Daughter taking care of sick mom
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Ask for Help
ANA2012,
I just read your post. You are getting burned out, now is the time to ask friends,family and
even a support group in your area to help. Anyone from your church willing to spend a couple hours with your mother. Even your mother might enjoy have others around. If she is able to get out,
go for coffee, walk in the park, or even just a car ride around the area. Your brother should beable to help in those areas. He is apart of the family, ask him if he can help, and what
he would feel comfortable doing for his mother.
Talk with your hospice nurse that comes, they have volunteers that will spend
time with your mother, and she may enjoy seeing a new face.
Being a caregiver is one of the hardest moments in life that one faces, but it can
also be very rewarding. Please take time for yourself!
Take Care!
Carol0 -
Thanks Carol for yourBenLenBo said:Ask for Help
ANA2012,
I just read your post. You are getting burned out, now is the time to ask friends,family and
even a support group in your area to help. Anyone from your church willing to spend a couple hours with your mother. Even your mother might enjoy have others around. If she is able to get out,
go for coffee, walk in the park, or even just a car ride around the area. Your brother should beable to help in those areas. He is apart of the family, ask him if he can help, and what
he would feel comfortable doing for his mother.
Talk with your hospice nurse that comes, they have volunteers that will spend
time with your mother, and she may enjoy seeing a new face.
Being a caregiver is one of the hardest moments in life that one faces, but it can
also be very rewarding. Please take time for yourself!
Take Care!
Carol
Thanks Carol for your suggestions, I will try to do that, and will take time for myself. I am taking her out sometimes, when she feels with energy, It does help to change places and not just being inside her house. I have tried with my brother to help but he has a new job and has to travel, so it makes it even more difficult for me to tell him to be with her. I agree totally with you, that being a caregiver is the hardest and overwhelming experience one can face. Thanks for listening and posting, It sure makes me feel relieve to know that there are people out there that understand what I am going through.0 -
Prayers and Good thoughts
Hello ana,
I am new to this site also. Like you, I am a daughter caring for a sick mother and I have yet to write what I am going through because it can be so hard to put into words. You're entirely right. It isn't fair. This disease is completely unfair.
Another suggested turning to family and community. This sounds like this might be a good option for you. You could have a support system to aid in visits with your mom, or even a support system to help you take care of you and your family.
I will think of you and your family. Sending good thoughts and prayers.0 -
Thanks snk1787snk1787 said:Prayers and Good thoughts
Hello ana,
I am new to this site also. Like you, I am a daughter caring for a sick mother and I have yet to write what I am going through because it can be so hard to put into words. You're entirely right. It isn't fair. This disease is completely unfair.
Another suggested turning to family and community. This sounds like this might be a good option for you. You could have a support system to aid in visits with your mom, or even a support system to help you take care of you and your family.
I will think of you and your family. Sending good thoughts and prayers.
Thanks for for kind words, I had to hire someone to take care of my mom, when she was admitted into Hospice, they told me she would last 2 weeks, but it has been more than 2 months since then. She has a strong will to live and to be honest, beside God's will, her courage and strength is keeping her alive, she has not accepted that she is dying... But it is so heartbreaking seeing how she is declining, as much as she fights the disease is progressing...
I honestly don't know how I am managing, my family has been very supportive, but everytime I spend time with my mother, it drains all my energy and I get a mix of emotions, to the point, that I feel numb...I can not describe what I feel...
Whenever you want to tell me about your story, I will be here to listen...it is comforting to listen to others that are going through this terrible experience...
my thoughts are with you also..0
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