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Surviving Caregivers

Coping with anniversaries and reminders.
My father passed away 2 years ago, March 1, 2011. I'm now 20 years old, trying to get through college, but it seems I cant even get through the days anymore. My grades have slipped, my motivation has evaporated. Everything I ever knew died with my father, shortly after my 18th birthday. It just never leaves me alone.…
trying to cope with losing Mom
It has been a little over 1 year since I lost my Mom. She was my best friend in the world. She was diagnosed in Jan. with gall bladder cancer, only after the removal of her gall bladder due to gall stones. She passed away in Aug. The doctors said that there were no signs of cancer anywhere else and kept giving us all kinds…
My mom died, just want to talk
Hi, I didn't see any new messages. My mom passed away from ovarian cancer in October of 2003. It's been four months, and I'm still having a hard time - I lost my best friend. I am married with four children, and uprooted my family after my mother's death to move in with my dad to take care of him. Other than my dad, I was…
Need suggestions for better treatment and any organization which help me to get better treatment..
I am Irfan Ali ,23 years old, from Hyderabad Pakistan. I am suffering in spinal tumor type ependymoma,, i got my open surgery two years ago from Jinah Hospital Karachi which was not treated well and i thought that it was removed, but this year i felt pain again and went to the same doctors than they said me that the tumor…
The loss of my mother and now what?
I had lost my mother to cancer in April of 2012 about 7 months ago. I am 27years old and my mother was 70 years old when she passed. She is survived by her husband of 51 years and 3 children 4 grandchildren. She was first diagnosed I believe in 2009 with Vaginal cancer she was stage 3 at the time, plenty of surgery chemo…
My brave and wonderful wife Barbara
It has now been 11 days since my wife died. I have buried her, had the family visit, and sent my mother home. My mom was helping me take care of her the last several weeks. The emptiness in the apartment is overwhelming. I leave the TV on for the noise, but sometimes find it annoying and have to shut the darn thing off.…
Can anyone help me find a post I started sometime on here in either 2008 or 2009 about Papillary Ren
I lost my mom 3 years ago to Papillary Renal Cell Carcinoma and I'd like to find my old post on here so I can keep a record of the experiences she encountered. If anyone can help me find it, it would me a great deal to me. Thanks. (I can't remember the title of the post and whether I posted it under Caregivers, Rare…
good read
Hi. I was just posting about a very good book that I have just started reading by Jai Pausch, Dream New Dreams. You find that we all have gone through the same kind of feelings as she has. I sure know that I have. I know that when my husband was going through his treatments there was nobody there emotionally for us to talk…
sad
Hi everyone, I have been looking on this web site for a long time. My husband has been gone now for almost 2 months now. I am still so sad and lonely don't don't' know what do do with myself. I do not like to do what I use to do before he died. All I want to know if anyone out here feel the same as I do? We have been…
Young Spouses Left Behind After Cancer Strikes, needs your support
Hello everyone a new group has been formed on Facebook called, "Young Spouses Left Behind After Cancer Strikes" and it needs your support. It's a closed group for those under 50 who have lost a loved one to cancer. Many in the group have young children. If you are suffering the pain and loss of a spouse, we begin today…
Perhaps a new stage in the "greiving" process...
Good evening, dear ones, I wanted to share what I have been feeling as of the last few days with you all. Today, at 8:20 pm, marked four months to the hour that my beloved Dennis passed away. Today, I went to Probate Court and his will was probated, with the smooth sweep of the Judge's hand. Another "finality" in this book…
losing mom
My Mom was a four year survivor.My brother died in 2008.On Dec. 31 we found out her cancer had come back.I went with her every week to chemo.She went through several trials.Even though it was stage 4 and had spread to her spine and liver and her doctor gave her 5 years at most with treatment. she seemed to take it in…
My first Christmas without my mom its been 3 months, 6 days...
This will be my first Christmas without my mother. Im not taking this very well. But im trying very hard. Last Christmas was the first Christmas I had dinner at my house and my mother came and it was so nice...seeing as im only 32 and an only child this was a big thing to start having holidays at my house. I was so looking…
Christmas Memories
To everyone who is a surviving caregiver, This is my second Christmas withought my beloved husband. Somehow I really don't remember much about last year. But now it will be 2 years in March since he died and I've managed to go on. Christmas will never be the same, but I have 3 wonderful children and 2 great…
getting married
Its been a while since I have posted so an update is in order. Grace has been deceased for quite a while now leaving me as the surviving caregiver and widower. Some good news I am to be married again on 8th October. Yes, it is something. Had a very bad journey after loss of Grace and recovered to come across a most…
Dad is gone too now.
First Ill give a little bit of history. My mom passed away last June, from emphysema. She was diagnosed 16 years ago and never quit smoking. About 6 years ago she became bedridden with emphysema and never quit. During that time my parents lived a mile away from me. Every event of my adult life has been marred my one of my…
Have missed you, dear ones...
After losing my beloved Dennis, I have learned that life does go on. Am preparing to enter a nursing program to finish my education, have survived financially, met a wonderful man, working so hard to set my feet back on the ground! Yet every single day, I think of my beloved Dennis! I talk to him, I ask him to pray for me,…
Fireworks!
Earlier this evening, I closed my eyes and went back a year ago. Well, actually it will be a year ago, tomorrow. July 4, 2010. I remembered the fun my beloved Dennis and our grown up kids had setting fireworks off! He was almost done with his chemo, feeling good and it was a spectacular night! This man was a pyromaniac!…
The can of shaving cream...
Funny how the most mundane of things can become "treasures" at different times in our lives! Six months ago, after my beloved Dennis passed away, I collected all his toiletries and placed them in a basket under his sink. There they have remained, except for a can of shaving cream. At some point, I ran out of shaving cream.…
Forever and ever...
Since the passing of my beloved husband, I have had many reflective moments, as I am sure many of you have also had. One reflection has been how he always signed notes, letters and cards to me, "yours forever and ever". Weeks after he passed, I was very confused as to how this "life" and "death" thing works. And I suppose…
My Mom's bedroom
My mom passed away on May 25th not even a month yet. My mom, myself, my children, and my boyfriend all lived together. We are still living at her house and her bedroom is still untouched except her bed is gone because the hospice brought their own. My aunt's and my grandmother and it seems like everyone keeps asking me if…
My mom's birthday is today :(
My mom passed away a little over a year ago and still to this day the pain is unbearable. I am still suffering from a broken heart and constantly have a heart ache. I feel so empty and lost without her. I have a repetitive blank feeling that seems to never get better on days like today. I was only 14 when she was diagnose,…
It has been 1 year and a half and I feel lost
I lost my husband a year and a half ago to pancreatic cancer. I have a 23 year old son who graduated a month ago from college and a 21 year old who is still away at college. My husband was the love of my life, I told him everything would be ok I would be able to handle all the changes ahead. WOW!!! was I wrong!!! I have a…
The airport "kissing" game...
So, for many years, my beloved Dennis would often suggest that we visit the airport(before 911, of course), and play the hello-goodbye kissing game! In this game you would go to the airport and pretend that one was leaving or returning, thus the need for passionate goodbye kisses and hugs, or welcome home ones! What a…
Back from "solo" flight...
Hello dear friends, I am back. I am extremely saddened to see that two of my friends here lost their beloved husbands. My heart is heavy and my prayers are with them. I hope that the rest of you are doing okay. I am spending this Memorial Day waiting for my daughter to get off work and then we will be going to place a…
Live, love and laugh, once again...
Submitted by luz del lago on May 9, 2011 - 11:14pm Well, I've remodeled the two main rooms of my home. Painted and finished the ceiling of the back porch. Become well acquainted with the power washer! Already had mastered power tools years before, so I built three wooden flower boxes. Planted three trees. Mow an acre every…
Envy
I too am going on 14 weeks and you summed up just how I'm feeling, couldn't have said it better
Perhaps one day...
Only Yesterday Lyrics Artist(Band):Carpenters After long enough of being alone Everyone must face their share of loneliness In my own time nobody knew The pain I was goin' through And waitin' was all my heart could do Hope was all I had until you came Maybe you can't see how much you mean to me You were the dawn breaking…
The Power of Water!
Good evening, dear ones, Wow! I'm exhausted. I spent my entire day "power-washing" my back porch, deck and cover! I began by squaring off with the power washer. Could not find the manual, so on line I went, found it, read it and so I began. Safety first! My love and I had just finished building it when he was diagnosed.…
Struggeling caregiver
My mom is 75 and has stage IV cancer. Breast cancer with mets. I live 50 miles away from her, but have become her primary caregiver. She does have hospice nurses that visit everyday, but she lives alone and tries to manage daily living on her own. I have a sister who will not help at all. She is incredibly selfish and self…

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