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txtrisha55 said:

Like most of the ladies on

Like most of the ladies on this site,  your wife is a statistic of one. Remain positive and find a good thought each day. It helped me a lot. My two favorite sayings.... This too shall pass and God will only give you what you can handle as He is there to help carry the load.

This, too, shall pass is my life motto. It works equally well in good times and bad, doesn't it?

bob13440 said:

shots

did any of you have to give yourself shots in the stomach when you got home?

Between round 4 and 5 or 3 and 4, my white baby blood cells weren't producing, so had to give myself shots for 5 days.  They taught me at the infusion center.  I almost had a nurse friend do it for me, but I thought, "I can do this" and did it.  I had a couple bruises, but it was ok.  You can do this.

Jeanette

Sandy3185 said:

So much pain

Hi Bob, so sorry to hear your wife is having such a hard time. I also had an open hysterectomy and I remember how painful it was! I was in the hospital for 6 days. My husband and my daughter took turns heckling me into walking the hospital corridors and I recall that I was not all that grateful. But it did help tremendously, along with spending more and more time sitting in a chair instead of the bed. By the time I left the hospital, the pain had greatly diminished. When I returned home they gave me plenty of pain medication and that actually turned out to be a problem. I was afraid of the pain and afraid to cut back on the medication. The pain pills made me feel constantly nauseous. I was hardly eating( not like me at all!). I finally cut way back on the meds and began feeling better. Let your wife know that it will get better soon but she does have to try and get around as much as possible. If the pain isn't diminishing, I would discuss it with her doctor. Hoping she starts feeling better very soon. Sandy

Keeping you both in my prayers.  I had the open surgery too and boy did they have me walking!  No Bm until day five. And then not another one for amother five days.  My doctor prescribed strong coffee which really helped.  I was in the hospital for six days total and they wanted to keep me longer to do chemo but I put my foot down.  Is she experiencing peaks and valleys of pain?  If so that exacerbates the pain aside from being stressed and scared.  see if nurses can help with that by giving her Tylenol two between pain meds.  Things will get better.  Keep her hydrated and walking.  

Prayers and hugs.  

bob13440 said:

sick

they found fluid in her lungs today, went to drain them, but her bp crashed. She almost passed out. She's petrified... so am I. I hope it hasn't spread already, surgery was just 6 days ago! Any thoughts?

Bob, how scary that HAD to be for your wife when they came at her to drain her lungs!!!!  It is ok to be scared, but with these things going on she is in the best place to help her right now. If you were in your home, which I am sure you both want to be, you wouldn't be able to do anything for her there.

I would say rather than guess what it might be from ask the doctor.  I know THAT is frustrating trying to catch up with them, but they should have tests and hard facts of what you need to know. 

For your wife, and all the women here who have talked about their open hysterectomy, I can't imagine that pain. 

Again, speculation is not a good way to go.  You really want to get the facts. 

bob13440 said:

thanks

this board has become my own little place for support. Dr. told us it's not spreading, it's just fluid building up like before the surgery. They'll try agin tomorrow to drain it and hope to start chemo next week. All of the support advice and well wishes are very appreciated. Thanks so much!

So sorry to hear that Lorraine has fluid build up around the lungs.  I hope they can drain the fluid tomorrow and her breathing will be easier.  I am sure Lorraine is very frightened since her BP dropped before.  I'll say extra prayers for both of you.  I hope Lorraine gets to go home soon.  She is very fortunate to have such a caring husband.  Thanks for keeping us informed.  In peace and caring.

Bob, thank you for being a fine man and an extremely wonderful husband, the world need more husbands like you.  Here's wishing Lorraine a speedy recovery.  Keep up the good work Bob, you are a great man. Don't forget to take care of yourself. By the way Bob, any children?

bob13440 said:

no children together. She has

no children together. She has two sons, I have three sons. Thank you for the kind words. She has made me who I am today. I'd be lost without her love.

You both will feel so much better once she is there.  Don't forget the pillow and keep asking us questions.  Let people help out, our friends stocked our pantry, brought meals, walked dogs and understood when we didn't feel up to having visitors or guests.  you can both do this and she needs to rest up for treatments.  And I am sure you need some rest too.  I hope your kids are doing okay, ours were scared.  I told them the best thing they could do for all of us was to ask questions, talk about their fears and keep moving forward.  The same went for my husband.  Those couple of weeks are kind of a blur for me but I do remember my poor husband taking on the laundry which has always been my thing.  

Sending prayers and hugs. Sending her wishes to stay strong and thrive.  Anne