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The ups and downs of confusion
I must say that the hardest part of going through watching a parent get sicker is the confusion. What confuses me the most is the same thing that gives me hope. It is the fight that they give. One day you could swear it will only be another day or two and the next s/he is fighting to the end, sitting in the hospital bed as…
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Is it normal to be very selfish
If this appears like a rant, there is a very good reason for that. I need to get it off my chest but more importantly, I need to know am I insane or are my girlfriend's doctors insane? I have been with my girlfriend for since 2000 and from my side it is not a good relationship. By 2002 I simply had enough, and told her I…
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Hello! Just venting.
My mom was diagnosed April 2003 with stage 4 laryngeal cancer. She had a long hospitalization after her laryngectomy with several complications. After 3 months in the hospital she went to rehab...then radiation began. I guess for me, I have a lot of mixed emotions. Not only dealing with the idea that I may loose my mother…
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i need help
i need someone to talk to. my husband of 30 yrs has just been diagnosed with mouth cancer. and i'm afraid. he keeps talking overdoseing to end it all. if anyone cares to talk e mail me . kathie
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What to do next!
Hello everyone!! I am a caregiver for my husband Bob. I am trying this section again as I have been on the colon cancer section. I am looking for some answers or just to chat with someone in my situation. If Tessyann is on I sorry that I haven't answered as I didn't know anyone answer my last listing. I have be beside…
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Find it emotionally difficult to leave the house, even to find a job
After 3 years of dealing with my wife's breast cancer I lost 3 jobs and now I've seemed to have lost confidence enough to even go out to apply for one. This is about 6 months after she has been in remission from the mastasis in her bones. She still has alot of pain to deal with, however even with the money we get from her…
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ONLY CHILDREN = ORPHANED ADULTS
I'm starting this group for people just like me. Maybe, by writing this, and by you reading this and share your stories, we can get through this grief together. Though, I am 38 years old, tomorrow turning the dreaded 39 and holding, I still consider myself an orphan at this age. It has been a little over 3 years since my…
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Drugs
: Science Friday will be discussing the Drug Companies and whether they are interested in Cures or Profits tomorrow. The program usually airs at 10 AM in my area;check your local PBS station. bud
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Family
My husband is 42 years old and had been diagonosed with squamous cell carcinoma (anal cancer) in Sept 2003. We have two children - 4 years & 11 years. The effect of this is hitting our family. The four year old is extremely sensitive and does not like to be corrected and the eleven year old (yes it is that age as well)…
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Newbie! Hello everyone!!
Hi everyone!! I think this might be the whole wrong site for me, but this is about the last site my search brought up. So, let me introduce myself - my name's Chrissy, and I'm 20 years old. Cancer unfortunately runs in my family. My Grandpa had cancer, he passed before I was born from it. And last year my mom was diagnosed…
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Newcomer...
Hey... I just found this website up on my computor when I came to check my email. I'm guessing that my mom accidently left it up. She was recently diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer. She did about 6 weeks of radiation and chemo and will be undergoing surgery by the end of June. My family all depends on me to hold…
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Support Group in Alabama
Fellow survivers here who live in or near Alabama, who would like to start a support group in North Alabama Please email me at krp@hiwaay.net My name is Kevin.
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Feeling Overwhelmed
A very dear family friend (I call him my Dad), who is 68, has just been diagnosed with brain cancer. 2 years ago he had rectal cancer, had surgery, was doing great for over a year, when it returned to his shoulder, in his humerus bone. They did 3 weeks of radiation, it is still there. A week and a half ago he fell at his…
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Rad. Ther. Instructor Needs Your Help
I am an instructor for the Radiation Therapy training program at Foothill College in California. Our class wants to participate in this discussion group for educational purposes. Our question to you is: As Radiation therapists, how can we make your treatment experience better? What are the most important issues to you as a…
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i just want my mom to be better
my mom broke both of her upper arms 8 years ago. the right one never healed so she had total shoulder replacement surgery so she could hold her great grandbabies. 2 weeks after her surgery she got staph infection and had to have it removed. my dad and i have been her care-takers for the last 20 months. she had 10 surgeries…
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ex is abusing my 3 yr old who has brain cancer
I need your help. I have a three year old son with brain cancer and a family law judge that has given his abusive father unsupervised visitation with him in the hospital which resulted in the father emotionally the child during visits. The judge has confirmed that the father has engaged in domestic violence and has ordered…
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MOTHER IS NOT BEING TRUTHFUL
MY MOM HAS MUTIPLE MYELOMA. SHE IS ON DIALYSIS 9 HOURS A DAY BECAUSE A SECOND TYPE OF CANCER (AMALOYDS) HAS COMPLETLY SHUT DOWN HER KIDNEYS. SHE HAS 3 DOCTORS APTS EACH WEEK AND WILL NO LONGER TELL ME ANYTHING. SHE JUST SAYS "OH IT WAS NOTHING". HOW DO YOU GET A PARENT TO UNDERSTAND YOU CAN DEAL WITH THINGS BETTER IF YOU…
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Cancer over and over again
My Grandfather died of lung cancer. My Father died of colon cancer. My Father in Law died of liver cancer less than 6 months ago. My Mother was diagnosed with ovarian cancer a week before Thanksgiving. She is undergoing chemo and suffering from the side effects as I write this. It is very difficult to see so many wonderful…
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need to talk
i would like to get into the chatrooms but my computer won't let it open any help would be appreciated. thanks
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any advice?
i am so glad that this is here for care givers. my mom ended up in the hospital again and we almost lost her once more. she was too sick to eat or drink and had 10 i.v. fluids within 12 days. she also has congestive heart failure so too many fluids can (and were) dangerous. the drs. said that she had so much fluid that her…
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death of loved one
My husband, age 53, passed away on June 24 from Adenocarcinoma of the gastricintestional system. He was diagnosed on Feb 14 and only lasted 4 mos. He lost 75 lbs in that 4 months and only weighed 95 lbs at his death. This is a terrible time for any of us who lose loved ones to this terrible disease. My prayers are with all…
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my dad had cancer... looking for help
Hi. My names andrea, i live in ottawa canada, and about a month ago my father passed away from cancer. He had non hodkins lymphoma.. he had only been diagnosed last february,t hey did chemo, radiation and stem cell.. but nothing had worked. I'm having a very hard time dealing with this.. it all happened so fast and im…
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I'm new; what do I do?
My husband was diagnosed with bladder cancer 2 years ago, and when they removed his bladder, they thought they had possible gotten all the cancer. Last Sept., he started having pain and losing weight. They did many tests, and couldn't find anything in his side, or behind it. When they looked down lower, they found another…
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Coping with the thought
My wife was diagnosed with Endomitrial Stromal Sarcoma, in September, 2003; after a year of test upon test proving negative. Now, with a vague figure of 6mo. to a year to live, just how do you prepare yourself? It's a constant battle of ups and downs, anger, hate, but always trying to put my best face forward for her sake.…
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mom can't deal with dad's cancer
about a month and a half ago my dad was diagnosed with colon cancer. he has a chemo pump that he has filled every tuesday and he has to go have radiation treatments every day. they are planning surgery in the fall followed my more radiation and chemo. the problem is that even though my dad seems to be dealing with this…
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How my grandfather lived and died
Hi, I just wanted to tell my experience. My grandfather died last month on December 23rd of lung and stomach cancer. He was a doctor himself and had diagnosed his own condition in December of 2002. But his dream was to live and die as a doctor and didn't tell us, his family, until the day he checked himself into the…
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Anyone in my situation? (I'm <30 y.o.; mom is stage IV, has 6-12 months)
It's been a long, long process--my mom was first diagnosed almost 15 years ago with breast cancer, had a double mastectomy and was told that everything was gone. Then 10 years later they discovered that it had returned and metastitized. At that time they gave her a prognosis of 6 months, but here she is 2 and a half years…
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Hi
Hi my name is Mandi I am currently a caregiver for a 60 year old lady that has been given 3 to 6 months to live as this is her 3rd battle with cancer and it has taken over her colon, liver, and stomach. She has recently signed a DNR and is considered a hospice patient now. What can I do to keep her spirits up? Is there…
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Does my mom have Survivors Guilt?....
Shortly after my mom was told she was in remission from her cancer in Feb, she was on top of the world, looking forward to many more years watching her grandson grow up and having a new respect for life. Last week, she confessed to me that she feels really down & has zero motivation to do anything or go anywhere & is…
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Watching my mother die
My mother has breast cancer, she got a clean bill of health 1 year ago. Our family just found out the cancer spread, Everywhere they have given her 6 months to live that is with chemo. The chemo may or may not work. My mothers health is just going down hill so fast. She has had two chemo treatments so far. I need to know…