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Sex and Cancer
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Overwhelmed and looking for help!!
My boyfriend is from Italy and was visiting me in the States when we discovered a large bump near his armpit. He was diagnosed with Burkitt's Lymphoma and was told he needed to start treatment immediately. We decided that he should stay and get treated in the U.S. It would have been too risky for him to go home, plus the…
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what do I do now
My husband has stage 4 matastic colon cancer. He has been going thru treatment since Oct. 6 monthes of chemo and 5 weeks of raditation. Now they are going back to chemo because of new tumors on his liver, but he is giving up. He has been in great spirits so far, until today and he has decided he is dieing and wants to stop…
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cell phone help for fee
if you are taking care of someone who needs a cell phone check out safelink.com they gave me a free phone with 68 free mins every month for emergency. this is a great thing that helps those that cant aford the little things.
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Liposarcoma patient caregiver
Dont really know what to say so I will get straight to the point....Karen has Liposarcoma. She was diagnosed in 1998, they supposedly got it all (was in her upper thigh), she became disabled in 1999, it either came back or she attained another primary tumor in her sacrum in 2007. She underwent 30 radiation treatments in…
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connecting with hospice
My husband is in the end stages of nsclc. I think it is time to get hospice involved with his care. He is very reluctant to let this happen. We have actually had an interview with them and they won't admit him without his permission because he is still coherent. I feel that I need some help managing his problems without…
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I don't know what to do
I am new to this sort of thing. I guess I am just reaching out. There has to be someone else out there like me. My sister has cancer. She is just getting prepped for chemo. A portacath?? The lingo is all so new for me I am not sure if I have it right or not. My sister is 1,000 miles away. I was there after her sugery and…
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Normal?
As I've said in a previos post, my husband has stage IV Colon Cancer,and yesterday we signed up with Hospice. He's on some new meds, and today we went to the hospital for a blood transfusion, and he really hasn't had any "good days" this week. Here's my question: He's been saying things that are completely off the wall--is…
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pancreatic cancer
My husband was diagnosed Feb.13th, 2008. I would like to talk with other wives whose husbands have pancreatic cancer. My husband is 55 years old and we have a 14 year old daughter. I am very frightened.
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Denial
I am not sure how to share this so I will try to present it as specifically as possible. My wife has stage 4 colon cancer. She has been on chemotherapy since December 07, Folfox and now Folfiri. Her last CEA “Dropped” from 96 to 95. Her last CT scan according to her oncologist was “Unchanged” meaning that there is still…
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Does anyone else ever feel ashamed when they get overwhelmed?
I am new here. My husband was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer on May 1, 2007. We have had many ups and downs along the way, but I have to admit that things are taking their toll on me now. He has become so weak now, but he's an artist and he has his work to keep him going. Sometimes I feel resentful that I am so…
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crying doesn't mean I'm not strong
Just about three years ago my father was diagnosed with colon cancer. Immediatley we were sent to do tests and scans and crazy stuff I'd never heard of. With in less than three months we was doing chemo, radiation and surgery. Since that point there have been few highs and many lows. It is so incredibly difficult to watch…
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Traveling
Hello-I am brand new here. Thank you for any words of encouragement, advice you can provide. My wife was diagnosed with Stage 4 Colon Cancer in November 07. Mets to Liver and abdominal wall. She had FOLFOX and now is on FOLFIRI. She seems to be doing well although her last CT scan in January revealed "some" mets to her…
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finances
Hi, I am new here, but my wife has been in for treatment for stage 1v lung cancer. She was given a complete response to treatment, but now it has moved to her bone and they are doing radiation.The Dr says he expects that this will stop it in it's tracks. Up until now we have had insurance and we continue to pay for it thru…
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Drugging the fear and pain away
People, I'm not strong. My wife, the patient, handles this many, many times better than I do. All at once, I have my wife's old breast cancer come back, matasasized (sp?) into lung cancer. At the same time, my girlfriend (it's okay, my wife approved) decided she wanted to be more responsible for herself and "independent",…
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How Did We Get Here?
2 1/2 months ago my daughter was a typical 18 year old stretching her wings and her independence, going to school, working and partying with her friends. Now she's waiting for her hair to fall out, her nausea to ease up and the clots in her arms to go away. She craves strawberries but she's neutopaenic so that's not an…
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new here
I'm desperate for contact with other caregivers. I feel like either screaming or crying I'm so confused. My husband was diagnosed with lung cancer in September and started chemo Oct. 6. He had a bad reaction to the chemo and was hospitalized. Nearly lost him twice that week. My "alert" button has been on since all this…
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Another tired and frustrated newbie
Hi Everyone: I am a new member and happy to have somewhere to connect to other caregivers. My mom has stage 4 cervical with mets to liver, lung and spleen. She is currently undergoing chemo for a second time....carboplatin and paclitaxol (sp?) once every three weeks. She wants to have more time and is so not anywhere near…
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I'm new here
I've been a member since last year, but I haven't been an active participant until now...I don't even know where to start...I guess I'm just looking for support and friendship from other people in my situation and this seems like a great place! I've been reading some of the other posts and there's some really great advice…
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chemobrain
I hate that term but thats what they called it at the hospital...anyone know if its permanent or will it go away?
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feeling so lonely
March 5, 2009 Hello, my name is Heather and my husband had postate cancer at age 45. The surgery was no problem. He was singing to the nurses the next day. (not so much a good thing :o ) PSA kept rising. So 37x rad next. This burnt his internal organs and he has been in internal massage for 5 years. He's lost his quality…
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husbands cancer has traveled to his brain, questions
HI NEW ON HERE, JUST RECENTLY HUSBANDS CANCER HAS GONE TO HIS BRAIN, HE HAD A RETURN OF MELANOMA FROM 8 YEARS AGO THAT WENT TO HIS LYMTH NODES, AND BACK, TUMORS GROWING DAILY, NOT ABLE TO REMOVED DUE TO HEART PROBLEMS, MY CONCERN IS THE DAILY WORSTING OF CONFUSION, SLEEPING ALL THE TIME, CAN ANYONE GIVE ME, OUR CHILDREN…
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how do i accept
how do we accept that our loved one has passed away after all that we have done and worked so hard for?How do i help but not feel that it was all for nothing if at the end of the day i am sitting alone with no spouse to comfort and love me.
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Lost my husband one week ago
I want to thank you all for being a place of comfort while my husband of 35 years battled pancreatic cancer and the strokes caused by the cancer. He lost his courageous battle on January 28th, slipping away in his sleep with his family at his bedside. Our sons were amazing helping out where ever they were needed and easing…
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Lonely Days
Hello Everyone Its been 4 weeks since I lost my Love. The days are so lonely it is hard to handle. I come home do the house work still have my boys to take care of. I think they are dealing with the loss of their Mom by staying active with their Friends and Girl friends. They don't seam to be around as much as they were. I…
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Caregiver advise on terminal sister sleepness
Dear Members, I hope I'm in the right place, to ask about terminal care. MY sister's husband is taking care of her, she is terminal. She is taking radiation to the brain,primary lung cancer, spreaded. I read that steriods and pain medication and radiation makes you tired. The problem my sister can't stay awake. I told my…
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Looking for Support for a Friend
Hello All, My good friend Chris has been fighting malignant melanoma for the past 16 months. Recently he completed a 52-week session of interferon and the prognosis in December looked promising. Unfortunately a recent PET scan revealed that the cancer has metastasized to his liver, 2 lymph nodes and 2 other microsites. The…
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WILL THIS HURT EVER GO AWAY?
It has bee almost 8 weeks since I lost my My Wife, My Love, My Best Friend. I thought the loss was starting to ease up, But I find myself Missing Cathy more and more each day. My friends have been very supportive along with all the wonderful friends I have meet here on the Site. Today has been extremly difficult to hold…
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How Can I Cope
Help! My husband has just be diagnosed with colon cancer which is fairly advanced. I am falling apart and don't know how to get myself together to help him. I just want to run away and hide yet I feel so guilty feeling this way. How can I get my act together to be of some comfort to him?
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We had to say Goodbye :(
Hi all. I wrote for the 1st time around January 15th or so and posted about my husbands journey and battle with cancer. Unfortunately this wasn't our battle too win. My husband lost his fight with cancer last Sunday February 8th. It has been 1 week today and I just can't believe all that has happened. The week preceeding…