I thought I looked good ...
On my way home from work this afternoon I stopped by the grocery store to pick up some necesities (litter box liners ... and donuts!)... but of course I ended up with a few more things in my cart. As I was walking down one of the aisles I noticed one of the store employees driving one of those motorized cart things ... so I pulled over to the side to let him pass ... BUT ... he stopped and said "This is for you." I told him "no thanks ... I'm fine" and he said "They told me to bring this to you." I smiled and told him again that I was fine... and he drove off down the aisle.
I had my hat on covering my baldish head ... I had makeup on ... and big earrings ... so I really thought I was looking pretty good. But ... guess I must have look pretty bad for them to send an "emergency vehicle" out for me.
Boy ... as much as I hate to admit it ... people do seem to come out of the woodwork to see if I'm OK ... if I need help etc. In fact ... after seeing how people go out of their way to help ... I have a dear friend who jokingly asked to use my hat when I'm finished. :-)
hugs.
teena
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I thought I looked good
Teena
That is so funny. I know exactly what you mean. I was at a store looking at cooking supplies when a complete stranger hugged me. I felt really odd and quickly left the store. Afterward I thought that maybe I reminded this woman of someone she loved who also suffered from the beast and perhaps she just wanted to offer me some encouragement. So maybe the store manager remembered a mother, sister, friend or brother who suffered from breast cancer, and thought that they could help. In any event you still cracked me up. surfermom0 -
I'm sure you DID look good!
Thanks for sharing, teena. You probably DID, indeed, look good!
The kindness of strangers... Gotta love it!
Kind regards, Susan0 -
Teena and SurfermomChristmas Girl said:I'm sure you DID look good!
Thanks for sharing, teena. You probably DID, indeed, look good!
The kindness of strangers... Gotta love it!
Kind regards, Susan
I love it--you made me laugh and still laughing while typing.
I got one for you all:
A guy I went to high school and we work at the same federal government building saw me in the store on campus with no hat on and he asked me what was up--I told him I have breast cancer, gone through my surgery and now going through chemo and that is why the hair loss--he then said well that is a first time I've heard that for a reason---I told him that I was serious and then he said well I heard someone shaved their head in support of someone they knew going through cancer--Well that someone is me and told him that my son buzzed his hair in support of me. I think he must feel like a total fool now.
Love it.
Margo0 -
TEENAChristmas Girl said:I'm sure you DID look good!
Thanks for sharing, teena. You probably DID, indeed, look good!
The kindness of strangers... Gotta love it!
Kind regards, Susan
Maybe the store didn't send it out, this young hunky guy just noticed your incredible gorgeous looks and radiating charisma and was trying to hit on you!!!!!!!!!!!0 -
That's very funny. Thankstasha_111 said:TEENA
Maybe the store didn't send it out, this young hunky guy just noticed your incredible gorgeous looks and radiating charisma and was trying to hit on you!!!!!!!!!!!
That's very funny. Thanks for the laugh!
I too thought that I looked pretty good throughout my chemo but after I was completed and actually looking healthy again, my co-workers told me that I looked like death when I was going through it. Thought I was pulling one over on everyone but I guess not.
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Margo - HA HA!!!tommaseena said:Teena and Surfermom
I love it--you made me laugh and still laughing while typing.
I got one for you all:
A guy I went to high school and we work at the same federal government building saw me in the store on campus with no hat on and he asked me what was up--I told him I have breast cancer, gone through my surgery and now going through chemo and that is why the hair loss--he then said well that is a first time I've heard that for a reason---I told him that I was serious and then he said well I heard someone shaved their head in support of someone they knew going through cancer--Well that someone is me and told him that my son buzzed his hair in support of me. I think he must feel like a total fool now.
Love it.
Margo
That dude's a lunkhead! HA HA!!!
Thanks for sharing! Good one... Yeah, love it!
Kind regards, Susan0 -
Thanks Tasha ...ritazimm said:That's very funny. Thanks
That's very funny. Thanks for the laugh!
I too thought that I looked pretty good throughout my chemo but after I was completed and actually looking healthy again, my co-workers told me that I looked like death when I was going through it. Thought I was pulling one over on everyone but I guess not.
You made my day. I had totally NOT realized that was what was going on. After all ... how could that young dude pass up a 65 year old bald granny. I bet he couldn't get in that cart fast enough ... and had the pedal to the metal the whole time ... just trying to catch up to this old babe. Yep ... for sure that what was going on ... :-) Now I feel terrible that I "rejected" the poor guy ... :-(
hugs.
teena0 -
I agree with Tasha....
You have a big smile, and head up....many, many people want to see survivors like you, proudly going about their business...and just make up excuses to talk...
There are moments, to this day, that I feel less than pretty...and then I remember what I have survived, and the smile returns, and people smile back!!!
Hugs to a beautiful lady, Kathi0 -
looking goodKathiM said:I agree with Tasha....
You have a big smile, and head up....many, many people want to see survivors like you, proudly going about their business...and just make up excuses to talk...
There are moments, to this day, that I feel less than pretty...and then I remember what I have survived, and the smile returns, and people smile back!!!
Hugs to a beautiful lady, Kathi
well at least you ladies got a hug or a helping hand, I was walking through the store and this lady walked by me, grabbed her son and walked away backwards, keeping her eye on me the whole time, I looked at my husband and asked what was wrong, he said "you're bald". I forgot. Oh well, I still think I looked fabulous!
Cat0 -
What the heck?!?cats_toy said:looking good
well at least you ladies got a hug or a helping hand, I was walking through the store and this lady walked by me, grabbed her son and walked away backwards, keeping her eye on me the whole time, I looked at my husband and asked what was wrong, he said "you're bald". I forgot. Oh well, I still think I looked fabulous!
Cat
Did she think you were contagious? Sheesh...
Kind regards, Susan0 -
what the heck?Christmas Girl said:What the heck?!?
Did she think you were contagious? Sheesh...
Kind regards, Susan
well, aren't we? I have heard so many stories lately of breast cancer, it is almost like an epidemic.....
I just never could wear anything on my head, and I think I shocked most people. But when I lost my hair I found the most wonderful thing, a birthmark that when I asked my mom about it, she said it was identical to my dad's (who passed away six months before my daignosis), so it was a wonderful thing for me, and made me feel closer to him. She said I should take a picture because hopefully I will never see it again!
Cat0 -
Hey Cat.......cats_toy said:what the heck?
well, aren't we? I have heard so many stories lately of breast cancer, it is almost like an epidemic.....
I just never could wear anything on my head, and I think I shocked most people. But when I lost my hair I found the most wonderful thing, a birthmark that when I asked my mom about it, she said it was identical to my dad's (who passed away six months before my daignosis), so it was a wonderful thing for me, and made me feel closer to him. She said I should take a picture because hopefully I will never see it again!
Cat
When I was in the hospital, 12 hours after my mastectomy, a nurse stopped at my door & peeked her head in. She asked what I had had done. I told her a mastectomy. She shook her head and said "you are the third one this week! What is going on with you people!"
She then walked away. I was stunned! And angry too.
She made it sound as though I had asked for bc or something.
Fortunately I came home a few hours later & didn't see her again. However, I told the patient advocate about it on my way out.
Other than that, I have to say that people have been very nice and also quite helpful.
CR0 -
mostly positive experiencesCR1954 said:Hey Cat.......
When I was in the hospital, 12 hours after my mastectomy, a nurse stopped at my door & peeked her head in. She asked what I had had done. I told her a mastectomy. She shook her head and said "you are the third one this week! What is going on with you people!"
She then walked away. I was stunned! And angry too.
She made it sound as though I had asked for bc or something.
Fortunately I came home a few hours later & didn't see her again. However, I told the patient advocate about it on my way out.
Other than that, I have to say that people have been very nice and also quite helpful.
CR
CR,
Most everyone I met has been great, and all of my family and co-workers (who are like an extended family to me) were more than supportive and believed that I would kick this from day one. I tried to let everyone in the office know and to not hesitate to ask questions, because I figured they would be going through the whole thing with me. Besides the fact that it was the big C, most of my experiences and procedures have been very positive and informative. I did have a long string in our family, my aunt first with a lumpectomy, then a mastectomy, then my mom with a lumpectomy, and me a few months later with a partial mastectomy. But at least we have so much more knowledgeable docs than years past, it is a more positive outcome for most of us. Glad your experience were mostly in the positive!
Cat0 -
Cat... You make a good, but sad, point...cats_toy said:what the heck?
well, aren't we? I have heard so many stories lately of breast cancer, it is almost like an epidemic.....
I just never could wear anything on my head, and I think I shocked most people. But when I lost my hair I found the most wonderful thing, a birthmark that when I asked my mom about it, she said it was identical to my dad's (who passed away six months before my daignosis), so it was a wonderful thing for me, and made me feel closer to him. She said I should take a picture because hopefully I will never see it again!
Cat
Yes, agree. Way too much of it. Although we warmly welcome with open arms the newcomers here - I always feel a slight twinge of sadness, knowing that yet another person has to face the beast.
At the cancer center where I received my treatment 5 years ago, they recently DOUBLED the size of the parking lot (was very large to begin with). When I go for my follow-ups, that lot is FULL - and, I get that same twinge of sadness.
Kind regards, Susan
P.S.: Thanks for sharing the little story of your birthmark... How comforting, like a sign that your dad was/is with you, always...0 -
I don't blame you at all, CR...CR1954 said:Hey Cat.......
When I was in the hospital, 12 hours after my mastectomy, a nurse stopped at my door & peeked her head in. She asked what I had had done. I told her a mastectomy. She shook her head and said "you are the third one this week! What is going on with you people!"
She then walked away. I was stunned! And angry too.
She made it sound as though I had asked for bc or something.
Fortunately I came home a few hours later & didn't see her again. However, I told the patient advocate about it on my way out.
Other than that, I have to say that people have been very nice and also quite helpful.
CR
... for informing the patient advocate about that nurse's very insensitive comment. Hopefully, another patient will not be treated so rudely because you spoke up.
Kind regards, Susan0 -
too trueChristmas Girl said:Cat... You make a good, but sad, point...
Yes, agree. Way too much of it. Although we warmly welcome with open arms the newcomers here - I always feel a slight twinge of sadness, knowing that yet another person has to face the beast.
At the cancer center where I received my treatment 5 years ago, they recently DOUBLED the size of the parking lot (was very large to begin with). When I go for my follow-ups, that lot is FULL - and, I get that same twinge of sadness.
Kind regards, Susan
P.S.: Thanks for sharing the little story of your birthmark... How comforting, like a sign that your dad was/is with you, always...
Susan,
way too many stories now of bc, a lot hitting very close to home, the only good thing to think about is that the more the onc docs treat, the better the treatments, the better the outcome. I wish I had found this site when I was first diagnosed, so much information and support.
and yes, my dad is with me...always. thanks for the thought!
Cat0 -
Take Hugs where we can get them! LOL1surfermom said:I thought I looked good
Teena
That is so funny. I know exactly what you mean. I was at a store looking at cooking supplies when a complete stranger hugged me. I felt really odd and quickly left the store. Afterward I thought that maybe I reminded this woman of someone she loved who also suffered from the beast and perhaps she just wanted to offer me some encouragement. So maybe the store manager remembered a mother, sister, friend or brother who suffered from breast cancer, and thought that they could help. In any event you still cracked me up. surfermom
I dunno, surfermom...I too am in California , and I have a habit of hugging bandana clad women~ so maybe it was me! LOL
I had 2 "odd" experiences hugging bald women...one turned out to be a militant Lesbian making a political, in-your-face statement, and another had alopecia! Well, they were still Kindred Spirits in my eyes~ bald women of the world, unite! :-)
Hugs,
Claudia
PS...when I see the bald/bandana'd ones I usually say: " I used to have that EXACT hair-style"0 -
Yes, Cat...cats_toy said:too true
Susan,
way too many stories now of bc, a lot hitting very close to home, the only good thing to think about is that the more the onc docs treat, the better the treatments, the better the outcome. I wish I had found this site when I was first diagnosed, so much information and support.
and yes, my dad is with me...always. thanks for the thought!
Cat
Agree. On all points.
Kind regards, Susan0 -
Hi Teena,
Why, you little
Hi Teena,
Why, you little cougar, you!! I bet he was heartbroken when you didn't fall for his plan. You know that the next time, you're just going to have to give in. Just make sure he's over 21! Thanks for the laugh, I needed it today.
Love and Hugs,
Donna0 -
second time I've heard that term!djteach said:Hi Teena,
Why, you little
Hi Teena,
Why, you little cougar, you!! I bet he was heartbroken when you didn't fall for his plan. You know that the next time, you're just going to have to give in. Just make sure he's over 21! Thanks for the laugh, I needed it today.
Love and Hugs,
Donna
Donna,
That's the second time I've heard that term! First time was the Sunday school class for 11th and 12th graders that my husband and I teach. I told them that my husband is 10 years my junior,and she called me a cougar jokingly!
You know,my surgeon's partner was always telling me how beautiful I looked when i lost my hair,she said that she thought hair just took away from people's facial features! She told me I should start a new fashion!
But I do remember a waitress at a restuarant my friend and I would frequent after my radiation treatments who said once"Oh honey,how are you" in "that kind of tone",and I thought,wow,do I really look that sick? Course I never really wore makeup during that time except for a little blush. I guess it was because I saw myself in the mirror everyday and was used to it!
Hope you all are doing well tonight!
Love,Patty0
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