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MOM
I guess I am just looking for advice. Mom was diagnosed with a sarcoma, April of 2006 I was lucky to be with her the whole time in the hospital and then back to be with her in June and July of that year She did very well through Chemo, there were tough times and rough times and of course my dad was on a roller coaster with…
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sister has breast cancer
My sister is trying her last try at chemo. The cancer is now in the bone marrow. She is ready to give up. I can feel it. I am supporting her in everyway but it is taking a toll on me. Just need to talk to people about it.
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Losing my dad
Hello, everyone. What a wonderful place this is for all of us. I'm looking for strategies and support for helping my dad. He's got stage IV melanoma with mets in lung and brain. He beat melanoma twice 25 years ago. Now it's back with a vengence. The brain mets are causing him confusion and taking away his ability to be a…
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first day of chemo.........
I wanted to post this for anyone else who maybe facing their first day of chemo. For my husband the first time sure did have him and I scared,however,upon arriving our fears were quickly laid to rest. In his case,he only did a 2 1/2 hour push in short stay and was able to bring the 48 hour drip home,therefore,as I write,he…
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HELP!! MY FIANCE'S FAMILY IS TREATING ME LIKE CRAP-WHY?
HELP! DOES ANYONE HAVE PROBLEMS WITH THERE IN-LAWS BEING NASTY SINCE A DIAGNOSIS? MY FIANCE WAS DIAGNOSED IN MARCH OF 2009 SO WE ARE REALLY NEW TO THIS WHOLE THING. ABOUT A WEEK AFTER THE DIAGNOSIS HIS MOTHER AND SISTER HAVE BEEN RUDE AND PRETTY NASTY TO ME. I STILL HAVE NOT FIGURED THIS OUT BUT WHAT IS THE DEAL? ANY…
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How do you deal with others
I know everyone means well but, how do you tell people to back off and give me space. First I'm tired of everyone asking what they can do -- I have NO clue -- if I knew I would have already asked for the help. If they really want to do something for me - then take me out for a drink or cup or tea or bring me to a day spa…
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reversal and readjusting
i have m. s. and my husband had always been my primary caretaker then in this last year he got cancer . it was so hard on him to have to need my help and not still always be the strong one ... at first he refused to admit he was sick and needed help . once he could no longer keep denying it we had some rough time where…
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Wheelchair???
Hello, I am new to the website - and I am wondering if anyone has a transport wheelchair that is not being used anymore? Is there someplace on this website for finds like this? My mother in law is so frail but just insists on going out for a drive - she is all tired out just getting to the car. If I had a transport…
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Oral chemo drug
I am currently on FMLA from my workplace to care for my husband with NSCLC. He was diagnosed in Dec 2006. He had radiation & chemo back in Jan 07 and finished treatments by June 07. He had about a year with PET/CT scans showing up clean but had a recurrence show up in the lymphnodes and a tumor appeared in his neck in July…
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Well meaning friends and family
Just for tonight, I'm going to be an ungreatful sister. Everytime my brother calls to see how my husband, 49, with side effects from colon cancer, chemo side effects and surgery screw-ups, (36 day hospital stay because of a leak and now scar tissue) is doing, he gives us a "positive attitude" speech if we tell him anything…
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Caregiver Burnout
I am new at this so please be paitent. My wife was diagnosed with stage4 breast cancer in 2006. She has been the love of my life for over 40 years and now I have reached a stage in her care that has thrown me for a loop. I find myself angry,depressed and with very little paitance. I know I am not angry at her but the fact…
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mourning dawns blog
I am trying to fiind a blog or chat room called "mourning Dawns" for the people left behind from the battle of cancer I think it is for caregivers of EC
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My boyfriend has leukemia...I'm struggling
Hi All. My boyfriend was diagnosed with ALL(Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia) back in Sept 2008. It has been such an uphill battle since then. I have had such a hard time putting our relationship on the side and worrying about him him him! I feel like I can no longer come to him with my problems, my wants, my needs because he…
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Caregivers with small children?
My 32 year old husband got diagnosed with stage IV esophageal cancer on 4/23/09. He has fallen fast, and he is currently in the hospital. I have young children, 4 and 20 months, and I am having such a hard time balancing. I feel the need to be there with my husband, but our family has not been to forthcoming with help. I'm…
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my husband has gastrointestional cancer, has had 6 chemo treatments.
He has a feeding tube - a JPEG - and has not eaten anything by mouth for about 3 months and has no interest in doing so. His only activity is to get from the bedroom to the room that has his computer and HD television. He watches the Food network or Discovery, etc., and has totally lost his creativity - doesn't read,…
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Life has changed
Hi, I am new here and it has been 3 1/2 years since my husband was diagnosed with rectal cancer. He survived and we are eternally greatful. We are so different now, he is so different now. I think the hardest part of this has been that I used to feel protected by his strength and sheer presence and now I feel less…
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Update on ankle
A few weeks ago I posted about my fractured left ankle. I am a caregiver for my wife with stage 4 colon cancer, 18 months with chemotherapy. I needed surgery on my ankle, (June 2nd) a plate over my fibula and screws over my tibia to help with “Proper Union.” It has been a terrible experience, the pain was blinding, but I…
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Exhaustion, feeling desperate
Dear All. My mother has advanced colon cancer and in a 'last ditch effort' is being treated with Cetuximab. She developed an abdominal fistula end of April. We are originally from Denmark, but are expats in Belgium. There is no family left and I am an only child, and my mother's primary caregiver. I am a veterinary…
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Mother is getting weaker by the day and so am I
It is so hard with me all the way in Las Vegas while she is in Hawaii. However, I can't go and stay in Hawaii. I have a husband and daughter that need me as well as dealing with my own medical issues. I am trying to get my sister to go to Hawaii to at least try and help a little, but she is so selfish I don't think she…
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Wife has ovarian cancer, Mom has chronic pancreatitus and cihhrosis of the liver and I'm an only chi
Hi, My name is Brian. It's my first time on these boards. I'm an only child. My wife and I have 3 children together. She was diagnosed with ovarian cancer on 10/17/08, and it was staged at 1c on 11/4/08. Right after that my mother fell ill. After many visits to the Doctors and ER's at 2 different hospitals she is, for now,…
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looking for young adult children of survivors for documentary
Hi, both my mother and father suffer from cancer. My mother is a breast cancer survivor and my father is currrently struggling with multiple myeloma. I am only 25 years old and the challenge of dealing with sick parents has been quite tough. I think it is a unique and challengeing experience. An experience that people need…
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My husband doesn't want to be left alone
I'm having a problem because my husband doesn't want me to leave the house anymore. I have to rely on my mother and my friends to take my daughter to preschool, to take my older kids to their activities, even to do grocery shopping. He has stage 4 lung cancer, and I understand that he's afraid something will happen and he…
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questions about symptoms
my 39 year old husband has been having all kinds of problems and it seems as though the drs just keep pushing him off on another dr his grandfather passed first he had hip cancer then somewhere in his gi system....my husband has the same problems hips back legs head severe pain gi problems beleeding…
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Ankle Fracture
I have been my wife’s caregiver for the past 18 months. Yesterday I was outside working in the yard and fell-fractured my distal fibula (AKA fractured ankle). My wife couldn’t hear me yell for assistance and finally a neighbor came by and helped me to the garage. I am feeling sorry for myself right now. I am in a fair…
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Head above water...
Where to begin…. Well my step father has lung cancer …. My mother-in-law also has lung cancer … each with different types … with different treatments … it has been quite the experience learning about cancer … things that work with one don’t work with the other … I do the little things for them that I can … make food that…
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my husband is in denial
My husband has just been diagnosed with throat cancer and I think he is in denial. He says he is not angry (I am very angry at the cancer) a little scared but he expects he will be all over in a little. His doctor said he was "very stoic" when he told him he had cancer. But the next day he had a heart attack at home. No…
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Just plain worn out
My mother, who is only 58, is in the end stages of Squamish Cell Cancer of the vulva. My husband just finished getting his masters and is trying to find a teaching job and we have 3 year old triplets. We are living with my mom and I am her primary caregiver. And I am worn out. Last night I had to put a diaper on her, which…
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How do I help my husband cope with his anger?
Has anyone else experienced this? My husband has reached a point where he has begun to lash out at people. It has only been directed at me once so far, but I can handle it. Other people just don't understand how much he's going through. Now he has alienated his brother, an old friend, and a business colleague who is now…
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Im new here and looking for friends
I am a single mother of four beautiful children, one who is a cancer survivor. My son was diagnosed with ALL in 05 and is now cancer free! The last three years have been really hard and I am trying to rebuild my life with my children as the only parent. Looking for others in similar situations for suggestions.
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Newbie here!
hello everyone! I am Mel and I came here for comfort. The past few weeks, I have noticed isolation from family and friends. I feel like no one understands what I am going through. My husband has been battling cancer for the past 4 1/2 years. Just recently started treatment again. I joined to hope to find support and…