-
activities
Hi all - my mom has late stage primary liver cancer. There's not a whole lot she's able to do...she has problems with her eyes and can't focus to read. She sleeps most of the time, and when she's awake is incredibly fatigued so moving around isn't an option. She has tremors and such so anything requiring fine motor skills…
-
Violent Delusions?
My husband has become convinced over the last week that I am "trying to poison" him and that I am "the Antichrist". Giving him his medications (Ativan, Morphine, Dilauded, Prednisone, and oral 5FU) is becoming harder. Tonight he grabbed and twisted my arms for over 2 hours while screaming that he is being held prisoner…
-
managing lung cancer cough
My mom's late stage ovarian cancer has spread to her lungs, and her occasional coughing spells are getting worse and more frequent. Besides codeine cough syrup, do any of you know of other ways to manage the cough? I did some research that suggested inhaling steam, but wondered if anyone tried it.
-
Mom is stage four small cell lung cancer
Hello, Mom was diagnosed with stage four small cell lung cancer with mets to brain, liver and bones on June 15. She has tolerated three rounds of chemo pretty well; just tired...but Decadron and other anti-nausea helped with side effects. She was in ER the week after first round of chemo due to a bladder infection. She is…
-
Emotionally and physically spent
Not even sure where to start here. This has been a week from He**!!!!!!!!! My dad has been deteriating so quickly it's making my head spin. He started getting numbness and weakness on his right side. I've noticed it was getting worse for about two weeks. I finally got him to mention it to his hospice nurse... She did a…
-
Daily Imodium
This is my first post on here. My mom was diagnosed two weeks ago with melanoma that spread to her lung and brain. She had two radiation treatments and decided to stop treatment and receive hospice care at home. She is 81 years old and is living with my dad who is taking care of her. What is unnerving is that she is…
-
sodium levels
Has anybody here ever had low sodium levels? My husband has been in the hospital since Wednesday evening with low sodium levels and pneumonia. He saids that he was feeling real weak. He had a low grade fever that is why I took him to the ER. The doctor said that his sodium level was 126 but he wanted it to be at least 135,…
-
kimmygarland?
I have found myself wondering about kimmygarland. Has anyone heard from her?
-
25 yr old husband with possible renal cancer
My husband is 24yrs old and had a 4.5cm mass found on his kidney 3 months ago. The radiologist and urologist decided it was a complex cyst, and we needed to rescan in 3 months. Well...the urologist called today and said the radiologist was more concerned this time, so a total nephrectomy is coming up. We meet with the…
-
Brain Mets...and have a fantastic day!!!! (some sarcasm)
So, we had a PET scan 16 days ago showing no further spread, Cancer of Unknown Primary still in Lt. Axilla only...but Monday night, my husband became confused again, responded to a trip to the ER and IV saline, was GREAt Tuesday morning....tuesday night...confused again, back to the ER, CT scan performed...lesions…
-
no insurance -suggestions please
My MIL never had a job so she has never contributed to SSI. My FIL is screwed up from nam and never had a conventional job. He has an at home business repairing pianos. To my knowledge, he proabaly hasn't contributrd to SSI. Both have no insurance (my FIL) has benefits thru the VA hospital. They own a house, but struggle…
-
Hello Caregivers
Hello, I'm new to the site. My husband has stage 4a tonsil cancer. I think that's what it's called. He has a tumor on the left side of his neck. We found out about all of this a couple of weeks ago. It started as a lump in his throat. The family doctor gave him shot of antibiotics and a prescription but it didn't help.…
-
The End is coming
Well it's been awhile since i posted: Things have not been great honestly.My dad is getting worse quickly. He's been doing so well for so long. And all the sudden we hit a brick wall!! He is 58 years young. Stage Iv stomach cancer mets to spine esophagus and kidney possible brain. We've been in hospice for the last four…
-
New to all of this....
Hello, my 86yr old dad was just diagnosed with stage 4 non-hodgkins lymphoma. Because of his already ill health, weakened condition, dr. is only giving us a time-frame of "months" (because dad does not wish any treatment or want to "fight" this). Needless to say, many many decisions to make very soon. I simply want to…
-
How to cope/help a person who is in pain?
When you are seeing a person with cancer in pain and there is nothing you can do, what do you say?
-
dad hovering between reality and denial about his health
Taking dad for a followup with his Onc tomorrow. Finished round 3 of 160 mg Temodar (3 wks on/ 1 off) which is treating stage 4 melanoma with numerous lung/ brain mets. During the first week of the last round I had to take him to ER for chest pains. Not his heart, best estimate was tumor pain. (Had been very lethargic,…
-
a poem titled "Will We Ever Know"
Will We Ever Know Tears are inseparable from cancer In a similar way compassion is bound to our hearts wings Cancer leaves an undeniable grip on us as we breathe its danger Upon hearing about someone’s battle and all that cancer brings Our very steps are stopped in their tracks Before we can catch our fleeting breath A…
-
dealing with a borderline sibling while caring for dad
Does anyone have any tips one dealing with the out-of-town borderline sibling? Our dependent dad has stage 4 melanoma, in the brain and lungs, and he is doing "OK" at the moment, all things considered. Not so sound trite, I know she has a very real problem of her own (but will not get help), but I cannot handle it and have…
-
for those who don't receive a reply
For the caregivers who don't receive a reply I commend you for your commitment and faith in your patient. We are a rare breed who are willing to change or give up our lives to care for our loved ones but what a price we pay. The pain we feel will be there long after our loved ones have passed and for me I will be left…
-
Need a better frame of mind!
I am overwhelmed with sadness. Her diagnosos came only 2 months ago. Lung cancer that had also moved to her brain. They radiated her brain and the maintenance medication has made a vegetable of her. She is 77. Overcome many a health issue before but it seems she just isn't going to take the next 6 months of chemo standing…
-
It's Gettin to Me
Watching her strength, stamina, memory and just caring slowly disappear is really getting to me. Going from a patient, do anything I can, caring husband when she's awake to an angry, resentful, don't give a **** about the world zombie when she is asleep. I can't accept this torture she is having to endure as part of any…
-
Comics to laugh and cry with
My kids subscribe to this online comic and passed these on: http://xkcd.com/933/ http://xkcd.com/931/ (Sorry, have to copy and paste as I STILL haven't learned how to make links.)
-
When is enough enough
Hello - I have been around before. My wife has lung cancer, mets to brain and cancer in csf that is not going away. She has been in a rehab facility since April and had been back to the hopital several times for infections that cause her to have confusion. She still wants to receive her chemo treatments. However, she has…
-
Hello - I am new here
Hello - I am new to this forum. My husband had a GBM tumor, brain tumor. He needs help 24/7, I am currently working part time, how much longer I don't know. It all depends on how much longer work will put up with me. I do need a little income to make it. My husband had surgery on 6/3 and the doctors said they removed it…
-
how to help others
I have a friend who comes on and chats once and a while. this last few weeks have been so hard on her and her family . Her A/C/ went out , she had people come to work onit but , what ever they did DID not work. She lives in Greer South Carolina , right now it is 85 in her house. Her hubby has Brain cancer . I am wondering…
-
new here - and I sure could use someone to talk to
My husband has pancreatic cancer, and it was resected in early May thanks to the great docs at Mayo Phoenix. He is in really poor health, doesn't eat hardly at all, and is not strong enough for adjuvant chemo. We are here just the two of us (although have good friends) and I'm just looking for some folks who understand…
-
Pancreatic Cancer
My husband was diagnosed w/pancreatic cancer on 05/26 and since has had his pancreas removed and is at home recovering. He now has to take Creon - 24,000 Units with every meal. He only has Medicare A & B coverage but not D. We paid the full price ($589) through Rite Aid. In our search for assistance to help us pay for…
-
Checking in
Hello Friends, I know it has been quite awhile since i've been on the boards. Life has been very busy as of late for me and my dad. My dad has been admitted into the hospice program in the last two months..Dealing with so much medical stuff.. and getting his disability started and all the roadblocks that come with that, I…
-
Mom pushing me away
It's been 3 months since my mom's diagnosis of Stage IV NSCLC, EGFR positive. Doc says without treatment 6 months, with treatment maybe 14 months. She is 78 yrs old and a never smoker. She is currently in treatment taking Tarceva. She is doing ok despite lack of some appetite. Sometimes she has the energy to go to the gym…
-
pLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEZ HELP
I want U all to be praying for me, as I have shared on here before, I take care of 3 people and right now I am sick myself, and well my grandma is down ill to, she has been at ER all day, Pleez pray for us!