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How do I get my dad to ingest food and liquids?
Hello,My dad was just recently diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin's Lymphoma. The doctors have told us that the cancer is not in any of his organs or bone marrow, but is a tumor mass pressing on his stomach. He is 81 and was not eating very much for about a month before this was detected 3 weeks ago. As a result he is weak and…
Anxiety
While I was a survivor and as a caregiver anxiety has become a huge issue. How do I remain feeling like myself without having that urge to have to be responsible for everything. I was told by a friend to try your best to be as it was before the diagnosis and not feel completely responsible for every little thing like his…
lost husband 12-14-04
I lost my wonderful husband of 20 yrs. Benjamin was my life. I tokk care of him through his cancer, but he took care of me too. I tried the grief counseling, tried reading all the books, nothing seems to be helping me. All i want is to go be with Ben. Our gravestone is up and has both our names on it. Next to him there is…
To all those who lost a loved-one
When it comes time for us to find out all that happened to our loved-one and why, many times we may think our thoughts are our own, but more often than not, they emanate from our passed on loved-ones. Through these thoughts, the best parts of our creative character come forth. I could not have done my three years of cancer…
preparation
My wife has sclc,and has only a few months with us.What im curious about is what can i do for my 2 young boys?Theyre 10&12,and i worrie about them all the time.Is there anything anyone would advise me to get started on now before things get real bad?Ive allready contacted school guidance dept and such,but i feel like its…
coping after 1 year
It has been 1 year 2 months and 1 day since I lost my soul mate for life. I have tryed the group sessions, not for me. The chat room was my salvation. It seems to be getting harder instead of better and I don't know how to deal with the loss anymore. I remember him in his last days. Not like he was throughout our 34 years…
squamous cell carcenoma
my husband is this afternoon going into his second round of chemo................it's on his leg the size of your foot...........scared everyday of what's ahead ..........anybody out there going threw the same thing
don't belong
well i was told yesterday by csn lady from Austin texas, that because my Dr. has not said what the dianogisa is that i don't belong to csn. i have already had a brain tumor removed in 1972, but to her didn't count either. So i don't stay where im not wanted or don't belong....good bye to ya'll....rest in…
I'm a survivor
I hope I can help
Coping with death
It is five years since my mother and sister died a month a part and I realise that I have never dealt with their deaths separately. 2001 and 2002 were years of caregiving and making choices at times who needed most attention. Since their death alot of my energy has been used to keep my elderly father standing and I feel…
stubborn dad
My name on here is Kodi, i,m caring for my dad he has breast cancer with mets to his lungs. hes going through his seconnd round of chemo but has been sick with a bronchial infection. Just being real stubborn im getting frustrated, wont do what i ask. But im trying to see through his eyes what hes going through.im kinda new…
can't breathe
I lost my husband to colon cancer March 12, five days before his 38th birthday. We have three sons and I guess I've just been running on autopilot for the last few weeks taking care of them, dealing with all of the details, and whatever. I started back to work ( I had been home with my husband for about eight weeks) and…
What Now!?!
I just lost my Mom to lung cancer. It came so quick. Everything seems like it's not real. Mom never even had a chance to fight it, or maybe she waited to long. I don't know. I do know, I miss her and I was wondering what now. I was hoping to find some type of support group that maybe I could go to once in awhile, but I…
Lost My Husband to Kidney Cancer
Four weeks ago today, my husband died from metastatic renal cell carcinoma, after being diagnosed 17 months ago. It was a long journey, but he never lost his strong determination and will to survive, until the very end. I feel extremely grateful I was able to keep him at home and keep his journey as normal and natural as…
I lost my father, and my mind
I am new this, and was told it may help, I lost my father to colorectal cancer over a year ago, and I am still having a very hard time grieving and accepting, it really affects my everdaylife and the people I love, I don't have much support, other than my boyfriend, and his mother, she seems to really understand me, but he…
Help With Child's Difficulty Adjusting with Father's Death
My husband died in August 2005 from kidney cancer. Our only daughter (just turned 11) has been having a difficult time adjusting to life without her father. She's become on one hand, extremely needy and clingy to me, but on the other hand, we have a major power struggle. She tests me constantly and tries to be the adult,…
Cleveland Clinic BMT 2002-2004 Important Info!
Subject: Looking for patients/family members from Cleveland Clinic BMT program 2002 to 2004 Message: I would like to communicate with patients and/or family members who were in the Cleveland Clinic Foundation's Bone Marrow Transplant program from 2002 to 2004. I have important information for you concerning the BMT program…
Looking for patients/family members from Cleveland Clinic BMT program 2002 to 2004
I would like to communicate with patients and/or family members who were in the Cleveland Clinic Foundation's Bone Marrow Transplant program from 2002 to 2004. I have important information for you concerning the BMT program at that time.
Christmas grieving
How is everyone handling the Christmas holidays? I dont want to celebrate this year. I feel bad for everyone around me. I have a young son and I feel like a terrible mother. I find myself short tempered and extremely depressed. I am constantly teary eyed and moody. I lost my mother in June and I dont know how to cope. I…
Lost husband 2 months ago
I lost my husband who turned 33 years old on April 1st. He passed away on April 6th and our 5th year ann. was suppose to be on May 15th. I miss him so much and feel so alone. everyone was here during the first two weeks now everyone has gone back to their families and loved ones and i cant. I am looking to talk to other…
Lost my wife, Feb-10-2005
My wife, Dana of 24 years passed Thursday Feb-10-2005. We had the service last night and everyone commented on how lovely it was and such a tribute to her memory. Well, come today none of those words from friends and family have much meaning. The hurt and emptiness I am feeling seems to overwhelm me at times. I dont know…
I lost my husband 02-02-05 aged 35
I lost my husband 4 months after he was diagnosed with stomach cancer. I miss him so much. He was my whole life and future and now I feel in limbo in a world I dont want to live in without him. There are so many things I wish I had said or done in the 10 years we were together and feel cheated.
lost husband 12-14-04
my beauitful husband of 19 yrs. lost his battle 12-14-04. esphus/liver mets. i was his only caregiver and i am completly lost. he was my entire life and i have never felt so alone and in such pain. i know he is in a better place, but he was robbed. he was only 55. we had out whole future before us. how do you do this thing…
Help the research
One in four of us will at some time suffer from cancer. The high mortality rate, the suffering experienced by patients from the side effects of existing treatments, and the high costs of treatment all contribute to making cancer a priority for drug research. A new way to help http://www.grid.org/projects/cancer/ A landmark…
Mom died in March-so many questions
Greetings to all surviving Caregivers. We lost our mom to end stage liver cancer. We kept 15 tumors at bay for 18 months and no one bothered to monitor the spine after radiation of 1 bone tumor. It ran rampid and it was down hill from there. I am so sad about having to have a silent goodbye. Our father refused to let us…
Spiritual experiences
My mother has advanced cancer. She had a visit from what she calls her guardian angel the other night. Is this an experience other survivors have had just before death? She and we need somone who has experience with the spiritual aspects of cancer to talk to or email with immediately.Thank you.
Im only 16, and my dad died a month ago today
Hi, i'm 16 years old, my dad died exactly one month ago today, (december 28th 2003). He had non hodkins lymphoma. He had only had it since february, but the treatments haden't worked. He did many rounds of chemotherapy, radiation and a stem cell transplant. Things were even looking good then on the 16th of december we were…
Lost....what next?
I am a caregiver to my best friends mom who is like a mom to me. She had bilateral mastectomy 4 years ago and now has multiple mets to the brain. Is now done with whole brain radiation. She is on Decadron, Armidex. They have told us it is terminal, but she doesn't want hospice, doesn't want anything but comfort care and…
Lost my mom to cancer Wednesday 6/9
My mother just passed away on Wednesday. I feel so numb. If I don't think about her for 15 minutes, I feel like I am losing her all over again. She had adenocarcinoma of unknown origin. She didn't even get the chance to really fight with chemotherapy. She was diagnosed at the end of January and died in 4 months. I don't…
Have questions, need answers
I lost my mother to cancer in December 2002 and I am still trying to cope. (Not doing so well tonight) The day my mom died I was there when she was going and I was told she could hear what we said she just couldn't respond. Could this be true? She was on very strong pain killers and I am just not sure. If anyone knows…

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