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just need a few words of wisdom
My name is Elise. My mom was diagnosed with brest cancer 4 years ago. Which seemed to blow over ok..she got a masectomy and was cancer free. Well, when they diagnosed her they gave her 4 years to live. We're on year number 4. She was just recently diagnosed with bone cancer..it's everywhere. She was taking chemo for a…
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I need some help!
I just lost my mom 7 days ago after a 2 year battle with breast cancer. When she was first diagnosed it had already spead to her lyphm nodes and bone. Which was a total shock cause my mom went to the doctor regulary and had her mamograms every year how could this happen. We were devestated but ready for the fight. My mom…
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don't know how to deal...
It all started 4 years ago march my moms fight for survival. I am on here now because I don't know how to deal. The past few months have been the worst. My mom crys to me all of the time telling me how much pain she is in and how she has no energy to do anything. She talks to my brother about how when she dies we will…
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Grieving after death
I am new to this website and would just like some people to talk to. I just wanted to know what coping mechanisms others have found helpful when grieving over the death of a loved one. My mom died of cancer in October 1997 and she was only 56. I was 20 at the time and that was the hardest thing I had to deal with. Then two…
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to learn what fear is
Michael and I had know eachother long before we started dating. I became his girlfriend about a year after his surgery when he was diagnoised with GBM IV. Our first date was going to the hospital for his MRI and to get the chemo, but I was never scared. A month later he had a seizure I was not there when he had it but my…
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What to do when your loved one refuses treatment
Just learned 2 weeks ago that my fiance has colon cancer and cancer of the vertebra. He has known for about a month. He lost his wife to breast cancer 4 years ago and refuses to even consider any treatment. Because we are not married (wedding was next month) the doctors will not talk with me, nor will my fiance - he says…
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I need to do something about it
On march 2nd i lost a very dear special person to me. She had battled cancer 4 times in a 12 yr period. She first had breast cancer in 95 and survived. In 2004 she found out she had lung cancer and survived. In 2005 she had for spots of cancer throught her body and survived. In Febuary of this year she found out that she…
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Colorectal Caregiver
Hi, I am looking for someone who is going thru the same thing as myself... I don't know if caregivers are afraid to post here or what, but I sure there are more than just myself going thru this hell. I would be interested in listening and sharing. I have some very caring friends, but I find it hard to discuss something's…
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Prayers needed for long road
I'm fairly new to this site. My husband was dx right before Christmas and had colon resection. He has liver mets so is stage IV and we go to our first consult with oncologist tomorrow about chemo and options . I'm getting worn out with worry already, but trying to keep spirits up. It's hard as I'm sure you all know. Just…
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HOPE
Well - I've been off and running for a while. My husband has now been cancer-free since May of 2006. We were on the verge of a divorce the last time I "vented". Finally, about 2 months ago , a "friend" of mine really insulted my husband and his recent actions to me. That was the straw that built my camel's back. I realized…
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Take Time
I found this little verse that I really liked and just thought it might help us as 'caregivers' Take Time Take time to THINK.. it is the source of power. Take time to PLAY .. It is the secret of perpetual youth. Take time to READ.. It is the fountain of wisdom Take time to PRAY .. It is the greatest power on earth Take…
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is there a place to donate supplies?
Just joined this board. My husband lost his short fierce battle with cancer today. I have lots to deal with in the coming days, weeks, whatever. One question popped into my mind. Is there a place or way to donate unused, or used but good supplies? I have a carton containing 4 new chux - never opened. About a dozen used,…
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calvary hospital-hospice n.y.c..
my friend, friend is in calvary hospital [hospice] new york city i was told, this is where you go when its time for one to die. she has throat cancer,iwent to see her, shes a little horse age about68 her skin, is glowing, very nice. any one know of any one in hospices hospital, in new york city, please get back to me…
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How do I grieve?
I just lost my mother after a long (15year) battle... And I don't know how to feel! I have a terrific boyfriend who is there for me all the way, my dad is doing fine and we're getting closer than we ever were before, but I have'nt really even cried or broken down at all yet. Sure, it's only been 2 weeks, and we have had…
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Hair Growth
I received Taxatere and Cytoxin 4 times-May 11,2006,June 1 and June 22,2006 and the last treatment July 13,2006 for Breast Cancer. My hair did start to come back but the growth has been very slow. It has grown only about an inch, if that. It also seems to be very dry and a little darker and has a little more gray. Before…
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Loss of a Mother ... My best friend
My mom was diagnosed with Stage 4b? NSLC in April 2006 and passed away June 18, 2006. She was only 61 and I'm 31. I'm not sure if she/I even had a chance to pass the initial shock. She willed herself to hold on as long as she could. She is the strongest most amazing mother and best friend anyone could ever ask for. A bit…
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Caregivers organizational tool
When my husband was diagnosed with Cancer I had issues with all the paperwork involved with being his caregiver. Through trial and error I came up with a system that helped me organize paperwork regarding test results, second opinions, insurance issues, doctor bills, Chemotherapy treatments, etc. I purchased a binder and…
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Is There Hope for Caregivers?
As a caregiver, I would like to hear from someone else that perhaps has gone through some of the battles I'm experiencing. Maybe I'm just having pity parties but even so, I would think others have done the same, surely I'm not alone in this fight within. 1) Has anyone ever wondered where your TRUE friends are? As faithful…
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What to say?
My MIL has fought lung cancer for 9 months. She's done SO well with chemo and radiation, just a few tired days and some minor complaints about losing her hair. They said it was caught early, gave us hope it was cured a couple months ago. She got sick last week, tests now show it's back in her lung and has spread to her…
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Colon Cancer
I would like to introduce myself as Nicolate. My mother was diagnosed with colon cancer Feb 2006. A large tumor was removed with 2 nodes involved. She decided no chemo. Her Stage is IIIB. Her CEA level went from 3 in March to 32 now. As her only living relative I am frightend by what to expect. The docs seem unable or…
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Slow Growth of Hair Returning
I received Taxatere and Cytoxin 4 times-May 11,2006,June 1 and June 22,2006 and the last treatment July 13,2006 for Breast Cancer. My hair did start to come back but the growth has been very slow. It has grown only about an inch, if that. It also seems to be very dry and a little darker and has a little more gray. Before…
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Home recovery for ovarian cancer
Just found out that my grandma of 69 years has ovarian cancer. We're looking for suggestions and experiences to help make her recovery at home as speedy and comfortable as possible. We would like any information from specialized equipment to wall colors. While you were going through your recovery, what did you like? What…
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Mom just diagnosed, need advice
My mother was just diagnosed. She had some polyps removed (which she has before because of her crohn's disease), but this time one of them (in her lower rectum) had cancer in it. They called it adenocarcinoma with probable angiolymphatic something. I don't even know because I'm getting this info from my dad. Anyway, my way…
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Update-SCC-Penile Cancer
My boyfriend had his surgery at IU Monday.They did not perform Moh's,but he had excisional & the plastic surgeon did not have to graft,instead he pulled skin up from scrotum & base of penis to make a flap over the area.Its like a sideways horseshoe shape scar,about 3 inches! Bad news was from the time I 1st had him looked…
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Brother, son, father, friend, who am I?
I am 21 years old, the oldest of four children and I lost my father and my security to prostate cancer a year ago. I was briefly part of the CSN about a year ago when my 52 y/o father was living with very advanced prostate cancer. At that time I was looking for answers and researching options. Now I am working through a…
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A Mother is as a Mother does
I read so many daughters posting, how their mother breast cancer brought them together, or their mother is their best friend, or this, or that, or the other thing and I just feel like a complete alien. My mother was never my ally. She was physically and mentally abusive to me as a child. Neglect was her special form of…
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Penile Cancer Support
Hi. I have posted under the Penile cancer link.My 45 year old boyfriend & high schhol sweetheart,was recently diagnosed with squamous cell cancer & I have decided to start a group on yahoo on this topic,as there does not seem to be much out there as far as contacting others with this.We are currently waiting on x-ray…
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new member
I am so glad to have found this site. My father-in-law was recently diagnosed with cancer. (GBM stage 4) He has deteriorated so quickly in just a few weeks. And what a roller coaster that has been. We are in fighting mode, than we are in hospice care, then fighting mode, and currently hospice care again. I feel so alone…
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Its the "How" I need help with!
I'm new here too. I'm a 42 yoa male, the oldest of three, I have two younger sisters and a wife & 4 kids of my own. My dad was diagnosed with Melinoma late in 1998. he was told it had been caught early and underwent a chemo treatment (unknown what. It did not seem to be a big deal)...afterall He's my dad...gonna be here…
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Where's the Manual?
My husband was just diagnosed with lower esophageal cancer. Im still looking for the manual on how to deal with this. I need to get his weight up but he doesnt really have an interest in eating. He smokes and I know this is a main cause of his cancer. He is trying to stop smoking cigarettes with the patch but it is a…