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Birthday

panks
panks CSN Member Posts: 36 Member
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
Today would have been Dales 49th birthday. I lost him in March to this god awful thing called cancer. My vent is all these people saying "celebrate the good things about his life" dont they have any idea that I feel like my insides are being ripped out of me right now. I miss him so bad that I really cant find it in me to celebrate anything right now..

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  • grandmafay
    grandmafay CSN Member Posts: 1,633 Member
    #2
    Way too Soon
    If they haven't been in your shoes they really have no idea. Some days we just hang in there as best we can. I have learned many things I won't ever say to others. I tell the people who say they don't know what to say that I appreciate their honesty and that I understand that they really don't know what to say. There are no words that really help. Take care, Fay
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  • Tina Blondek
    Tina Blondek CSN Member Posts: 1,500 Member
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    thinking of you Panks
    Hi Panks,
    I, too, lost my dad to ec in March. I am in the same place that you are. This will be my first Fathers Day without him. This year we will both experience many "firsts". The way that I have been dealing with it is I do think of all the good times. All of the smiles, the laughs. I look back at pictures when dad was healthy and happy. I compare those pictures with the way he looked at his end. I enjoy the healthy and happy pictures much more. Their quality of life at the end is nonexistant. Know that we will see them again and we will be able to spend eternity together. For the time being, continue to grieve and mourn, but dont dwell on it for too long. Get comfort from the feeling that he is no longer in pain, he is no longer suffering. Prayers to you. Keep in touch.You are not alone, we are in the same boat!
    Tina
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