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Newbie saying hello
Hello - I have met some of you on chat and thank you all for the uplifting of spirits.All those I have met have been such nice people with terrific humour and never failed to make me laugh :-) I have put our story on my page but bottom line is husband Stage IV lung cancer with mets to the brain and I am newly emigrated to…
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When is the time?
4 months ago I led the perfect life. Then we found out my 37 year old husband had stomach cancer. From there the downward spiral began. We have a 4 year old daughter who has watched her dad go from 175lbs to just 123lbs. We keep trying chemo but of course nothing is working and cancer just keeps spreading. We went in for…
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Keeping Watch
Patrick's tumor started bleeding out yesterday. And still he fights. Had a bite of pot roast yesterday which is the first food he has had in weeks. And he woke up enough this morning to hold a cold beer. I remember in September when it was such a struggle for him to breathe. Now it's like he can't stop. Stubborn man just…
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What now
Today Hubby (Greg) when for Ct scan.. Saw doctor said everything looked good,lungs sound good, but have not seen Ct scan report yet..Came home Doctor called, the tumors in Greg's Lungs had started to grow.One is 4 (was 3) one was 4 (7). Now will have to choose Chemo again or wait for the tumors to grow a little more so he…
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Carboplatin/Paclitaxel
These are my dads chemo drugs. he will begin his first chemo treatment on Feb 9th, I was wondering if anyone here could give me some insight on what to expect from his treatments, as fas as side effects go. I did do reseach on both of them,but looking for thoughts with anyone who has personal experience. They said they…
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New and Scared
I am new to this and yet not so new. I am a nurse and I have gone through this with my mother 6 years ago. Now it's my exhusband (how strange), the minute I found out I moved him home with me and realized he wasn't to be an ex. He has stage 4 stomach ca. I'm lost, I'm scared. I get angry, I cry. I had just started looking…
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Break on through to the other side....
my pop's journey with cancer ended today. it was so incredibly peaceful...he didn't struggle or gasp for air...he just stopped breathing. i was in awe of him really....he went the way he wanted to! literally, 30 seconds before he died my very most favorite cousin (whom also lost her dad to cancer) walked in the room. that…
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what in the crap do i do now????
i slept till 10 this morning. we laid my Pop to rest yesterday. i think he would have liked what i did....no flowers on this man's casket...only his motorcycle jacket and I put his road demon bell in there with him (and of course his cigarettes...lol). he had songs picked out for his funeral for at least 12 years. go to…
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Taking over my mom's care: please help!!!
I am hoping someone can give me some advice on this. I am 25 years old, and my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 breast/bone cancer last month. It has not gone into her organs yet, which I think is good news. She is a very strong person. She has taught elementary music for 35 years, and I am taking over for her until her…
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Gamma Knife Surgery - I hate this cancer!
After Bob’s brain surgery on January 12th it had been decided that he needed to be treated with Gamma Knife Surgery. This procedure was done on Tuesday, February 1st, it was a long process that started at 6 in the morning and we walked out of there by Noon. In the two weeks after Bob’s brain surgery his tumor had started…
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What I'm giving up for Lent
I'm not Catholic or Lutheren, but I have decided to give up something I greatly enjoy for Lent this year to reflect on life and my place in the world. For Lent I am giving up sleep. Why? Because I'm not getting any anyway. In the handbook that everyone knows about but no one bothered to give me, they tell you to get an IV…
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My husband is not bright
I've had to wait almost 24 hours to share this, as I wanted to give Doug a chance to post on the H&N list: Doug had his PET/CT scan last Tuesday and the ENT called with the results Friday. He said he sees no bright spots, which means no cancer large enough to be picked up by the scan. He will still operate next Tuesday to…
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completely overwhelmed
My husband was treated for ocular melonama in 2003. A routine liver scan and follow up CT last week have revealed "suspicious" lesions on his liver. He is scheduled for a PET scan next week before the definative diagnosis of metastatic melanoma is made. I lost my mom to lung cancer this past August and my dad has also been…
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Need advice, alcohol abuse after surviving
My husband has been cancer free for quite a few months, his CT Scan/PET Scan is on Jan 5. I have always bent over backwards and forwards because it's what you do for a loved one. I'd run across the world back and forth if I had to. But, he has been having a hard time coping with the aftermath of being laid off, cancer, and…
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Fitting in
Some times I feel like I really don't fit in... Why I don't know, I am so blessed as I read others post about their struggles. My HUsband Dx LArynx Stage 4 Squamous cell Cause in 2009 and by 2010 mets to both lungs. He is still active, like today he replaced the back brakes on sons car. She eats good and dones pretty much…
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Waiting on an Angel
wow...was cruising youtube yesterday. (music is my saving grace for everything!!) found a song by Ben Harper called Waiting on an Angel. OH MY....it is so very appropriate. i cried for a long time.....sitting there listening with tears streaming down my face. it's awesome....check it out.
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The post I dreaded having to make
Unfortunately, my husband Mike lost his battle to stomach cancer at 5:45 AM on Sunday January 23rd, 2011. During his 7 month battle, he was an amazing fighter, always staying strong mentally, and fighting with grace and humor. We were all amazed that he ALWAYS said thanks when you did anything for him, even when he was in…
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Thank You - Pawing It Forward
Thanks to all of you who have made my husband's last wishes possible by supporting Pawing It Forward. Please visit the Facebook Page to see pictures and updated info. Miss Judy Brown is about ready for adoption. Then we can rescue another dog. Skipper
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3 to 4 days..... :(
dad's hospice nurse came today and after her assessment told me he had 3 or 4 days. he most likely has swelling on the brain which is causing the confusion and the combativness. wow...i feel like i'm finally able to take a deep breath...and actually let it out. there i go again, going through the motions. i've made most of…
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dodged the bad news bullet today
Had a bad day today...disagreement with my partner, F., got crappy news at work, etc, and raging pms on top of it all, but we did get good news at his oncologist appt to get scan results. The second two rounds of carbo/etoposide seem to have shrunk the tumors in his lung and adrenal glands (the first two rounds didn't show…
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No birthday cake today
My husband died 3 weeks ago almost to this very minute. It still doesn't seem real most of the time. Today would have been his birthday. No celebration with birthday cake or going out to dinner today. Instead we visited his gravesite for the first time. That turned out to be an interesting outing. He was buried at a…
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Dilirium
Does anyone here have any experience in dealing with dilirium. My wife who is 53 has advaced cervical stage 4B and is on a pain pump using hydromorph and the last 2-3 days she has become really dilirius. Problems in knowing the time of day, what day, what is happening, etc.. Just wondering if anyone has dealt with this as…
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wishes
May the raindrops fall lightly on your brow. May the soft winds freshen your spirit. May the sunshine brighten your heart May the burdens of the day rest lightly upon you. And may God enfold you in the mantle of His love.
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Happy Birthday to Pat, April's hubby!
April and Pat, may tomorrow be a good day for you both! Everyday together is a gift! Blessings and good wishes, Lucy
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Tips n Toes
Anyone who talks to me on a semi-regular basis understands what I'm talking about: getting my nails done and getting a pedicure. This is the ultimate ME thing I do ($50 every 2 weeks and I feel like a million bucks). Last year at this time when we hadn't been invaded by the boogeyman, I could have cared less. Only the…
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Afraid the end is near for Dad
Dad had, at least, 7 seizures Sunday. When the nurse came on Monday to check on him again, she asked me if I had noticed the color of his legs. Now the splotchiness has gone all the way to mid chest. He's been so doped up on morphine and ativan he's only been up twice since Sunday at Noon, and both of those times hubby had…
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UGH!!! I think the radiation is finally hitting
my dad. It makes me so sad to see him so weak, and tired, and pissy crotchety, man is he crotchety. He said the last 2 days have been hard on him, I've stayed away do to running a fever, and body ache ( felt ok enough to go see him tonight for a bit ).. He is having radiation done on his back, and hip. He said he feels so…
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Be with me - i nees caregivers perspective
Hello , im usually on the head and neck. My wife who is Fancini Aneamic and after 4 surgeries the last year and another 3 in previous years , has finally had to succumb to the "no choice" of radiation, which is considered life threatening. This is because Fanconi patients who are prone to malignancies and bone marrow…
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Just Want to Scream
I'm beginning to feel i need to disappear from society, family etc, etc. Nothing makes sense anymore. Can I just go to bed and pull the covers over my head? Dont' know how to deal with losing someone I love or how some people don't deal with it.
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Back In The Saddle Again
I like that one by Aerosmith. I am sooooooo sorry I haven't been posting! Pat had a friend over since Friday, someone he has known for a long time. I have had such a good time listening to all the stories from back in the neighborhood, seeing Pat really get involved in the conversation, and having such a good time myself I…