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My Kelly...
Kelly passed this morning at 315am. My mom and I were there in the room as well as her hospice nurse. I was holding her hand and talking to her and feel that she went as peacefully and comfortably as one can. Kelly had such a zest for life and strong fight in her which she's displayed to many people since her 2003 thyroid…
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boyfriend won't talk about his feelings
My boyfriend and I have been together for a while now. He lost his father to kidney cancer four years ago when he was 17 years old..now he is 22. We had to clean out his old house and we found a lot of things that brough back memories of his father. He talks about his father a lot but never talks about how he feels. He…
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Post Treatment Care
On Tuesday of this week I was told by my Dentist that I needed a tooth extracted. According to my Oncologist if I were to be put in the position to having a tooth extracted I need to have him arrange for a specialist to do this because I have undergone Chemo and Radiation treatment. I reminded my Dentist that I needed to…
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Just Want to Scream!
The Monday following Thanksgiving, 2009 my husband was diagnosed with Pancreatic Cancer. The first part of December we entered the hospital for the second time, and he underwent a Whipple Surgery. The good news (if it can be considered good news), is that they were able to remove the tumor. The bad news is that it had…
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for those who lost you mom/loveones, what do you do during their bday or any special dates?
im 24, i lost my mom last August which is 6 months ago but its surreal that she has been gone because I still go drive to my dads sometimes thinkingshe is still around. Today was supposed to be her 63rd bday and she is now gone, but i feel compelled to do something for her bday at least in her memory. I am as hurt as…
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Is there hope, or else how do we go on
My name is Aveena and currently live in Mumbai I recieved news today that my dad is terminal anything between 6-8 months. It strated as colon cancer diagnosed mid novemeber which they were suppose to operate on 24 November only to discover it has now spread to the entire liver and bones. The doctors say they will only try…
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2nd Abnormal Pap and my husband and I are freaked!
This is my first time here and I pray that someone here can help comfort me and my family! I spoke to my GYN today to discuss my results on my pap smear. She stated that I have a lot of dysplasia, and I had an abnormal pap for the 2nd time, a fibroid (5cm), and fluid on my cervix, and low cells. I am scheduled for a…
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A Survivor's Park
I thought I would pass this site along to all of you, thought it was such a great idea and so inspiring in the name alone. I live in Ottawa, Canada and last year they built a Survivors Park in a very well travelled area of the city and it is just so fantastic looking and uplifting thought I would spread the word and maybe…
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Having a tough time
I'm 37 and had a radical hysterectomy 3 years ago due to uterine cancer. I am still having a difficult time coping with not being able to have children. My marriage is going downhill...it appears my husband is not coping well either but refuses to talk or go to counseling. I brought up the idea of adoption but he does not…
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Anyone meeting on a different site due to chatroom down yet again?
Could someone let me know if you guys are meeting elsewhere with this chatroom down yet again? I was supposed to meet people in the room for support and now I can't get in. Grrrrrrrrrrr. Anyone else having this issue?
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Survivors Bust a Move!
Check out these survivors dancing to I Will Survive in a Flash Mob! We did this dance during a survivor party at my hospital in December, and we planned it ahead with the dancers but the other people there didn't know what was happening. The two women up front are one of the physician's medical assistants and an OR nurse;…
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too much going on
i've never had the chance to talk to anyone about this. my family is the type that pretends everything is ok when it's not. we don't want to be pitied. we want to appear that everything is alright. isn't this the american way? don't show your weakness. but i can't handle it anymore. i need to talk to someone. i've never…
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How do I help?
How do I help my boyfriend who's mother just found out she has cancer? In what ways can I show that I love him and want to support him and his family?
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Screaming In Silence!!!!!!
Some times, late at night, I scream in silence! And I don’t know why? I am so happy in the out side, but there something inside of me that is dying!!!!! I go round and round in my head, trying to understand what is happening!!! I don’t understand why? Can someone help me!! Before it consumed me? I don know how to stop…
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Anxiety
I am having sudden flashes of anxiety. I think it's that the potential fatality of this disease has come back to roost. I am in a cancer support group that is, generally, very good for me and I love being a part of it. But one of our members died this week...and it's the third member to die in about a year. And that always…
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Headaches
I'm 19 and was diagnosed with a sarcoma in my knee in November and had a second surgery in December and began radiation in the begining of January. I am a full time nany and student and feel like headaches (as well as fatigue-but I am pretty good about making time for naps) have become a part of my daily life. It's awful,…
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Dry Mouth (xerostomia)
My wife sue has dry mouth as a result of radiation treatment of the pharangeal area of the throat. Is anyone familiar with this situation??? Can send information directly SIGardener@aol.com Will be on periodically. charles
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was told today I have a "good Cancer"
I am sorry just kinda lost at the moment. The Dr told me today that I have a good cancer, shaken by it all I didn't even ask where it was. But please be honest with me- Is there such a thing as a good cancer
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pancareatic cancer survivors who have not had the whipple surgery
My husband was diagnosed with adenocarcinoma of the pancreas with mets to the livers in April of 2008. He has since been on chemotherapy once a week for two weeks on and one week off. He is receiving GTX as his form of chemo. He did have a break from chemo in March 2009 when he was able to have 5 weeks of radiation. He…
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Family problems
My brother is in the final stages of prostate cancer. He has lived with my sister for a number of years. He has problems hearing and short term memory loss from a brain tumor 25 years ago. My mother is a nurse of 50 years and can at times be very controlling when it comes to health care for family members. My father died…
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double mastectomy for step-mom
My Dad's wife (53 y/o) will be having a double mastectomy this Monday. She has stage 3 "triple negative" breast cancer, has finished her 8th round of chemo, and the tumor has visibly returned. I will be flying to where they live; mostly to support my dad. Any adviceon what to/ not to say to either/ both of them would be…
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Change
You know, I asked before if it gets any easier and I think I have found that no it will never get easier. You just learn to accept what has happened and you try to move forward. I went and cleaned out my husband's closet today and went through and packed up his clothes. It was very hard to do but I felt that I could not…
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Another loss....
Well My mother in law finally couldn't live without her child and we buried her this morning 5 months after I lost the love of my life. So I guess now I have to start all over again.... the grief never ends.... I don't know how much more I can take... maybe she had the right idea...
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lost
Well it has been 2 month since Jack and I feel like im lost and lost connection with jack and just distraction from everything, I am trying to do to keep my mind off of things and doing it anyway I can which is probaly not a really good thing, I start a project but cant finsh it, If i go off and enjoy my self I feel guilty…
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I know you can't help, just need to speak
I know that no one here can help me, but I just feel the need to say how I'm dealing with my loss and pain. My husband, who was my best friend, passed from lung cancer on 10-13-09. I haven't been copping well at all. I'm on several medications, but the panic attacks are the worst. I can't even leave the house anymore. I…
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I'm about to lose my mom
Hi Everyone, I just needed to write on here and get out some of my sadness. I just turned 27 and have been through hell and back it seems in the past year and a half. To start off, my mother, who is my best friend, was diagnosed with Esophageal cancer May of last year. We were told she would not be here for that Christmas…
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You would think by now it wouldn't bother me - cold people I mean, sigh
Sheeesh, what a shocker. Is stupid the right word? Ignorant, injured in some way? All of the above? Who knows, but all I do know is that it seems that even time and experience, with people who seem so heartless when it comes to dealing with the news of my cancer past, even time and experience don't dull the hurt when they…
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Happy Birthday
So today is my birthday and so far so good. Thursday I have to in and have some surgery on a biopsy that came back with some A- typical cell growth. For some that seems pretty minor. For me, its irritating! I have what some would call a chronic skin cancer. I have had BCC and Melanoma. I have had 52 biopsies, and this will…
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Does it get easier?
As you all know, my husband passed on 11/24/09 and since the funeral I have just been going through the motions. I don't sleep much and then I force myself to get up in the morning and do what needs to be done. My family have all disappeared into their own lives again and life goes on. My brother-in-law and sister-in-law…
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Family drama
My mum has got terminal cancer, and the Dr has said 6-12 weeks or so left. I have one sister that lives far away and one that lives next door to mum & dad. I live in another country. I just came home for a visit and heard this new prognosis. I am a nurse, and always agreed with mum that I would look after her at home and…