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Young and feeling lost
I've been struggling to find the proper outlet for this... thank goodness a quick Google search brought me here and showed me there was a better place to cope than Facebook or Tumblr. My mother was diagnosed with cancer and was sent to a distant hospital where we don't have any family or friends. Our family decided I was…
Nearing the end?
My wife has had metastatic breast cancer in her bones for three years. I've read some posts from others where the cancer had gone to their bones. It's a very painful and debilitating disease. She's gone through 3 surgeries now to stabilize her large bones: right femur rod and pins, right humerus rod and pins, and most…
I am 25 year old caregiver to an active duty soldier and can I say Wow this really takes a toll.
Back in 2010 we found out my husband had mds/aml. I was pregnant with our third child and he was getting ready to deploy, I mean basically when it rains it pours. My husband has always been very healthy and active, independent, and a leader I mean goodness he has been in the army for 12 going on 13 years. Some days I never…
Venting
The last few months have been so difficult. In November my husband ended up in the hospital. The immunotherapy basically caused his thyroid to implode, meaning he no longer has thyroid function. He's on the synthetic thyroid medication that causes queasiness and nausea, so he wasn't eating or drinking - and when he did he…
Stress is a 4 letter...wait....6 letter word
So, I'm new to this....expressing myself in a Chatroom or Discussion Board. My first emotional unloading may be too much for some to handle. Hopefully, this will help me connect with others in my situation. Caregiving is not for the faint of heart....those weak of constitution....persons of perpetual pesimistic…
Here's how I'm handling my mom's passing
My mom passed away from uterine sarcoma cancer in 2014 after her doctor told her she was "cancer free". I now know that there is really no such thing as being cancer free. I was bitter for a long time about her death because my family completely fell apart after that. My sister had to go to a mental ward because she…
Bowing out to give family members more time with loved one.
This is weird. And different, I guess, than a normal caregiver situation? (statement and question). Background. For two years, 7 hours a day, 7 days a week, I took care of my best friends 92 year old mother-in-law. Right up to hospice. She was cantankerous with any and all family members and they just couldn't deal with…
End of life
My mom has terminal cancer. It has been a scary whirlwind. Last year she was diagnosed with oral cancer after being told what was wrong with her was gingevitis. She had a small surgery afterwards that the doctor said to watch it grow. I didn't accept that so she was taken to another cancer place where in September they…
Caregivers continue to work part-time at their job
I am running out of FMLA and could soon lose my job and insurance and income. I feel gulity about returning to work and not spending the time with my wife. Do any other caregivers continue to work ? I have family members that will help out if I go back to work part time .
Confused Daughter
My mom was diagnosed with oesophageal and liver cancer in December 2014. She started chemotherapy straight away and after an awful couple of months where she felt so sick and angry all the time that she could barely get out of bed we were given the great news that the cancer on the oesophagus had shrunk and the one on the…
Giving Advice
Hello All-- This is my first post in hopes of learning from others who are going through the same thing I am. Just over 1 year ago my mother was diagnosed with esophageal cancer. She has tumors in her esophagus, stomach and liver. One year later she is still on chemo bi-weekly to attack all the issues. She is doing as well…
Therapist
I was wondering if anyone here has seen a therapist for support? I'm considering it. This latest journey with my spouse with cancer is reminding me of my first wife 5 years ago ( I guess that supports the argument for not marrying soon). The only times it gets to me are the night after her chemotherapy and she lays on the…
Just a reminder
Caregivers need to take care of themselves. I just got back from an appt with a retina specialist. The scar on my retina which is causing a small blind spot was caused by stress. It appears a blood vessel ruptured and, fortunately, sealed itself off. The doctor said these are seen in people under extreme stress. No…
Cancer, the Ultimate Test of Friendship
Cancer, the Ultimate Test of Friendship Being diagnosed with cancer Separates our friends from pretenders Cancer provides a litmus test For those who we can trust Our quest is to survive And do all that we can to thrive No cancer patient should be left to ask why Or left alone to cry Why our family is now elusive as a…
A Quote to Start your New Year with
nevermind
nevermind. thanks
Holidays
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year or Happy Holidays! With all of the pressures and stress we face everyday, I wanted to wish you all some peace and love this Holiday Season. Every moment is so precious and dear. I hope you all make some happy memories and find a moment to be in peace and love. Know that you are not alone…
It's my mom, and I feel like I'm already grieving
My mom has advanced lung cancer that has spread throughout her chest and spine. The thing is, I have seen her suffer throughout most of my life. And for the past 12 or so years, her life has really been falling apart; not that it was ever all that put together. So...my heartbreak is immense, and I'm already grieving her…
Chemo brain
How do you deal with a spouse who is experiencing anger, aggression, resentment, and horrible mood swings? He is unwilling to even begin to think this is related to the cancer/treatment and claims he is being pushed to act this way (by wife, family, friends). The hospital says "keep the peace" and "reduce the stress".…
I don't know what I am--just fried
I read your stories and feel guilty for even complaining. I don't know what's wrong with me. My husband has Stage 2 Diffuse Large B Cell Lymphoma and a very good prognosis. He has a great attitude and has been appreciative of the things I've done for him. However I feel like I am coming apart at the seems. My house seems…
Looking for young female spouse caregivers
My husband was diagnosed on his 20th birthday with testicular cancer. It totally caught us off guard, we had been together for several years. He had one of his testicles removed, then we thought everything was okay. Exactly 2 weeks later, he had a seizure. We found out my husband had a brain tumor the size of a lemon,…
My Husband is Dying
I have dedicated a web page to my husband, Gary Poland, My Prince! It is; http://home.comcast.net/~poljea On April 28, 2008 My sweet, kind, loving, handsome, compassionate husband has been diagnosed with cancer. He has been given 3-6 months to live. I need to do this website for me and Gary. I started out doing this…
Is God preparing us?
I lost a coworker that was 51 to cancer last week. Lately I have been feeling like God is preparing us for the inevitable. We have recently decided my husband should go from short term disability to Long term and not return to work. I am taking 3 weeks off in December and we are going on a 1 week cruise (me and hubby only)…
Relay for Life
Has anyone taken part in a relay for life event? I'm thinking of joining one near me but I don't know much about it. Do I have to be on a team?
Diagnosis
My wife has a clear diagnosis-leiomyosarcoma. Rare form of smooth muscle cancer. PET scan reveals widespread metastasis. We are headed to Stanford Wednesday.
I am a new care giver
I am mel, my mother has stage 3 uterine cancer. We found out a month ago. She is 2 weeks out to the end of her radiation Then We do another CTscan and see if the tumor shrunk enough to do surgery. I am new to all this and would love any pointers and support. She is responding well to treatment but this waiting is driving…
My husband has a rare stage 4 lung cancer
In the beginning of the year I lost my job and June my husband (my love of my life) was diagnosed with a rare lung cancer and it's at stage 4. It's an aggressive and has spread. He has been in and out of the hospital and at times things got so bad that I thought I would lose him. But Thank God He Is Still With us. He has…
Infertility & Cancer
My husband was recently diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma. We're 33 and have no children. We were going to try next year but now with the chemo we can't. By the time he gets better, I'll be too old to have children. We were given information about freezing his sperm, but we only had two weeks from diagnosis to treatment.…
Rock Bottom in a Long Distance Love With Stage IV Bowel Cancer
Having searched for months, I'm relieved to finally find this safe place. I'm looking to share how broken I am in my relationship. I have been in an loving LDR with a lovely man for 2 years. My soul mate. A year ago he was diagnosed with Stage IV bowel cancer, and has been having palliative chemo. This has recently been…
How do we combat guilt?
My brother was admitted to the hospital in September because of some difficult symptoms. He had begun to lose the use of his left side and was falling more than we realized. He wasn't able to get himself into the bathroom in time and had some accidents. At that point he had been living in an in-law apartment at my parents…

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