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No More Suffering
My sister passed last Friday 9:20 am. I was suppose to be there at noon to let my other sister go to work. She went within 20 minutes. I prayed the Lord would take her quickly and he did, all of us thought she had a few more days but she did it her way. I am broken hearted, we had her visitation today. I thought I was…
Where to go and what to do!
Good day everyone! For the past several months my boyfriend has been sick and lost nearly 40lbs. After numerous ER and Doctor's visits he was finally admitted into the hospital where he stayed for 2 1/2 weeks. The doctors advised us his blood shows signs of cancer (His red blood cells are low and white are normal)and he…
Support groups and resources for young adults losing/having lost a parent (in New York)
Hi, I'm caring for my mother who is in the final stages of hospice care and could go in days, praying weeks. I'm having the toughest time finding support groups. I live in New York so you'd think it would be easy. I'm 24, so anything geared toward a young adult losing a parent would be particularly helpful, but if there's…
Do I Notice If Others Treat Him Different Now?
Today as my husband and I are riding in the car doing errands he turns to me and asks me if I've noticed others treating him any different now that he has been diagnosed with cancer. You are kidding, right? Of course they do, just as I have treated him different since his diagnosis, why wouldn't they? With care, concern,…
Silence
I hope I'm not the only one who has experienced this. Out of all the things that I've been dealing with and working through, this one seems to be the one I just don't know what to do with. My house is officially too quiet. The TV downstairs is off, I'm not running the humidifier any more, I even turned off the fan…
Happy 72 Birthday in Heaven Dad
Hello my loving caregiving friends, I just wanted to post that today February 26,we are celebrating my dad's 72 birthday in heaven! May he continue to rest in peace. We love you and miss you. We will see you on the "other side". Love always and forever, Tina, Chris, Amanda and family
need some input please
I'm not sure where this should be posted but I need some input about making items for patients. When we were at the oncology department yesterday they had a table set up with items free for the patients. Hats, bags,pillows, coloring books etc. I would like some input from you as to what some other good items would be. I…
Nearing the end
My sister is nearing the end of her fight. We had a hospital bed moved into my mothers living room last Friday and she has been in it since then. Hard day yesterday I questioned hospice if we should even try to feed her. The poor girl has been vomiting even with small amounts of water. Hospice said to quit feeding her and…
Nasty road
I think that today was the start of our nasty downward spiral of death. I woke to my husband telling me he thought he has pneumonia again. Mucus/bile everywhere (clothing,bed floor). Hospice came, no pneumonia but did do a little fluids. She said this mucus is the dying process. His body is unable to move the secretions…
Live Again
Feeling nothing Lonely empty You try to walk away but you fall You cannot understand what's this for In this world I see it more The pain you feel that I have known You see my face and then you see nothin' Confused. you turn and live on I turn my face You're staring back and then Look at yourself and live again Can't see…
How can I manage everything?
My husband was diagnosed with Renal Cell Carcinoma Subtype translocation xp 11.2 in August of 2010. He had a right nephrectomy and lymphnode dissection. It had metastisized to his bones as well. This is February and we were just told that the Sutent is not working. His bone lesions are growing and there are many more of…
Loss for words
First write that on your calendars. I'm never at a loss for something to say, even if it's wildly sarcastic and inappropriate. But if I got a laugh it was worth it. I know a few people have been following me (stalkers! yaaaay!) and anyone who has knows two things: 1)I share everything no holds barred and 2)I'm very…
how can i help him
hi everyone, this is such a good site for anyone with cancer or who knows someone with cancer. my partner suddenly ended our 5 year relationship blaming it on the situation and saying things like " i still love you but im not in love with you." 3 months later he finally told me that he had cancer and had started treatment…
When to start hospice?
My mother-n-law has been fighting cancer in various forms for over 20 years. She has had breast (right breast mast.), colon, liver (twice), and now lung (2 in left lung). She is a very private woman and lives alone. She is only 62 and fiercely independent. Over the years she has just "lived" with cancer and doesn't really…
He finally asked *the question*
hi everyone- I had great fun plans for Valentines but it was chemo and Oncoman day too. I have known the prognosis for my husbands stage IV lung with brain mets since August and the ICU- its been like boxing with hands tied since he didn't want to know. And that was his right. Until yesterday-that is. He asked and Oncoman…
Waiting
Well we have finally ended all of my husband's chemo. He, and the rest of us, know that his time on this earth is coming to a close. No we are all just wondering when it will happen. He asked me the other day "How long do you think this will take?" I wish I knew. I keep reading about the signs of death. Besides him not…
Turn Left? Turn Right?
What to do? Feel like I'm stuck and don't know which way to go. What to say, how to say it if I actually knew what to say. It's gotten to the point I just don't know how to live anymore. There is no more normalcy, old or new. I feel like a robot. Every morning its a quick scan of the checklist of how to be upbeat, positive…
Not getting answers
Submitted by Fabs4ever on February 16, 2011 - 8:58am My husband had been sick since July 2010. Tests showed nothing. Only spots on the liver He then had a colonopsy on a Friday, January 21, 2011, results came back the next Thursday, that has colon cancer, must be removed immediately, surgery on the following Wednesday. His…
Needed: Warning Labels
There should either be warning labels or I should have thought ahead on some of what Patrick is going through. For example: He will start sleeping more (I get little to no sleep) He will have a sudden burst of energy (you better think fast! and have Herculean strength!) He may lose control of his bladder/bowels (*sighhhhh*…
When Life Seemed Perfect, My World Turned Upside Down.
My Fiance had been complaining of a headache on the right side of his head and loss of vision on the left side, for about a week. I didnt like the sound of that so we decided to get it checked out at the local hospital. following a CT scan, they told us he had a tumour in the Occipital Lobe. He was immediately transferred…
SomeDay by Blue Highway
go on youtube and check this song out. my dad had it picked out as one of his funeral songs for, like 13 years before he died. it's pretty powerful! the song is about the deceased person saying don't cry about me, my spirit is already free. just awesome!!!
Good quote for Valentines Day
"Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." ~Lao Tzu
Happy Valentines Day
to all. Don't post much, as hubby Robert is doing fairly well(course that might change @ onc appt on Thurs), but read posts to keep up with everyone. My heart goes out to you, April and Patrick as well as my prayers. I hope I can keep it together half as well as you if and when Robert's time comes. Angela
A Valentine for All
From my heart to yours. May even the smallest of "sweetness" touch your day tomorrow. All of you have touched my life and I will always remember your kindness. Lucy
My brother's story...long, apologizing in advance.
Hi everyone: I am new to this board and sometimes feel like I am going to lose my mind! In January, 2007, my brother (35 yrs old) was dx with colorectal cancer from FAP/Gardner's. He is now a Stage IV with mets to liver, ?lung (waiting for the CT results), and they have just found that at the original tumor site (rectal),…
A delicate subject
As Caregivers our goal is to always be there. To love, support and accompany our loved ones on this journey. We take note pads and pens, we take snacks for them during chemo, we anxiously wait in waiting rooms. At about the middle point of my journey with my love, I began to read about Hospice, and when his time to depart…
New Furniture
Ever since he insisted on it, I have hated the couch. It's a nice theatre style sectional with microfiber, consoles in between the seats with cup holders and cubbys, and the ends recline. I have been saying for a month I will be getting rid of the couch meaning I'm going to try to sell it for half to three quarters of what…
Newbie saying hello
Hello - I have met some of you on chat and thank you all for the uplifting of spirits.All those I have met have been such nice people with terrific humour and never failed to make me laugh :-) I have put our story on my page but bottom line is husband Stage IV lung cancer with mets to the brain and I am newly emigrated to…
When is the time?
4 months ago I led the perfect life. Then we found out my 37 year old husband had stomach cancer. From there the downward spiral began. We have a 4 year old daughter who has watched her dad go from 175lbs to just 123lbs. We keep trying chemo but of course nothing is working and cancer just keeps spreading. We went in for…
Keeping Watch
Patrick's tumor started bleeding out yesterday. And still he fights. Had a bite of pot roast yesterday which is the first food he has had in weeks. And he woke up enough this morning to hold a cold beer. I remember in September when it was such a struggle for him to breathe. Now it's like he can't stop. Stubborn man just…

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