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How do spouses keep from falling apart?
Married only 2 yrs Husband just had major colon surgery. They call it HIPEC. In hospital 1 month. Thought they had got it all but just this week his CEA has gone up to 21. I'm told by nurse not to be concerned but how do I NOT be concerned. How do I live and breath each day knowing he is sick? They tell us there is no real…
What did i do
Im an emotional wreck. Im angry sad hurt bitter depressed and i feel like everything is spiraling even more out of control. I cant handle his ups and downs on my own anymore. I have one friend that listens to me and all she says is leave him. I have no family this is my last option. My boyfriend of nearly 3 yrs has cancer.…
What did i do
Im an emotional wreck. Im angry sad hurt bitter depressed and i feel like everything is spiraling even more out of control. I cant handle his ups and downs on my own anymore. I have one friend that listens to me and all she says is leave him. I have no family this is my last option. My boyfriend of nearly 3 yrs has cancer.…
What did i do
Im an emotional wreck. Im angry sad hurt bitter depressed and i feel like everything is spiraling even more out of control. I cant handle his ups and downs on my own anymore. I have one friend that listens to me and all she says is leave him. I have no family this is my last option. My boyfriend of nearly 3 yrs has cancer.…
What did i do
Im an emotional wreck. Im angry sad hurt bitter depressed and i feel like everything is spiraling even more out of control. I cant handle his ups and downs on my own anymore. I have one friend that listens to me and all she says is leave him. I have no family this is my last option. My boyfriend of nearly 3 yrs has cancer.…
What did i do
Im an emotional wreck. Im angry sad hurt bitter depressed and i feel like everything is spiraling even more out of control. I cant handle his ups and downs on my own anymore. I have one friend that listens to me and all she says is leave him. I have no family this is my last option. My boyfriend of nearly 3 yrs has cancer.…
What did i do
Im an emotional wreck. Im angry sad hurt bitter depressed and i feel like everything is spiraling even more out of control. I cant handle his ups and downs on my own anymore. I have one friend that listens to me and all she says is leave him. I have no family this is my last option. My boyfriend of nearly 3 yrs has cancer.…
What did i do
Im an emotional wreck. Im angry sad hurt bitter depressed and i feel like everything is spiraling even more out of control. I cant handle his ups and downs on my own anymore. I have one friend that listens to me and all she says is leave him. I have no family this is my last option. My boyfriend of nearly 3 yrs has cancer.…
Coping when taking care of someone with mental and physical changes near end of life. HELP
Sometimes I feel like I'm at my wits end. I ask God to please help me because my mom can't get out of bed. I will probably ramble through this but I hope and pray that someone will take the time to read this. My mother has moved in with us. She has been here for 2 months now. I would not have it any other way. I love my…
Fiance's 2nd diagnosis - I'm so overwhelmed, lost and lonely
Life has changed so fast. How do I keep up w/everything? Last week my fiance of one month was diagnosised w/cancer for the second time. Six yrs ago he had Hodgkin's Lymphoma and two months ago was told he was cancer free at his 6 yr. check-up. Then I saw a mole on his neck and nudged him to get it checked. The biopsy came…
Daughter taking care of sick mom
Hello, I am new to this site, I have tried to write something for a long time, but it is so difficult to acknowledge what is happening. My mom has stage IV pancreatic cancer, she was officially diagnosed last february (she was feeling sick for more than 2 years, but all her exams came out negative). She went through 4…
Effects Of Smoking on Human Body
Effects of smoking on the respiratory system The effects of tobacco smoke on the respiratory system include: Irritation of the trachea (windpipe) and larynx (voice box) Reduced lung function and breathlessness due to swelling and narrowing of the lung airways and excess mucus in the lung passages Impairment of the lungs’…
Marriage and Caregiving
I've been too scared to write this for the past several years, but I came to terms with the fact that I need help. My husband was diagnosed with Stage 3 B-Cell Lymphoma 2 years ago. Both of his lungs collapsed and he was on life support for 3 days. He had to have his lungs drained, and was in ICU for 2 weeks. He ends up…
Effects Of Smoking on Human Body
Effects of smoking on the respiratory system The effects of tobacco smoke on the respiratory system include: Irritation of the trachea (windpipe) and larynx (voice box) Reduced lung function and breathlessness due to swelling and narrowing of the lung airways and excess mucus in the lung passages Impairment of the lungs’…
Article on how to best comfort your cancer patient as a caregiver
http://specialsections.suntimes.com/home/14176138-554/ten-tips-to-comfort-someone-with-cancer.html
What do you do when your stage 4 cancer patient won't give up drinking?
My husband was diagnosed stage 4 rectal cancer last June. He has had chemo and then liver resection radiation and now more chemo because of more liver lesions. He has had his first port pop out from the Vectibix chemo and a picc line put in which is now infected and another port just put in last week. Other than the…
Hugs for David and Cindy!
Welcome, Just wanted to post a response for you Cindy and David. Hopefully everything is going better in your lives. You are one terrific caregiver to your son and he surely appreciates everything you do for him. Prayers are with you and your family as you venture onto the next phase in life. Stay strong, there are…
Cancer of the small intestine
Cancer of the small intestine,I am scared since this is such a rare from of Cancer and was only discovered through an operation for chrons, I am a mess, I feel helpless, scared of the unknown. The docter is treating him for colon cancer. 6 chemo treaments then a CT scan to see if it has spread. We have just completed the…
New Caregiver and new to this board - any pain management or eating tips
My mom was diagnosed with stage IV kidney cancer on Feb 28, she has mets in her lungs, adrenal gland, left femur and two places in her spine. She had a kidney removed about 3 1/2 weeks ago. The cancer in the bones was not discovered until last Wednesday and I moved her in with me last Thursday (9 days ago), when she had to…
What do you do when not sick enough to put in assisted living, but need help and can't afford it?
My sister has ovarian cancer, that has spread to the brain. She has one surgery and may need cyberknife in the future. She has been staying with my sister, who has been unemployed and able to take care of her up to now. But the sister with cancer (never married) has always been self centered and argumentative, and is more…
How do you know someone is dying?
My mom has been going through chemo for about a month now for the third time, for the last week she hasn't been able to keep anything down and has been un able to control her bowls. It even got to the point of not being able to control it at all today. My sisters think she's dying, any advice?
Child (Daughter) Caregiver, sick parent
I'm new to this site today after the realization that I have become pretty resentful and angry toward just about everything to deal with my personal life. My mother has Stage 4 metastic breast cancer and doesn't seem to be getting better no matter how many treatments she tries. I'm the oldest of 3 girls in my family and…
HELP! Caregiver Depression...now what??
I have been sitting here not wanting to post this, because if I say it...I'm acknowledging it, and if I acknowledge it...its real. Depression that deep, dark hole that I don't want to have to struggle to climb out of...I've been managing to safely stay sitting on the edge staring down into it...but I'm afraid I have fallen…
lonely
Hello I am wondering if there are ever any other caregivers out there who feel lonely? I am taking care of my Dad so I am not alone but I still feel lonely. I am single and feel like I can't date since I am not working as a result of being a care taker. I am also not sure I am emotionally and mentally ready. I have friends…
Soap
My husband has stage four colon cancer that is treatable, but incurable. He is currently in very good health (despite the cancer) and receiving treatment after a long break. For five years we've been using home and personal products from a "natural" company, but for several reasons have discontinued our membership. I'm not…
It Seems We Just Began this Battle
I can't believe my husband was just diagnosed at the end of April with Stage 4 liver cancer, and our battle had barely begun. Paul passed away early in the morning on June 13th. While I am so relieved he didn't have to suffer for long, I was definitely not prepared for this - I guess I never would have been, though. Just…
Really Stressed Out
My Sister with Breast Cancer is staying with me, I am really stressed. I have alienated all my friends and most of my family. I have been unable to deal with my sisters smoking. She continues to smoke and she just cannot breath. She had COPD and Emphysema before she was diagnosed. My husband smokes too, and I am just not…
Is She Really Dying?
Hi there, My mother in law has stage four gallbladder cancer (spindle cell carcinoma) that was discovered after the removal of her gallbladder. Unfortunately it was discovered a few weeks after the gallbladder surgery and has spread deep into her abdomen. It was said to be inoperable. She has multiple tumors - one very…
Luck with diet changes?
Has anyone had specific luck with diet changes for the cancer patients? My dad enjoys a meaty southern diet but also loves fruits and vegetables. He loves coffee and sweet iced tea, as well as desserts. I have read about some really specific diets, but there are many and of course conflicting recommendations. I do want to…
Questions about being laid off while on work disability because of cancer.
My husband worked for a good company here in S.C. He has worked for them for 5 years and has been on disability with them on and off for the past year and a half because of metastatic melanoma. He has been hospitalized because of a brain tumor they were able to remove. He is being treated with ZELBORAF and responding well…

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