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Grief and Bereavement

Staying with the plan vs moving on
We are 2 days away from our 3 weeks holiday to San Francisco and LA. After our second child was born in 2006 hubby and I pencilled in this trip for this year for our family. Both girls would be old enough to enjoy the trip. It will be 3 years this December since we lost him to GBM. I decided at the start of this year to go…
Our Anniversary
45 years ago today Doug and I were married. I miss him, but today I am going to concentrate on celebrating the time we had together. We were blessed with a wonderful family and friends. We didn't get the chance to grow really old together but we did, in many ways, grow up together. We met when we were 18 and married at 21.…
looking for funeral assistance for cancer patient who passed away on sept 5, 2012
My brother, Steven passed away on September 5, 2012. He was diagnosed with terminal mouth cancer a few years ago. He lost his job do to his illness and was on a very fixed income. My sister in-law has no way to pay the funeral bill. The total for the funeral is $3,000. We have asked family and friends to help with the cost…
Coming up on one year- what to do?
Well this time a year ago my father was just placed on hospice, and he passed on September 6. While I have taken that day off from work and am having a Mass said for him and my mother (her birthday would've been September 13), besides visiting them at the cemetery, are there any other ideas out there? How do people handle…
Can't stop crying---just want to write
We are home from the hospital. We have hospice now. I'm probably the only person who has ever said this but I HATE HATE HATE hospice. Oh, they are nice enough and helpful but I hate strangers in my house, trying to hug me though I've only known them an hour, talking to me about things I don't want to talk about, telling me…
My wish on your Birthday
My Dear Wife, The only wish I have is for us to spend this day with you. You are missed by many. We love you!!! Nick, Stephen, and Steve.
Cindy.... thinking of you everyday and every minute....... that's all I have to say
I think of you all the time. nOTHING MORE I CAN SAY....
My mom/everything/best friend passed away June 2012 from GBM IV
Hi,my name is Christi and I am 28 years old. My mom had me when she was 20 and I always appreciated having a young mom as I thought we would both grow old together. I never wanted to have to live without her. My mom was and still is my best friend, everything, other half and my biggest cheerleader. She was everything to me…
I need advice....
Hello everyone! I need some help... my husband lost his mother to lung cancer at the end of July. This has been very difficult on all of us! My husband was very close to his mom! She was the type of person who never judged she tried to make light of every situation and my husband could call her for anything and now she is…
Rough days
It's been rough. Since the day David was admitted---a week from yesterday--I've been going arounds and around with the staff about how much medication David was not getting, especially the pain meds. It was a problem because he can't swallow them, especially the extended release morphine. I finally actually drew a little…
dating dilemma,im wondering if anyone....
Hello. Im 28yrs old,and i recently lost my mom to cancer in febuary.we were all shocked because it was so sudden,and have all been dealing with our grief the best we can. Part of My issue is this-the boyfriend i am currently with will be the last one who will ever meet my mother.this devestates me. We dont seem to be…
New mom without a mom
My mom passed away this past Saturday morning, 7/21. She was diagnosed back in March, had surgery in April to remove the mass in her throat, and was given 6 weeks to recover so we could start radiation, but she never recovered. Everything that could have went wrong did. Pneumonia, strokes, cardiac arrest... All of this…
Back again.. back in the hospital.....back here on grief and bereavement.......
On Wednesday David's home health care nurse said David's left lung sounded terrible and his oxygen saturation level was in the 80s so we went to ER. They did a chest X-ray and admitted him with aspiration pneumonia. Said it can get bad fast. They also did a CT of his brain and at first the nurse read the report and told us…
It's not self pity
Ok, I swear I won't write an entire book this time. I just need to get something off of me and this place seems to really help. Besides the anger issues I'm trying my hardest to deal with today something hit me with so much enormity I had to pull my truck over because I was bawling so hard I couldn't see to drive. I…
Strange dreams about my mum.
Mum had breast cancer for about 28 years before she finally died 8 years ago at the age of 90. I adored my mother, we took her and dad shopping every fortnight for about 17 yrs. Even though she was 90 when she died, I was totally shattered. It doesn't happen quite so much now, but I have weird dreams about her. She's alive…
Lost a good friend, I never met
Last night when I went on Facebook, I saw a message from Glenna Ross's daughter saying that she had passed away. The tears immediately started running down my face. Although we never met, she has been such a support for me since my husband, Tom passed away 2 years ago. She was fighting her battle with lung cancer, but yet…
Well Here I am.... my Husband is Gone
I posted on the head and neck forum that my husband, Bob, passed away on 6/17. He has been battling the beast for three years and was doing really well. He had an airway obstruction, followed by cardiac arrest and passed away. Ugh.... was very scary but it was his time. He was a true warrior and even his doctors have told…
no more chemo..probably
Well, I'm back again. I am probably going to be a regular here since I am having a hard time (just like everyone else) and I need a place to say what I'm feeling without breaking my family's heart. It adds to their pain and grief when they see me crying and miserable. I try to keep a grip on my emotions but it's taking a…
Things Do Get Better
Things do get better. At least for me they have. Doug's birthday was yesterday. The moment i woke up in the morning i knew what day it was. Yes I felt sad and lonely, but I was ok. I didn't hide out for the day, isolating myself. I acknowledged to myself that it was a hard day, harder than most, but after almost three…
feeling lost and not sure what's going to happen
My mother has been fighting stage 4 breast cancer for the past 2 years with radiation and chemo but I just got the news that she has taken a turn for the worse. I am 27 years old and I have a 21 month old daughter of my own. I live in CA and my mom and dad and 3 baby sisters live in FL, so I am flying there this up coming…
Broken hearted
Hello. I don't know the purpose of posting here....maybe to vent, maybe to sort out my feelings, maybe a safe place to pour out my pain and sorrow? I used to post a lot in the brain tumor forum but since this is cancer SURVIVORS network, I feel that I shouldn't damage people's fragile hope by crying all over that forum. My…
New mom without a mom
My mom passed away this past Saturday morning, 7/21. She was diagnosed back in March, had surgery in April to remove the mass in her throat, and was given 6 weeks to recover so we could start radiation, but she never recovered. Everything that could have went wrong did. Pneumonia, strokes, cardiac arrest... All of this…
My Wife
My wife Susan was diagnosed 6 years ago with 1b1 while she was pregnant with our second child. After she was born my wife had a radical hysterectomy. The oncologist said pathology showed no activity in any of the many lymph nodes he removed and she had a 90 percent chance of survival. Three years later, she was feeling…
Changes
Hi - been posting here on and off for a number of years, when my wife was ill and after she died, two years this July 29th. Not sure if this is where to post this but can't think of any other venue at the moment. I was married for 32 years before I lost my wife. She was ill for almost 3 years before she died of her cancer…
Having a hard time..
Hi, My mother died this past December 2011..3 days after my 26th birthday. She was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer in October 2011, and it had already spread to her liver, lung, and bone. I didn't and still to this day can't comprehend it. It happened so fast, and me and my mother were so close. I am the youngest of three…
How do I deal
How do I deal with losing my best friend to cancer after I have survived it?? I have survivors guilt and don't know how to deal with it.
I'm Not Angry
...I'M MAD AS HELL ! ! ! ! ! Life has become nothing more than a zombie existence. Try as I might to go about living like she would want me to, I cannot stop thinking of how wrong it is that she died so young. Drunks survive horrendous accidents, drug dealers survive multiple gunshots, overdoses, etc, etc. No, I'm not…
2 months
It has now been two months. The eyes still water when I think about her. Day by day drags on with the hope that it will get easier. Maybe when that day comes I can look at her picture and smile.
Mother Died Almost a Year Ago, Still Being Chastised by Sisters (I Was Primary Care Giver)
A couple years ago, I moved from Los Angeles to Hawaii to be with my dying mother. She was dying of leukemia, although I did not know she was that close to being at the end. I have 5 sisters, I am the youngest, and the only man in the family. I chose to come home to be with mom. One sister lives here, the rest live in…
Today
Today I will be repainting our sons room. My wife painted it a few years back, we got a new bedroom set from her mom. He wants to brighten his room up. It is a hard thing to cover her work, but I know life goes on. Rhonda I miss you!!!

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