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I feel relieved - is that normal.
My wife age 35 passed away on 10th Feb after a 15th month battle with ovairian Cancer, during that time I was the main caregiver, I just feel so releived that is over I dont seem to be griefing properly, I feel empty inside but I dont seem to be bursting into tears. Is this normal???
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I lost my Dad 1 year ago this New Year's Day and I haven't had a chance to accept that he's gone. I
My Dad was diagnosed in September 2008 with Stage 4 bladder, bone, liver and lung cancer. Previously, he was told he only had diabetic naropothy (spelling??), gave him a prescription and called it a day. I'm very angry with the VA for the misdiagnosis. I feel he was robbed of time. Had they caught it sooner, he may still…
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Plasmablastic lymphoma
Hi all, I am new to this, my husband was diagonsed with this in October of 2008. He was so seriouly ill that we almost lost him. He has surived surgery, 5 bouts of chemo, and now is facing a stem cell transplant.And I am so scared. I try so hard not to show him. He is doing so well, that some times during the day I think…
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Am I crazy???
I am new to this discussion stuff. My husband, Victor was diagonosed with Stage IV Kidney Cancer 4 years ago. But, he seems to like to blame me, alot. Sometime, I feel so a lone. I know he is the one with the Cancer, but I can't stop living. I know the time is near, and just wondering if this is normal, as I feel I have…
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donor
I have a question maybe someone can help. It may sound strange but ..I have been a registered organ donor for years God forbid something ever happened to me, but i would like to do more if i could while i am healthy and can give to others if needed. How do you register to be a bone marrow transplant donor or any other…
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Caregiver for husband, he lashes out at me
My husband has non hodgkins lymphoma. His last CHOP with Rituxan destroyed his heart. The lymphoma is growing in his abdomen and no treatment can be given. He can't eat very much. I want to be more understanding, but he gets angry a lot.
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Hospice comes tomorrow
My 59 year-old husband is nearing the end of his life on earth. He was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer that had metastasized in his liver at the end of July. We have had a pretty good 5 and a half months despite several small strokes. He has been a real fighter, but the chemo hasn't worked. Today we learned that his liver…
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First time here
It's 1:50 in the morning. My lifepartner is in bed and we have been told he has cancer. It's in his nostrils and roof of his mouth. We got the news about 2 weeks ago. His situation is more complex than most others ashe is battling HIV as well. My health is good (no HIV no Cancer). I am trying to break down the bills to the…
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Hi, I am new here.
Hello. I am new to this site, but I am reaching out as a caregiver because my husband has cancer. We have been married 12 years and our life has been wonderful. My husband was diagnosed in Oct 2007 with ocular melanoma with spread to the liver/spleen/brain. He has been going through radiation and chemo treatments ever…
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Husband has Pancreatic cancer He has become confused and so weak walking is hard eating little
I want to know if others who care for cancer patient have this happen he is on oxycontin 12 hour and 2 hour for pain over the last 6 weeks he is confused, and seems everyweek is worse. If I didn't feed him pill him and clean him he wouldn't know to do it He was always a bath clean person.. Now food is a problem Please can…
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i have a husband with pancreatic cancer
I am looking to speaking with other women whose husbands have pancreatic cancer. I am 51, my husband is 55 and we have a fourteen year old daughter. His tumor is inoperable.
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New to the site
I found out 3 months ago that my mother has stage 4 ovarian cancer. We are in the process of moving her into my home so that I can give her full time care instead of having to leave my children for weeks at a time to go to her house which is 400 miles away. I recently (Jan 12, 2009 at 2:27am) lost my aunt (mom's sister) to…
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Dazed and Confused
My wife of 25 years, age 46, (I am 56)is getting treatment for terminal colon and liver cancer. We have 2 grandkids, ages 8 and 10, that we have custody of. My wife has chosen to go stay with folks 900 miles away rather than stay here. The hospital where she recieves treatment is about 10 hours from our home and 8 hours…
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CAREGIVER QUESTION
My Wife of 25 years lost her battle with Cancer on Dec. 27th, 2008. We had her funeral yesterday Jan.3rd. The Service Was very nice with over 200 friends and family coming. The shock of losing your best friend is slowly wearing off. I have been her caregiver for the last 5 months full time and will start back to work on…
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TO TELL OR NOT TO TELL
My wife has stage 4 lung cancer and was given 6 months to live in sept 08. The Doctors never told her and it took a lot of questions from me to finnally get a prognosis. They finnally told me about the six months in Oct and suggested I contact Hospice. She is still in good spirits and makes plans for the future. She has…
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How can I lift my brother's spirits during radiation?
Hello, Unfortunately I am back again after losing my older brother and father to brain cancer and my mother to leukemia. To our disbelief my middle brother has been diagnosed with a malignant( clivus) brain tumor. He is about to begin a 7 week x5 days treatment of radiation with chemo weeks 1,4,and 7. I am looking for any…
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New to this
Hi! I am very glad that I found a support group for caregivers. My husband of 30+ years has recently been diagnosed with liposarcoma. He had a 10 pounded stomach tumor removed in June 2008 and has been undergoing chemo treatments. He just finished his 5th round which I hope will be the last. The doctor told me that there…
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i need some one to talk to
I am a caregiver to someone who has a very rare cancer there is no cure. We have been abandon by our friends she has family support I don't. I feel alone and very frustrated and I am scared for what is going to happen in the future.
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To all my Friend on this site
It is with great regrets that I let you know that my wife, My Best Friend lost her battle with this terrible dease on Saturday December 27th at 2:00 pm. She was a great person who brought a smile to all she meet. I want to thank everyone that has given me inspiration, advice, and trully showed me How Lucky I was to find…
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Partner's depression
Hi: I live in Australia and my partner was diagnosed with colon cancer in October. After seeing an oncologist and getting info about chemo (and having appointments set up for chemo preparation and delivery), he decided he did not want to go through with it. He did talk it over with the doctors and instead will be…
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Bad Smell
My Wife has terminal Lung Cancer and has been coughing more and more each day. Her cough now smells teribble almost to the point that you will gag. Is this just part of the Lung Cancer. Is there anything I should do? She is also having a lot of bumps comming up in her neck that are like marbles. Has any one seen this…
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Christmas
Does anyone have a suggestion for what I can do for my brother and sister-in-law for Christmas? She has oral cancer, a feeding tube and a tracheostomy. I live in another state and can not be of much help. I would like to give them something that would ease my brothers stress and cheer up my sister-in-law. Thanks
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I'm being pushed away
I'm 43...my beloved with Renal Cell Carcinoma is 56. We met 13 months ago after both suffering tragic losses. He, his wife of 34 years, me, my partner of 12 years.(neither loss was due to cancer). He was very open about his cancer when we met, never hiding anything. I fell in love with him very quickly. He became a very…
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he's still using alcohol, street drugs and tobacco....what do i do?
there's not much here in alaska as far as resources, but the medical team said that he probably wouldn't survive the surgery, he did. he's home now, but is still using and his family thinks that it my fault for making him so miserable that he HAS to9 use to live with me!1 not true, tho i can be a c--t at times, but only to…
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help me to understand
hello my name is byrd and my ol' man just had his voicebox removed in oct 2008, and just came home about 2 weeks ago. he's still smoking and drinking as well as street drugs now and then, and today he starts radiation. he throws me out every other night, treats me like ****, gets impatient when i don't understand what he…
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Please help if you can
The Love of my life for the past 25 years was diagnosed with Lung Cancer and a metastic brain tumor. She lost the use of her left side and had to have Brain surgery to remove 95% of the Brain tumor followed by Radiation to her Brain and Lung. She is very weak and canot have chemo. Is there any hope for me? The Doctors tell…
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guilt
My husband was diagnosed w/ matasticised nsclc "adenocarcinoma w/ 3 brain mets" july 30 2008. he did 14 rounds of radiation and is just finishing up his 12th day of chemo, cisplatin / navelbine. I work fulltime, take care of our 2 children and tend to him and dr. appts and the house and all that goes with that. He is…
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New and tired!
Hello everyone. I guess like everyone, I have one heck of a story and have been looking for a place for me to vent, help, talk, listen and learn. My father and I have always had a volatile relationship due to alcoholism and abuse. In February he was diagnosed with renal failure and dementia, so I took him in to take care…
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New to Board
My husband was diagnosed with stage 3C colon cancer last month. He had surgery and is recovering from a wound infection. He recently joined this discussion board and has found great comfort in discussing a shared enemy (cancer). I would love to hear from others who have experienced what we are about to undertake.
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pet scan today
my husband is going in today for a pet scan. it has been 3 months with new chemo . he was dx in nov 07 stage 3, chemo stopped in may 6 months completed in july pet scan showed mets to the kidney liver stomach and new tumor in sigmoid area so chemo started again now we will see if this new chemo has helped with the cancer.…