Emotionally and physically spent
My dad has been deteriating so quickly it's making my head spin. He started getting numbness and weakness on his right side. I've noticed it was getting worse for about two weeks. I finally got him to mention it to his hospice nurse...
She did a "field test" a week ago yesterday... On Monday he started slurring his words..
~ points toward stroke symptoms right??~
I was watching him closely. He was becoming more tired, agitated. He kept blaming it on not working.
Fast forward to yesterday his hospice nurse came in as she does weekly. I made my concerns known. She then called his oncologist that has been treating him for his stomach cancer. He said to take him to the ER to have a ct ran to check for a stroke... Little did I know that would be the lesser of all evils in my opinion.
After sitting in the ER waiting room for about 4 hours we finally get taken back *they did put him in the pediatric ER to prevent him from being sick while waiting to get in a room. They did the ct scan and blood work monitored him..ect.
Many "emergent cases" came through the er so we were shuffled room to room waiting and waiting.. 8 hours into our wait the doctor finally came in, told us he was sorry that the ct film got put in the "nonemergent" pile that would be read by neuro the next morning. But Good News NO stroke... So we were elated for about 2.4 seconds. until we were told he has mets to the brain.. I still haven't recovered...being 24 hours later.. I walked out to the parking lot sat on the concrete and cried...
So now after everything else we've been through here we are going into Radiation to treat dad "asymptomatically" Im really wondering if it's all worth it anymore. Prognosis very grim.
I am so beside myself the strongest man I've ever known is nothing but a shell of who he was. Now he can't even raise his own head. I am doing his feedings every 6 hours Jtube. Giving him steroids *for the brain swelling i forgot to mention* I brought him back home this evening. Yesterday he was doing things for himself..
I know it's a matter of time but is it even worth trying anymore..radiation i've heard so many bad things about it. The hospice nurse is even telling me that we will be lucky for him to last through the radiation 10 sessions he goes M-F so two weeks.
I just don't even know what to think.
Anyone have any suggestions Please Help!!!
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