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My husband just finished chemotherapy a few weeks ago and everything seemed to be going pretty well. He LOOKS well and ACTS well yet the doctor recently told us that he thinks the cancer is back and that he needs to have a needle biopsy very soon and surgery soon after that because he about 98% positive about the results…
Parenteral nutrition
Hi All - My Dad's oncologist recommended IV nutrition via his port. Does anyone have experience with this? I've seen postings related to feeding tubes but not this approach. I'd like to understand some pros/cons if anyone has experience. Thanks, MaryJo
Where ya live
I live in Lawrence Michigan how about you? Zenniemay
Biopsy Monday
Please say a prayer for our family bright and early Monday morning, as my husband goes in for his biopsy. History - diagnosed with hypopharyngeal cancer w/spread to one lymph node, in July 2009. Had induction chemo and them chemo/radiation (no surgery). Had pet scan about a month ago and there were a couple of hot spots.…
My caregiving advice - Sorry in advance, I wrote a novel
Hi Everyone, I'm 25 and live in Boston, MA. I'm new to this site, and I really wish I had found it a long time ago. My Grandma was diagnosed with Tongue Cancer 6 months ago. She had a portion of her tongue removed along with some lymph nodes. The doctors wanted her to receive 6 weeks of Radiation. Unfortuntely she only…
What do I do about the wedding?
My daughter Jess is getting married to a wonderful young man in May 2011. I am now the primary caregiver for my Mother who was just diagnosed with cancer (Stage 4)and has many other pulmonary problems. Jess had been engaged about a month before all this started. Jess has had her wedding kind of pushed to the back burner…
Is the end near?
If it is true what the dr. say, three to six months to live, then October will be deadline. He gets sicker, then better, then sicker...back and forth all of the time. I, as caregiver, am totally depleted emotionally and physically. Is there a med for that? To top it off, I just found out yesterday I have to have a core…
Just need to vent
Hello-I just need to vent. Yesterday was an emotionally draining day. First I had to call the Dr. for a referral for hospice, then call the funeral home and pre plan. Later in the evening I had to call Dale's adult children and tell them the cold, hard facts that he is getting worse day by day. I don't know how I managed…
should I feel this way??
Hello everyone, I'm a caregiver for my son who has gastro esophageal stage 4 cancer. I'm not the only caregiver but certainly am doing all I can do for my son. The thing is, sometimes in the midst of work, home life, being around MY friends, I tend to .....not forget, but I guess it just looses power over me, like it's…
Stupid Friends
How do you let your friends know that you are disappointed in them without hurting their feelings? I am so tired of asking for their help. They were all there for my husbands surgery but seemed to disappear after the first round of chemo. Don't they know that this will continue until October and then only stop if the…
Frustrated...She won't talk or complain
My mother has rectal cancer along with a myriad of other health issues. Her diagnosis is fairly new...about a month now...and she is now living with me. I am frustrated because I can not get her to tell me if she is feeling bad. I ask when I see her grimace in pain or if she is looking particularly gray that day and all I…
one day at a time
my husband and i reunited after 20 yrs of no contact. We were married less than a year later. Our 1 yr anniversary is next week. He is 38 has stage iv lung cancer. he has only one lung left with six spots. Trying to take all of this one day at a time....but the pain is unbearable....
Getting tired
ok. i need to have a confessional. I am tired. My vacation time is being taken up by caring for my mother and her illness. I can't clean my own house becuase i am tired from cleaning my mothers. My mother lives in a different state and my suitcase hasn't been put up since May. So you see my mother is new to this cancer…
Feel so much Anger
Does anyone else feel anger about what is happening with the way cancer is treated? I am reading some of the posts over at esophageal cancer and it makes me upset and angry. i have lived in Germany, Australia and Canada ..so i know what so called "socialized " medicine is and how people there get services we do not get.…
I am in hell
I feel like I am in an impossible situation and need any advice I can find. My wife currently has brain cancer and was treated with whole brain radiation therapy shortly after being diagnosed three months ago. For financial reasons we are not presently living together. We both lost our jobs after we returned from our…
So over this crap... ugh.
My DH has a GBM of the spine... DX in March... We have a 13 yr old, 5 yr old and 6 week old- I was pregnant for the beginning of this, now I am "single Mom" to my kids- baby and infant of a husband... down to wiping his poop and cleaning up after his when he goes in his pants... plus he resents me I think- for not doting…
David54, how are you doing?
Just wonder how things are going with you during this difficult time. Keep in touch and let us know. THoughts and prayers are with you buddy!
How do you guys keep your head up?
It is so difficult for me to see my mom feeling so listless and depressed (she just hit her halfway mark with chemo for breast cancer). She is constantly apologizing for not being "herself." I take everything so personally - I try to remember it's not me, but I love her so much and we are so close, I tend to let it affect…
eyesight and chemo
Does anyone know of the effects of chemo on the eyesight?
about to have a meltdown
Sometimes when it rains it pours. I posted here before about being a caregiven, then patient, then caregiver again. My mom died from cancer almost 7 years ago after fighting it for 20 years. Dad had melanomas last year and now was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma April 1. His arm was broken by the tumor. He received radiation…
Dad is getting a break!!
Just got home from the doctor with Dad. His latest CT shows no change in the liver mets he had, so no better, but no worse. During the last visit, he asked the doctor for a break after this, as the post chemo confusion and hallucinations were getting to be too much. Since his doctor believes in quality of life over…
Relatives-ARGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGH!
My mother who is undergoing chemo wants to have overnight visitors. i've told her this is a bad idea because the only spare bathroom we have is her dedicated bathroom and no one but her immediate family needs to be in her living quarters due to sanitary issues and he fact that my relatives are broke inconsiderate and loud.…
It has been one heartbreaking year :'(
A year ago today, my beloved mother passed away. I am only 17, was 16 then. She was the only one to comfort me at hard times, so now I am lost without her. Besides Mother's Day, today has been one of the realest and hardest days I have yet to live without her. & I think I have finally realized I have been in shock and…
Has anyone else gone through this as well
Hi everyone. My mother currently has stage 4 breast cancer that has metastasized to the lungs. Her battle has been long and drawn out; it's been almost 16 years of on and off cancer. I've been my mom's primary caregiver since the age of 12 and am feeling like I am loosing her. She has always been sensitive to cancer…
Am I right, am I wrong?
My wife had her second paracentesis in two weeks for almost 8 liters of fluid. Bear in mind she is only about 5ft 2 inches and now with the fluid loss she weighs about 70 pounds. She has been miserable. She was up all night because her distended abdomen was causing her so much discomfort, hard to walk, no caloric intake. I…
Cancer....Divorce....What To Do?
My mom is going through chemotherapy currently and they're discussing the possibility of surgery when her platelettes jump. I am currently the oldest of three (my brother is 18 and my sister is 7) as well as my fiance who all live in the house with my parents. Currently, my fiance and I have not moved out due to my parents…
mom fainted during chemo
My mother is in her second session of chemmo. She went to the office yuesterday and came home with the package and today is the first day she had the box. She went to lay down and fainted falling off the bed. The oncologist told her to go the ER. They have her under cardiac observation. Is anyone else going through…
Don't Know What to Think
It's my first time posting because I need the ears and support of those going through caregiving hell. My 72 year old father was diagnosed with poorly differentiated neuroendocrine carcinoma of the pancreas back in February of this year. He's been through the whipple procedure and 4 rounds of chemo (cisplatin and…
Managing nausea
My friend has cancer of the appendix. Her chemo schedule is every two weeks. During sessions 2-4 she had medical marijuana which helped with the nausea and she was able to function pretty well. Now, the MM isn't helping. Any suggestions on 1. how do deal with the nausea and 2. how do I find someone who has survived this…
erbitux
ANYONE dealt hear with the effects of erbitux. 13 week sinto treatmnet of erbitux only. Very very dry and burney skin + acne ususal etc. ideas, treatments? Wifey WANTS TO STOP TREATMENT because of difficult effects. Clear

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