to deal with it hands on with my…
End of life????
Because of the condition of my husband, there are some days that I feel like I go could in our room and he will be gone. When he is soooo sick with pain, fatigue and confusion it feels like he just may die right then and there. Does any1 know....is there something to look for when some1 is about to die? I have heard that…
Emotions
Is anyone else feeling like they live with Dr. Jekyl/Mr. Hyde? My husband is being treated with radiation for neck/throat cancer and I really am trying to be supportive - however I am so tired of feeling like the whipping gal! When I come in and he grunts at me, then I ask a question and get my head bite off! What the…
ANGRY ANGRY ANGRY at myself........
We're coming up on a year since my mother's diagnosis....ovca stage IIIc....what a year it has been. She is experiencing her first recurrance and will be starting new chemo within the next few weeks.....I just posted somewhere else as well but feel a need to keep writing....I am sooo angry these days...sooo angry....I…
new at this hell...I am the wife
My husband, Doug, was dx in April, pacreatic cancer w/mets to liver. He had radiation and now waiting for chemo. He is sooooo weak, he had lost about 50 lbs. On so many meds he is in bed 23 hrs/day, hardly no appetite, and in pain a lot. They are doing all they can..he is being treated at Cancer Treatment Centers of…
Looking for caregivers that are taking care of their spouses
I am 40 and my husband is 42. He was diagnosed in May 09 with gbm IV. He just had his second craniotomy. I am trying to figure out how to deal with the emotions of taking care of my husband,kids, house and finances. At the end of the day I just want to be held. The loneliness is starting to become unbearable. How do you…
A Quote for Caregivers
Caregiving is calling each other into life isn't it? That's the fundamental goal of caregiving: To enable another person to want to BE in the world.

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