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Don't know what to do.
For the ones who dont know. My dad has stage 4 lung cancer.... Well Monday will be a month that my dad has been in the hospital. I really dont know what to do. Within the last couple days he hasnt ate or drank and has been sleeping all day and he is very depressed. I know there really isnt anything i can do for him but be…
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Have never felt so lost...
Been one of 2 caregivers for my friend with pancreatic cancer. Not too much longer, it's getting harder for him to breathe and he hasn't eaten in days. Has had very little to drink in the last 3 days. Hospice nurses say at this point just let him do what he wants. He barely makes sense anymore, and when we can understand…
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DOCUMENTARY TONIGHT 8pm on HBO, WHAT U NEED TO KNOW ABOUT MAKING END OF LIFE DESCITIONS&YOUR RIGHTS!
"How to die in oregon" is a documentary that will be airing tonight on hbo at 8 pm. It follows the lives and the struggles of quality of life over quantity of life. It is definitely something to see. Best documentary at Sundance Film Festival. Tell your friends and families unfortunately this is something we will all face.…
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A Tribute To My Mother, Lung Cancer - Passed May 19th 2011
The moment a child is born, the mother is also born. She never existed before. The woman existed, but the mother, never. A mother is something absolutely new. ~ Rajneesh Let’s admit it... you can never be prepared enough when you decide to have your first child. There are not enough books in a person’s library to get one…
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Support advice as someone I care about pushing me away.
I recently met someone and started seeing them for approximately couple months. About a month ago (just little longer) started feeling very sick and messaged me to inform me that he has cancer and said he would understand if I no longer was interested. Knowing this was not going to be an easy road and things were going to…
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NEW MEMBERS, Try the chatroom for instant support
Hello to all the new members on the site and welcome. I just thought it was time to remind any new members that we have a very active and supportive chatroom on this site with caring people who know what you are going through because we all have been there before. We understand and are validating in how you feel at…
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To Celebrate or not to Celebrate??
My CT SCAN was clear, oh blessed day!!! This is my second round with this and the first time I celebratde walked around on cloud 9 told everyone my cancer was in remissionm could have bragged to milkman if there was one... Now I'm skiddish, when asked I say yes its gone but not with so much joy, its like I have no smile…
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I am scared
You can read about me on my page but a quick cliff note about me. I am 31 and I have stage 3c ovarian cancer. Currently going thru chemo and have been thinkin alot about if I died. How I am afraid to let the 4 people who mean the most to me go. Which are my brother, fiancée, mom & dad. I am not saying I will die, but I…
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Need some help
Hi All, I am having a problem and dont have anyone that understands, including me. My emotions are so jacked up that i dont know what to think or do. Me and my wife have been battling cancer together since 2006. We both beat it the first go around but in 2008 hers had came back in the bone and brain. The last three years…
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Feeling like giving up
Hi all I haven't been on here in a long time I been struggling going through test after test. I had a pet scan the beginning of April it came back no cancer. they explain to me that I still have cancer and am not cancer free. It is sitting in my blood and have not form the cells yet so it could happen at any time or go…
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Help with dying husband
Hello, I am new here. I am my husbands caregiver and he has esophageal cancer. He has been given about a month. We have been through every treatment possible and we are at the end. No more treatments. We would have been married 30 years in September, we married early and he is only 55. We have one son that is 19. This has…
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Anxiety
What do most people take for anxiety when they've been diagnosed with cancer? I can't seem to shut off my brain and my thoughts. I don't know if this is normal but it's the most bothersome of all my symptoms and I want to know what others do to manage it. Thank you
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CT Scan coming up!
Here it is near 3am and im awake. I even took one of my heavy pills for pain to try and get some sleep, and here I am. Last nite fell asleep thinking of it, woke up dreamt i could see my insides and I was scared, is this a omen, do I have something to worry about??? So next friday the 29th is my ct scan, and I worry,…
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Seeking a community in my time of need
Hi, everyone: I am new to this network and write as a caregiver for my wife, who has struggled over the last dozen years with a variety of rare cancers and cancer-related issues: paget’s disease of the skin, underlying squamous cell carcinoma (both gynecological issues) and, just recently, urethral cancer (she just had…
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port has flipped, on avastin, what to do?
So my port has flipped over. I have 2 doctors, an oncologist and gyn-onc. One says I can have it surgically flipped back and possibly it needs to be reattached, no problem while on Avastin treatment. The other says, "no" you will have to wait for 28 days after your treatment with Avastin is done. Hummm................ And…
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Really struggling emotionally
Hi, I'm a new member here so I guess I'll start with an introduction. My name is Laura. I'm 45 years old and have been living with Stage 3A breast cancer since July 2008. Prior to surgery, my team of doctors all told me how lucky I was to have caught it so early. Early you ask, at stage 3A? Until they got in there they…
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Just when you think you are doing better...
I spent a wonderful evening with the "girls" in my family last night! Enjoyed some wine, laughed harder than I've laughed in forever! Played a silly board game! Listened to the young ones music! So why is it that this morning I feel so lousy? No, I didn't drink too much wine! Lousy that I am missing my love so much. Lousy…
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Don't know what to do...
Wow, I really don't even know how to start this, so I guess I'll just jump in and try. I am 20-years-old, and I have Hodgkin's Lymphoma. I am having a stem cell transplant, and I am so very scared. There are so many things that can go wrong, and I just don't like living in the world of "what if?". My biggest problem right…
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What happened to me!!
Yesterday was a great day, listened to music, was baking at same time, chatted with some friends was in a great mood and then last nite something snapped. I am not sure what happened, all the sudden my support ( soon to be ex) made me mad, and I ended up doing some heavy lifting on my own. I am independent lady, always try…
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my mama
My story is my wonderful mother passed away march 27 2010 after battling gallbladder cancer for only 10 weeks.the thing is I am still having a hard time when I think about my mom its those 10 weeks I spent with her and all the pain she was in and all the hospitals and all the things we went through with her.I really want…
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thaks to everone for your support
befor i found this support line and the weakness that i am having i felt hopless that i felt like just felt like ending it all i have no support line even my older childred do not act i hear from them when i get my social security my my 13 year old tells all of the time she hates me she told me the other day to leave all…
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thaks to everone for your support
befor i found this support line and the weakness that i am having i felt hopless that i felt like just felt like ending it all i have no support line even my older childred do not act i hear from them when i get my social security my my 13 year old tells all of the time she hates me she told me the other day to leave all…
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I'm have been the main caregiver for both my parents
I'm have been the main caregiver for both my parents. I took care of my mother years ago until 8yrs ago when she had died. The first year my mother was in the hospital for most of it. I went to school, found a full time job (that I loved very much) which I held for 13yrs until the company closed in 2008. Within that time I…
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feeling a little down
Hi everyone . Feeling a little down this week. Tomorrow is my mother's birthay, she would have been 81. But she isn't here to celebrate. My husband and I will celebrate 25 yr. anniv. in May and she always used to say,"We'll have a party God willing..." Well apparently, God wasn't willing. Been thinking about the past a lot…
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What happened to me!!
Yesterday was a great day, listened to music, was baking at same time, chatted with some friends was in a great mood and then last nite something snapped. I am not sure what happened, all the sudden my support ( soon to be ex) made me mad, and I ended up doing some heavy lifting on my own. I am independent lady, always try…
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ok what now-totally need to vent
rectal/liver cancer- does any one out there have this type. ok getting ready to meet with surgeons after 8 rounds of chemo, totally stressing out. I feel I need to get my life in some kind of order. Don't mean to be a downer but if you have kids do you write them a letter of the just in case something happens while you are…
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I am 51 years and lost my husband of 26 years on January 28, 2010 to Pancreatic Cance
I have a son who is 23 years old and graduated from U of o yesterday. I am so angry my husband is not here to support my son and to show how proud he would be of his oldest son. He bought a graduation card for my son and never wrote on it. I have another son who is a Junior at OSU. I know it is not my husbands fault he got…
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Feel Alone........
I seem to not handle things that weel the last couple days that been really hard on me I just want to lay around and cry. I have all these feelings inside I think sometimes that maybe its just me. I have a hard time talking and I keep it inside. I go to church and tell people what they want to hear that everything great.…
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Please pray !
Hi everyone, really need some support and prayers again! My daughter-in-law is Japanese and her parents live in Japan where the earthquake was. They are safe but have no water, electricity and have alot of damage in their home. I feel so sorry for my daughter-in-law cause she's so scared and wishes she could be there. Also…
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Happy Birthday to Me!!!
Well today is the first birthday that I'm celebrating without Tom. But I am wearing the diamond earrings & beautiful celery green top he bought me last year. Had a nice morning down at my Village coffee shop. I baked a sour cream coffee cake, everyone sang & I got lots of hugs. Helps alot to know you're loved. Just got a…