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Caregivers

heart broken
Hello all, Sometimes you just need a place to let it out with strangers and I guess this is what I need right now. My mom, who's 81 has just been diagnosed with 3A/3B Pancoastal Lung Cancer. We're still in the diagnostic work up phase of things. As an non practicing health care professional post 14 years ago....who's done…
Oh My, Where Do I Begin?
This is my first time posting. We moved into a new home, and two weeks later, my Fiance was diagnosed with Stage IV stomach cancer. I'm feeling so overwhelmed. He is having such a hard time. Had chemo for the first time last Thursday. Nausea and vomitting intensified five fold and he had to be admitted into the hospital.…
ashamed
First of all I'm greatful for a place to say what is on my mind that is safe. It is sort of strange that it is here that I think people can relate to how I'm feeling sort of. I'm feeling ashamed of the thoughts I've been having lately. My shame which is saddness stems from hopelessness if that makes sense. My mom, 81, has…
I'm Going to Love You Through It - My Poem to My Husband
I wish I could take the cancer from your body; I wish I could take the despair from your heart; I wish I could take all the symptoms from your mind; I wish I could stop all the pain, illness and fear. I will be at your side every step of the way; I will not falter; I will be brave; I will love you no matter what course you…
Hi Friends
Just checking in on you all. I pray that you all are holding up. I am a little down...watching husband...WHEW! Dr. took him off chemo since hospital scare. So that will make about 2 months off. Should I be scared?
I have a question about Precertification?
I discovered that my husband's chemo treatment did not get paid for for the past 2 months by our insurance company because the dr office did not obtain precertification. Has any one experience this? The insurance letter stated that the dr could not charge us for it. I am wondering if this is why suddenly my husband gets a…
Jpeg feeding problems
JPEG feeding problems. My husband for 2 years has been on Jevity feeding with a #20 tube. The Jevity often thickens, even though he shakes the cans well, and then overflows causing a big mess and him covered in the sticky mess also. Very discouraging. Has anyone had this problem? Any ideas what we could do to prevent this?…
A Lonely Christmas
My angel is gone. My heart is broken and an eternity will not heal it. Nothing or no one can ever fill the cavern that used to be my heart. Being with her was my only joy in life Life will go on, but living will never be the same. I miss her terribly. Goodbye
Father Diagnosed with Stage IV Colon Cancer
I hope I am posting in the right category. I just found out last evening that my father, age 61, has been diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer which has metastesized to his liver and lungs. They are doing a brain scan today to see if it has reached that far. I don't know what to do. My parents live in the Orlando area and…
I do no know what to do
Okay-family of 7-We are mean to each other So I moved to Florida-Love my life-And last time I visited my mom I had my sisters jump me-Kept my mouth shut-Till I could not take it anymore-Just wanted to come home-Now Mom has Kidney cancer-It Kidney cancer took my husband 2 years ago. So I talked to friends and posted on face…
letter received from my best friend via snail mail
Ok, I am going to type out the letter that Aunt Dori sent so here it goes: Nov 21, 2011 Kelly I am so sorry for your great loss, I hope and pray that the Lord Jesus Christ gives you healing in your heart, mind and gives you strength. You know that I love you and want the best for you. The other reason for this letter is…
Caring for my mom with bone cancer
So on dec 1st it will be 1 month we found out my mom has bone cancer. My mom and i have always lived together, Me and my husband are her caregivers. I must admit how very scared iam. I sometimes feel so alone. I have 2 brothers and 1 sister, They all live out of state so it is just me and my husband to get her to all her…
The wait
Thank you everyone-I come here to vent and see and learn. Monday we get results from my mothers bone scan-Last monday I recieved the call-Mom lives in upstate ny and I in Florida. Its cancer and not any cancer but the cancer that took your husband from me. So now I wait-I am going to stay with her very soon-leaving my home…
No more denial left
My boyfriend is three weeks into chemo for testicular cancer. He has had his ups and downs but usually he ends up feeling ok. The other day though he finally started losing his hair and now he seems to be in a terrible funk. This is the last straw of denial he was holding onto and now he can't hold onto it anymore. How do…
Mom is not doing well
She's completely filled up with ascites again, in just one week. She doesn't look good and in the past few days has started having some issues with her stomach. We have an appointment for a second opinion on Monday for chemo, and she has to have a catheter put in tomorrow in her abdomen. At this point, I'm not sure we are…
caring for my mom with matastaic colon cancer
I just joined this site and so glad there is one that exists. My mom was diagnosed on oct 14th with matastic coleteral cancer. I was by her side at the hospital from day one. We both cried when she was told, it was such a shock to us both and my family. She spent two weeks in the hospital undergoing tests and then a…
Deep dark depression is showing its face again
Hello all my friends out there in cyberville, I hope were hanging in there. Now back to ME! This past month has been bad, the wife was in the hospital for poss food poisoning, my FIL passed from liver cancer, and I just got the results for my blood work and x-rays. My blood sugar and Triglycerides are thru the roof and I…
Stress, Anxiety, Fear....
How do you deal with your fears of the cancer, when your spouse (who has cancer) who understadably doesn't want to think about the what if's... and wants to stay positive and live day by day...and not in the future? I'm scared I'm going to get a small cold and end up making him sicker. I'm scared that we wont be able to…
I'm having a really hard time here......
I know the answers to all my whinny questions, but I have to ask them anyway. I'm on the verge of explosion here and need to let it fly. DH made it through almost a year of chemo/rad, colorectal surgery, colostomy, chemo again and was beginning to feel "normal". There was one point in his chemo that he wanted to quit. He…
Denial
My husband is in denial about his condition, I am actually afraid to tell him the truth again. Should I let him continue to think he is going back to work or tell him the truth again?....
Discontinued Zelboraf
Boy have things changed. Dad has been so very weak, hardly eating and drinking, and sleeping 20+ hours a day. We made it through the weekend with him very peaceful and calm and "glad to be home." No more agitation or signs of distress. He has been in bed most of the time since Friday evening, but managed to get up to the…
lucky
On days like today I just want to say "Tell me how lucky I am, because I keep forgetting" I come here to be reminded how truly lucky I am. Thank you my friends for the shoulder. Steve
What do you do when the support disappears?
My boyfriend was diagnosed with testicular cancer in July 2011. Since then he has had two surgeries and started chemo a week ago. In the beginning we had a rush of support from friends and family, people asking how they could help. I was fine for a while. I am a full time grad student, work full time, and take care of my…
what's better? CT or Pet Scan?
Do anyone know which is better? What is the story behind your answer?
Advice on Arragements
I guess it's time I started facing the finality of her condition. She is doing ok all things considered, but her strength is waning and she sleeps 80% of the time. Little appetite and hardly any desire for anything other than chocolate ice cream. Now my confusion....She will be buried about 2 & 1/2 hours from our home,…
Ok, going for a second opinion
Last week my mom's onc said she couldnt' have any more chemo. He said she's at a point where it won't do any good. He said she needs hospice. Today hospice came and the lady told my mom she doesn't need hospice. She's in really good shape. She's ambulatory, she's eating, she's having zero pain, she doesn't look too bad.…
Dear Caregivers...HAPPY THANKSGIVING
To my fellow caregivers, I hope that each and every one of you can find peace, love and thanksgiving tomorrow. Our roads are rough, our loads are heavy and sometimes seem too much to bear. But there are little rays of sunshine, sometimes hope and sometimes blessed miracles that get us through each day. Let's be thankful…
Don't feel very thankful right now
It's hard to be thankful when Cancer has turned our lives upside down. This holiday season is going to be the worst since my husband was diagnosed because we are at the end of our rope here with options. How do I pretend this season is going to be like all the rest when they won't and he might not be here much longer. How…
My poor hubby cant catch a break...MRSA now
Oh my. well my husband was diagnosed the middle of sept. He had a neck dissection and skin/vein graft from his wrist for his inside cheek and a graft from his leg to cover the arm. It all went very well, we spent 8 days in the hospital and then came home. We didnt make it to his first check up, he got an infection in his…
Thanksgiving to Caregivers
At this time of the year we have so much to be thankful for and I like to thank all of the Caregivers here for giving to us you love and support through all of our treatments. God bless and be with you Caregivers Hondo

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