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mel mel
mel mel Member Posts: 4
edited March 2014 in Caregivers #1
hello everyone! I am Mel and I came here for comfort. The past few weeks, I have noticed isolation from family and friends. I feel like no one understands what I am going through. My husband has been battling cancer for the past 4 1/2 years. Just recently started treatment again. I joined to hope to find support and comfort from people who will understand. Happy New Year! I feel helpless and scared. But, like I always try to tell myself....One Day at a TIME!

Mel

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  • MR_SAD
    MR_SAD Member Posts: 91
    Mel_Mel
    All of the folks on this site are here to Help. We all have been through a great deal. If its questions you have or just someone to listen while you vent We are all here for you. Cancer is a Terrible thing for anyone to have to go through. Their Will be (as you know) Highs and Lows. Just rember you are not alone in this struggle.
  • zahalene
    zahalene Member Posts: 670
    Hello Mel
    I am glad you decided to connect with us. You will find some of the most understanding and caring people here.
    If you enjoy an 'immediate' connection, you might like to join our chat room. It sometimes takes awhile to load, but is worth the wait. If no one is there when you go in, don't be discouraged. We pop in and out all the time. The busiest times seem to be mid-afternoon and evening.
    Hope to see you there!
  • deanna14
    deanna14 Member Posts: 732
    zahalene said:

    Hello Mel
    I am glad you decided to connect with us. You will find some of the most understanding and caring people here.
    If you enjoy an 'immediate' connection, you might like to join our chat room. It sometimes takes awhile to load, but is worth the wait. If no one is there when you go in, don't be discouraged. We pop in and out all the time. The busiest times seem to be mid-afternoon and evening.
    Hope to see you there!

    chat room
    Where does one find the chat room?
  • MR_SAD
    MR_SAD Member Posts: 91
    deanna14 said:

    chat room
    Where does one find the chat room?

    CHAT ROOM
    GO UP TO THE TOP AND CLICK ON HOME ONCE AT THE HOME PAGE LOOK UNDER CONNECT AND CLICK ON CHAT
    THAT WILL CONECT YOU TO THE CHAT ROOM LOBBY. YOU CAN THEN PICK ONE OF THE ROOMS TO ENTER.
  • mel mel
    mel mel Member Posts: 4
    MR_SAD said:

    Mel_Mel
    All of the folks on this site are here to Help. We all have been through a great deal. If its questions you have or just someone to listen while you vent We are all here for you. Cancer is a Terrible thing for anyone to have to go through. Their Will be (as you know) Highs and Lows. Just rember you are not alone in this struggle.

    Thank you so much for the
    Thank you so much for the warm welcome. I did go to the chat room and it was extremely welcome. I am going to take advantage of this website as much as help. It was what my soul needed , thank you!

    Mel
  • mel mel
    mel mel Member Posts: 4
    zahalene said:

    Hello Mel
    I am glad you decided to connect with us. You will find some of the most understanding and caring people here.
    If you enjoy an 'immediate' connection, you might like to join our chat room. It sometimes takes awhile to load, but is worth the wait. If no one is there when you go in, don't be discouraged. We pop in and out all the time. The busiest times seem to be mid-afternoon and evening.
    Hope to see you there!

    Thank you
    Thank you for the warm welcome. I have takin advantage of the chat rooms. It was nice to hear everyones story and feel welcomed. I am going to continue to return to this website because it has made me feel much better.

    Mel
  • itismepsa
    itismepsa Member Posts: 21 Member
    Mel Mel
    I to had been left alone by family & friends when Bill came home from the hospital. I was tod about this website & found a whole lot of support & understanding. You will find this also. This is a wonderful bunch of people here.
    Paula
  • arbrab
    arbrab Member Posts: 55
    WELCOME
    Mel
    I had the same encounter with friends when my husband started treatment, it is a common thing. It is a test of who really are your friends. I found this site and then the chat room. It is a wonderful place to be, sometimes you don't have to say anything, just being there helps. It's true that sometimes the place is packed and you can't get a word in edgewise, but you can laugh at the conversations LOL. There are truely great people in there, I call them my angels, because they have helped me so much through all of the process of the loss.
    hope to see you there
    barbra
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  • nelsonjack
    nelsonjack Member Posts: 1
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  • Tonia11
    Tonia11 Member Posts: 57

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    New here..
    Hi, I'm new to this group. I've been posting to the Stomach Cancer since my husband was diagnosed in Jan. He was diagnosed with advanced, unresectable stomach cancer. The original plan was 3 rounds of chemo and then surgery. Well, the chemo had no effect on the tumor and then there was a questionable spot on his liver. So then, we tried to get in a clinical trial in Birmingham AL. We are in Atlanta. He did not qualify for the clinical trial because he did not test positive for some type of protein. So now here we are, we met with a radiation oncologist on last Friday. Hubby will begin a radiation regimen of 30 treatments on Monday. He is 38 yo and we have two beautiful boys, ages 11 and 7.

    I'm holding it together somehow. It's just so hard watching him suffer when he's never been remotely sick before. Today he had a stent put in because of obstruction at the top of his stomach. The dr told me he would be in pain and he would have some nausea. Well, he's been moaning in pain since we got home. I want to help but I don't know what to do. I'm hoping the meds just need time to kick in.
  • Roxanne_
    Roxanne_ Member Posts: 5
    Tonia11 said:

    New here..
    Hi, I'm new to this group. I've been posting to the Stomach Cancer since my husband was diagnosed in Jan. He was diagnosed with advanced, unresectable stomach cancer. The original plan was 3 rounds of chemo and then surgery. Well, the chemo had no effect on the tumor and then there was a questionable spot on his liver. So then, we tried to get in a clinical trial in Birmingham AL. We are in Atlanta. He did not qualify for the clinical trial because he did not test positive for some type of protein. So now here we are, we met with a radiation oncologist on last Friday. Hubby will begin a radiation regimen of 30 treatments on Monday. He is 38 yo and we have two beautiful boys, ages 11 and 7.

    I'm holding it together somehow. It's just so hard watching him suffer when he's never been remotely sick before. Today he had a stent put in because of obstruction at the top of his stomach. The dr told me he would be in pain and he would have some nausea. Well, he's been moaning in pain since we got home. I want to help but I don't know what to do. I'm hoping the meds just need time to kick in.

    I don't know if I can help but....
    I am very new to this network. My sister is about to start her chemo and I ended up here because ...well many reasons. So, I am here now for you to tell you what everyone has been saying to me. Be strong, keep talking, come here if you need answers or just to vent. I have found that has been key for me. I am not my sisters direct caregiver so I can't imagen what you go through, but please know that along with many others I have found on this site you have been added to my prayers. And like I told the others I pray a lot!
    Bless you, your husband and the boys!
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  • Tonia11
    Tonia11 Member Posts: 57
    Roxanne_ said:

    I don't know if I can help but....
    I am very new to this network. My sister is about to start her chemo and I ended up here because ...well many reasons. So, I am here now for you to tell you what everyone has been saying to me. Be strong, keep talking, come here if you need answers or just to vent. I have found that has been key for me. I am not my sisters direct caregiver so I can't imagen what you go through, but please know that along with many others I have found on this site you have been added to my prayers. And like I told the others I pray a lot!
    Bless you, your husband and the boys!

    Thanks Roxanne. I do pray a
    Thanks Roxanne. I do pray a lot and I read the Bible every night. This board has become an outlet for me although the stomach cancer board is very slow. I sometimes post on the colonrectal board just to get a response. But I'll come here as well to check-in when I can.
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