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Caregivers

Is She Really Dying?
Hi there, My mother in law has stage four gallbladder cancer (spindle cell carcinoma) that was discovered after the removal of her gallbladder. Unfortunately it was discovered a few weeks after the gallbladder surgery and has spread deep into her abdomen. It was said to be inoperable. She has multiple tumors - one very…
Luck with diet changes?
Has anyone had specific luck with diet changes for the cancer patients? My dad enjoys a meaty southern diet but also loves fruits and vegetables. He loves coffee and sweet iced tea, as well as desserts. I have read about some really specific diets, but there are many and of course conflicting recommendations. I do want to…
Questions about being laid off while on work disability because of cancer.
My husband worked for a good company here in S.C. He has worked for them for 5 years and has been on disability with them on and off for the past year and a half because of metastatic melanoma. He has been hospitalized because of a brain tumor they were able to remove. He is being treated with ZELBORAF and responding well…
YOU MIGHT BE A CARE GIVER IF...
If you are the only one left to take care of the cancer patient This is a true story about only son abandoning his terminally ill father because he could not bare the thought of watching his dad suffer and how one person was forced to take on the harsh world of being the sole care giver to a man who has been diagnosed with…
Cancer and Mental Illness
Are any of you out there dealing with being the caretaker for a cancer patient who has a mental illness? If so, I'd be interested to hear your experiences. How do you handle the added stress and difficulties? How you maintain your own mental health?
What should be happy times!!??
So here we are, not even a year after diagnosis of my fiancés brain tumor and surgery. He proposed to me on Valentine’s Day, what an amazing moment that was… for a little while. We are so lucky that the surgery had no effect on him thus far. He is back at work and healthier than ever now that the headaches are gone as…
How can the tables turn this fast.... I am supposed to be the caregiver for mom
I am supposed to be the caregiver for my mom. But now they are checking me for CML. And placed me on a lot of meds. I dont know how we are gonna make it. Friends started fundraisers but I have to keep my promise of keeping her home even if it means doing so from my own bed. SOrry you all I just need to vent.. Thanks to…
Anxiety over selling his car
I know it's the right thing to do but I am having anxiety over selling my husband's car this week. It's financially the right thing to do. He hadn't driven since June and I don't even like the car. I have been paying car insurance since then too so it doesn't make sense to keep it in the driveway. That is the only thing…
Chatting with old friends
I would like to say HI to all my old friends in the chat room. It seems I have been unable to get in the chat room or any chat room on the internet. Something must be wrong with my computer. Hi to CHERYL; and ldg aka Laura; and ali; and zinniemay; and joep; and LanaKaye; and erica and fireman aka roy; and Kelly and so many…
enabling versus caretaking
Hi My dad is going through chemo for the 3rd time. My Mom died 6 years ago of cancer so I am the caregiver. I know there are some things he can't do like the laundry but putting dishes in the dishwasher I think he can do. I feel like he takes advantage of me and I don't know what to do. I went away and had a great weekend…
Frustrated. Need input please
My 30 year old sister was diagnosed in June of 2011 with stage 3c Ovarian cancer. She has undergone a debulking surgery and has been on chemo since July of 2011. Her numbers are still not back to normal. A biopsy of a suspicious lump in her breast this fall confirmed it was metastatic ovarian cancer. Luckily she has fared…
hospice Hubbard House Charleston WV
What a rough week it has been. Had to move my wife to here for pain control dosent look like she will come home. but it is nice here they take good care of her and our family. time to make final arrangements. But she will be going home and we will miss her...
Wife of Lung Cancer Survivor
Hi Everyone, I am a proud wife of a survivor of lung cancer. My now husband was diagnosed at 24 and is now years later in remission. I am looking for advice on how to get my husband to talk about his experiences. He wants to leave everything behind him and not deal with any of it. However, I know thoughts still haunt him…
back with a vengance
My husband had a good 5 months without pain and very little side effects from the chemo, but now it looks like we are back at square 1. The past few nights have been so bad. I feel horrible because it hurts me to see him in so much pain. The pain meds help but its that in between time. Appetite is almost gone, that has…
Just venting
What do you when the person you are trying to take care of is just tired of being taken care of? My husband has stage 4 recurrance rectal cancer invading his bladder. Starting another round of chemo next week. He's tired, he's in pain and he's just plain frustrated. He's tired me pushing pills at him, trying to keep him…
I am Afraid and Feeling Weak
My husband is about to start his third battle in 3 years with throat cancer. He had surgery in March to remove the tumor and they got positive margins, so he will start chemo and radiation in the next couple of weeks. This is the second time for radiation for him, plus he is having weekly cisplatin so they are expecting a…
western MA groups
Hi my name is Heather and I am wondering if anyone knows of any in person support groups in the Springfield MA area? I am struggling and think it would be helpful to talk to another care giver. I haven't been able to get into the chat room on this site for whatever reason. My dad has colon cancer on the lungs and this is…
Sister-in-law lost job... what a God send for us
Funny how the powers that be work. My sil lost her job, right after we called in hospice for my wife. after fighting this crap alone for 4 years she is staying with us now. She worries that she is getting on my nerves and getting in the way. I just tell her she is truely a God send and that after all this time of doing…
needing advice about oncologist help
do not quit know where to turn my wife has been very ill for a long time before cancer of this jan. we were sent to a oncologist , after meeeting her she was a bit stiff but we decided to deal with it to get good treatment . she has had her first 5 day chemo 5 fu and had side affects when i told the dr.s nurse she was…
"Pity Party Antidote" ☺
When you've lined up the tea set for your "pity party" and start pouring your cup of "woe", you might want to watch this video. You may need kleenex but more than likely it will leave you inspired and perhaps a little more appreciative. It did that for me. I'm not being critical of wallowing in misery as I know I need that…
Does cancer sometimes have a smell?
I desperately need advice and I do not want to offend anyone but please respond if you can relate to this. My husband had prostate cancer 6 years ago and had it surgically removed and has been fine. For the last year he has had lower back pain which sometimes radiates into the legs and he has a smell, sickening sweet would…
How many ways can you lose someone
This is my first post. My husband of 27 years was diagnosed with stage 1 esophageal cancer in May of 2010. He went through chemo, radiation and surgery. In September of 2011 scans showed that the cancer had returned and gone into the bones making him stage 4B. He had 22 weeks of chemo and went on a break. In less than a…
What do I do now
My mom has Stage 4 lung cancer that has spread to her brain, lymph nodes, lower & now upper spine. She was diagnosed March 17th 2011 & has been fighting ever since that day. She went through whole brain radiation (which worked praise the lord), several rounds of IV chemo which she could not tolerate, a round of radiation…
My husbands last chemo
My husband was diagnosed with cancer in 2009 he has been through radiation and chemo for the last 3 years . The Dr. Reminded us that he told us the cancer would not be cured the chemo on would give him time. He is on the last chemo there is for him and we were told it is only to try for a little more time but don't think…
hospice called in
Hello everyone, After 4 years we had to call in hospice, man they got there stuff together. The outcome is now in God's hands and we are praying for the best and preping for the worst. It wasn't as hard as I thought it would be, seeing my wife laying in that hospital bed, she looks more comfy than the regular bed. More…
Caregiver Resentment
My longtime partner is nearing the end of their three year treatment for leukemia. I feel extremely lucky that their prognosis looks positive and they have been in remission for over a year. At the same time, now that they are out of the woods so to speak, we find ourselves dealing with feelings of resentment towards each…
Who takes care of the Caregiver?
It's been a long time since I've posted here. Many of you sadly are new to me which means the fight goes on and why would I think otherwise? Only my hope that strengh comes for everyone when needed. I lost my husband, Bob to melanoma in a one year battle, May 27, 2011. While fighting that fight my Mom's health took a turn…
I have a sick feeling
Hi, hope everyone is hanging on. I wanted to share this feeling I have. My stomach is queasy and I feel overwhelmed. today when my husband awaken and was getting ready for chuch I heard his voice. His voice sounds muffled-as if his throat is sore. THis has been happening for a while but he got upset when I mentioned it. It…
Hi Friends
Been a while since I have posted. Been through a lot. Husband has been in hospital again. Uptake on the patch to 100 mcg- 16 mg of dilaudid. Right now, it is day by day. My computer at home has a serious virus and I have not had time to take it in to get it cleaned. I see some have added hospice since then. My thoughts are…
It's not too late for you, if I had only thought of this when she was still here...
For this or other stories of care, grief and loss, you can read more here: http://hoogenakker.net/?p=664 Teri’s dad, Don has a certain way around small kids. Whenever a toddler or baby was crying, no matter where we were, Don could take the baby up in his arms and within a matter of minutes, the baby was quiet and usually…

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