Jim-farewell

38sallyb
38sallyb Member Posts: 87
edited March 2014 in Esophageal Cancer #1
I said goodbye to my best friend today. Jim lost his battle and did so with grace and courage. We could all use him as an example, not only as how to live,
but also, how to depart from this earthly life.

Mike and Betsy were with me and, with tears of our sadness and some chuckles of laughter, we spent Jim's final hours telling him how much we love him and will miss
him and telling him and each other why we were so proud to be his family.

We truly thought he would walk out of the hospital, and so did he! Just one week ago, he was so proud that he had had quite a long walk for
his debilitated state. Hours later, a high fever set him back and he just couldn't overcome the pneumonia that followed. The cancer did not
show up on scans and there was no sign of the Staph infetion that had worried us. He came such a long way and fought such a good fight.

Jim REALLY disliked traditional funeral services, so in respect for his wishes, we are having a family time for private goodbyes. However,
you all know he loved a good party! He said he wouldn't mind if people got together and had a great time remembering all the fun he had!
So after Grandson, Jake, gets back to the States and is stationed at Fort Hood, we will have a celebration of Jim's life, probably in South
Texas somewhere.

Thank you all for your prayers, I believe they kept him going and I surely need them now.

Instead of flowers, please send contributions in Jim's name to the National Rifle Association or the Wounded Warrior Project.

With gratitude for over 53 wonderful years,

Hugs 2 U
Sally and family
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  • cfight
    cfight Member Posts: 69
    Sally,
    I'm so sorry for your

    Sally,

    I'm so sorry for your loss. My deepest sympathies go to you and your family at this time. I remember we connected several months ago about alternative medicine options for cancer patients. You may not know this, but I've always been inspired by you and your husband's determination and willingness to explore new treatment options and fight this disease with such hopefulness. You were a wonderful advocate for Jim and you were both a great team.

    I am truly sorry. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts.

    Carolyn
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  • JaneE2366
    JaneE2366 Member Posts: 289 Member
    So sorry
    Sally,
    I am so sorry to hear of Jim's passing. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.
    With deepest sympathy,
    Jane
  • LivingFaith
    LivingFaith Member Posts: 74
    Jim
    So sad to hear the news. The love you have for Jim just poured through the words in your post.
    You said Jim loved a good party. I hope he is celebrating at a big Husker party in Heaven, with all the fixings!

    Go Big Red! I'll think of you and Jim today watching the game, Jim cheering from above.

    God Bless,

    Deb in NE
  • K_ann1015
    K_ann1015 Member Posts: 500
    so sorry
    Sally,
    It's weird to think of "Sally" and not "Sally & Jim".... I am so sorry you lost your partner of 53 years--but glad you both were there for each other. Jim had a wonderful caregiver! You have set an awesome example for the rest of us. Your calm, loving, patient demeanor must have been nice for Jim to be able to count on. Prayers for you & your family.
    kim
  • paul61
    paul61 Member Posts: 1,392 Member
    My deepest sympathy and condolences to you and your family
    Sally,

    I am so sorry to hear of Jim’s passing. He really fought a good battle. I am happy to hear that he had the love of his family around him during his final hours. He is now beyond pain and suffering.

    My deepest sympathy and condolences to you and your family.

    Best Regards,

    Paul Adams
    McCormick, South Carolina

    DX 10/22/2009 T2N1M0 Stage IIB
    12/03/2009 Ivor Lewis
    2/8 through 6/14/2010 Adjuvant Chemo Cisplatin, Epirubicin, 5 FU
    6/21/2010 CT Scan NED

    Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance!
  • mrsbotch
    mrsbotch Member Posts: 349
    Sally,
    I am so sorry that

    Sally,
    I am so sorry that you have lost the man you love so much. You are in my thoughts and prayers. What a brave couple you have been.He is certainly with the angels now.
  • cjmac49
    cjmac49 Member Posts: 100
    So Sorry
    Sally,

    My condolences to you and your family.

    Jim
  • sandy1943
    sandy1943 Member Posts: 824
    Hello Sally,
    So sorry to

    Hello Sally,
    So sorry to hear the news , But so glad in the end you could be together as a family and share memories and love in his final hours.

    My thoughts and prayers will be with you in the coming days,
    Sandra
  • MOE58
    MOE58 Member Posts: 589 Member
    My prayers
    Sally,

    I noticed you joined last December he didn't make it a year. He is now in no pain and is rejoicing with others in heaven, that had EC on earth.

    I know you had a long and enjoyable marriage with lots of memories

    My prayers are with you and your family at this time of grieving.

    Lori
  • mlbrooks852
    mlbrooks852 Member Posts: 67
    Best friends
    Sally, for those of us who were lucky enough to have married our best friend, yours and Jims story is one of inspiration. We will pray for strength for you in the days ahead. Jims hand will always be on your shoulder, and he will be there in spirit for you.


    I look at the tabloid newspapers in line at the grocery and think that the photos of Michael Douglas look so very much like my Dale. It is difficult not to get discouraged in this battle. We will fight, though, to the bitter end, as you and Jim have fought. Just know that you are truly an inspiration. Thank you.


    Mary Lou
  • linda1120
    linda1120 Member Posts: 389
    best friend
    Dear Sally,

    My thoughts and prayers are with you.

    Linda
  • sal314
    sal314 Member Posts: 599 Member
    So Sorry to Hear of Jim's Passing
    My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.

    Blessings to you all,

    Sally
  • oriontj
    oriontj Member Posts: 375
    Sally there are no words
    to express my sorrow at your sad news. The two of you were so brave, never giving up and always lifting up others. My prayers are lifted for you and Jim who is now with our Lord.

    orion
  • unclaw2002
    unclaw2002 Member Posts: 599
    Sally,
    I am so sorry to hear

    Sally,

    I am so sorry to hear your news about Jim. I thought that he was going to walk out of the hospital as well.

    It was wonderful to hear your stories about Jim. My thoughts and prayers go out to you today and words can't begin to fill what must seem unbelievable --- to not have Jim with you after over 53 years of marriage. I hope you know that your CSN family is here for you and will keep you and your family in our thoughts and prayers.

    Many hugs,
    Cindy
  • unclaw2002
    unclaw2002 Member Posts: 599
    Sally,

    I replied again to your message because a hacker on the Board sent your message far down the tread and I knew many of your friends on CSN would want to know your news about Jim. Again my prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.

    Hugs to you,
    Cindy
  • unclaw2002
    unclaw2002 Member Posts: 599
    So sorry
    Going to bed but wanted to repost again because of the hacker.
  • JimsBrother
    JimsBrother Member Posts: 94

    So sorry
    Going to bed but wanted to repost again because of the hacker.

    God Speed Jim
    Dear Sally,

    I'm so sorry for your loss, yet I am so very happy that you were able to share a your lives together for 53 years. I know that your love for eachother will go on forever. You are your family are in my thoughts and my prayers.

    God Bless you and your great love, Jim.

    Rob
  • MRapp226
    MRapp226 Member Posts: 44
    So sorry to hear of your loss...
    Hi sally,

    My father passed away at age 54 on August 29th. Very much like you, he was one of my best friends... He was officially diagnosed with Esophageal Cancer on August 9th. I am so sorry to hear of your husband's passing. Please know that I am thinking of you during this very difficult time.

    Warm regards,
    Melissa
  • Lylesmyprince
    Lylesmyprince Member Posts: 130
    MRapp226 said:

    So sorry to hear of your loss...
    Hi sally,

    My father passed away at age 54 on August 29th. Very much like you, he was one of my best friends... He was officially diagnosed with Esophageal Cancer on August 9th. I am so sorry to hear of your husband's passing. Please know that I am thinking of you during this very difficult time.

    Warm regards,
    Melissa

    Sally,
    I'm sorry to hear of

    Sally,

    I'm sorry to hear of Jim's passing. You are in my thoughts and prayers. This is a very difficult journey...Praying for you and your family.

    Love,
    Susie