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stretched again...
Hi Friends, Lately I have been overwhelmed. I just don't know what to do. My husband can be sooo mean. Sometimes I just want to do something like run away. I love him but sometimes I feel so abused. He can be mean, thinks he knows it all. I am just venting and I feel bad for saying it. Sometimes I feel like I am being…
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My husband will be gone by tonight...
It will be almost two years since first joining this site. I have met lots of people in the same situation that we have been in. We have even made some friends that I hope to keep in contact with. Sadly today I will be saying goodbye to my husband of almost 40 years. I still can not believe we are at this point. We have…
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Can you guys see me???
Feeling a little invisable to my husband lately... he had the embolization a week ago and has been very tired since. I totally understand that but when he is up he doesn't seem to see me and others take priority. I am feeling alone and lonely, missing the man that loved me so much. Last night as I layed in bed I couldn't…
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So much Stress
I am the primary care giver to my mom who has stage 3 throat cancer. She has done amazing through this whole thing with 6 chemo days and 30 radiation treatments. We have only 3 more to go now . I had a bad day. My mother's been emotionally challenging for me since this whole thing began. She has terrible mood swings. She…
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Husband has survived Esphogeal and Lung Cancer but quality of life is terrible...so sad
It has been some time since i posted last. But i am tired now...My husband has survived having esphogeal cancer stage 3b which they removed his esphogus and replaced with a piece of his colon. Then a year and a half later stage 1 Lung cancer that resulted in removal of his right upper lobe. He is so sick and in so much…
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Dr Visit confusion
Hi Friends, I think it has been a minute. Husband went to chemo today. He had a tumor in his neck that he knew about. He let me feel it the other day. It started out as a popcorn kernel, now it is the size of a quarter. Well, we have been off chemo since November. WBC was 2.2, and we already know that he is anemic, but he…
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"Losing It"
Ok, I really need to vent because I am starting to lose it! I am hoping by actually writing this out I can ease my stress & anger.... How can insurance companies say things like a PET Scan are not medically necessary???? In the 2 1/2 months since my husband was diagnosed with Stage 4 Stomach Cancer that has already spread…
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I'm 26, and so overwhelmed
Hi all, This is my first time using an online support group. My mom, 66, was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in August. Thank god it hasn't spread anywhere else yet, but she just moved in with my sister. I'm a grad student at a nearby university, but I don't have a car. My sister and I are taking care of her at home now.…
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Mom admitted to the hospital.
My mom completed her chemo 2 weeks ago . Jan 5th she finished her last radiation appointment on her throat Cancer. But on the same day. I had her admitted to the hospital. She won't eat Nor drink any nutritional supplements and she refused the placement of a peg feeding tube before we even began treatments. I had taken her…
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troops
Hi, my hubby's been battling cancer now for 15 months. I've been trying to do everything myself, I am one of those persons that HATES to asks for any help. My sister told me yesterday " IT'S TIME TO CALL OUT THE TROO[S " MEANING, HAVE TO ASK FOR HELP. Just thought i would bring that up if there is anybody out there that…
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New member
Hi, My 55 year old mom is battling esophageal cancer. On Easter day of this year, she was working (at a hospital luckily) and started to feel faint, several of her nursing co-workers forced her to go to the ER. She was treated by a wonderful doctor that admitted her with the suspicion of a bleeding ulcer due to the stress…
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In Hospice Care now
What a ride this has been. It's been up and down for the past two plus years and we now find ourselves at the end of the road and in Hospice care now. I am trying to find the strength to see us through this terrible disease but everyday it has it's challenges.
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mom passed 12/31/11
mom is finally at peace. She lasted 11 days without water and 13 days without food. She struggled and was in unbearable pain for the last two weeks but in the end she died very peacefully. We had her funeral on Wednesday and the services were beautiful. This week has been just a fog for me. I know she is gone, I was there…
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All I do is cry
I really miss my Mark. We had the services on Friday the 16th in the cold air of Ohio. I was surprised to see at least 30 people there as it was so cold. Also at his "celebration of life" there were about 100 people there. It was good to meet and greet everyone in Mark's life. Most everyone told me that "Mark waited 49…
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My Mom has been sent home to die
Mom was sent home to die three weeks ago. She is getting weaker and weaker. Her bowels are shutting down. The ascities are really bad. She won't let them drain her, because she knows the anemia will get much worse, and it's already very bad. I hate this. How does anyone cope with this? I don't know how I can do this with…
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Grandma refusing Dr. Appts.
My grandmother had Lung Cancer in 04 and is in remission I believe is the term. But now she has another health issue. She has been DX with Severe Pulmonary Hypertension. Dr. says it will lead to heart failure (she is 76) and though there is a density in her lungs (they believe it is scarring or infection) that the new PH…
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Everybody loves cute puppies
My elderly mother is dying, and she's no longer able to read or pay attention to TV very well, and conversation can be a challenge. So one day this week while my brother covered for me, I bought a 2012 calendar with really cute puppies on it. What a huge, huge hit! We spent a half hour goobing over all twelve puppy…
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How long does it take to die?
Hello all - My mom has been in a hospice facility since december 6th. She has struggled with cancer for the last 16 months and she has steadly declined. Her last diagnoses was carcinomatosis which they gave her six months to live. We are at six weeks. She stopped eating on december 18th and has had no measurable liquids…
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ISO Experiences with Zoloft Withdrawal
So I decided it was time to go off Zoloft - I'd been on it since August for PTSD/Anxiety/Menopause (not sure what was causing the panic attacks, but the cure was the same for all, according to my doctor). I'd been thinking about doing it over the holiday break anyway, and then I ran out and couldn't refill for more than a…
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Need advice
Folks, I am new here....need help,, Had a swollen lymph node left side of neck.... After antibiotic treatment for possible infection, no change.... Had chest xray for possible other swollen nodes....no others.. Had swollen node removed....Squamous cell detected.... went for PET scan....found location in left…
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My Mom has been sent home to die
Mom was sent home to die three weeks ago. She is getting weaker and weaker. Her bowels are shutting down. The ascities are really bad. She won't let them drain her, because she knows the anemia will get much worse, and it's already very bad. I hate this. How does anyone cope with this? I don't know how I can do this with…
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When do you call hospice?
Any should I call hopice? Things are getting worse not better? Not eating, no bm, more pain.
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I was a caregiver and now I am not
My Mark died on November 14, 2011 and I miss him terribly. I just finished a powerpoint presentation for his "celebration of life" after the graveside service. I am having awful issues because he is gone. I know I should probably be posting this in the other board but I have been here for so long that I feel as if I know…
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Still Debbie Cakes wish I could send you all some
Sometimes it seams like I am living a nightmare that never goes away. I fear to say somethings. I look at the gladd as half empty. Sometimes I am so depressed I forget what it is like to laugh. Some times just it is like fighting a battle that no one wins. . but then my hubby does something silly or odd for him like buyig…
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Take Care of Yourself - Reminders
It's been a while since I bugged folks (and invited you to bug me). If you have been putting off the dentist, OB/GYN, yearly check up, dermatologist, mammogram, colonoscopy, depression screening (hah!) or other routine maintenance, make your early New Year's resolution to schedule them. It might help to post such…
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Got hit again...
We have been to hell and back is my saying these days. We have had so many ups and downs in the last two years it is truly a wonder that we are still here and somewhat sane.. I think anyway. After being told no transplant then yes transplant, then no again then treatment for the past year to get back into criteria we were…
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Need advice here.....What should I do?
Christmas weekend is coming up. We suffered a major dissapointment when we found out son from NC can't come down. Son in GA and Daughter in FL are coming Christmas Day. We originally thought that Son in GA was going to stay a few days. Yesterday, he told his Dad that they were coming for the day only. Something about the…
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Mom is actively dying
The first thing we learned from our hospice nurse was that death is an individual process, as unique as the person themselves. My mother has always needed to control everything, and giving up control has been what the last several days have been about. Our hospice nurse was more concerned about Mom’s sudden disinterest in…
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My son, the caregiver
My son was 13 1/2 when he had the burden of being a caregiver to my husband - he had the issues of being home alone a lot when we were at the hospital, taking care of his father when I had to be out, having his father lose 45 pounds in about 2 months and seeing him very ill and on the edge of giving up. Once my husband…
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Does these side effects sound familiar to any one???please..
Many of you have watched your love ones suffer with side effects. Can you help me identify this? Everyday my husband gets weaker and weaker. I thought that he was getting better. I may sound desperate. I am sorry. He has stage iv bc with bone mets-all of his bones. He had a recurrence in 2009. Since then he has lost about…