My Patrick passed away today

Goldie1
Goldie1 Member Posts: 264 Member
in Colorectal Cancer #1

Devoted husband of 31 years, loving father of our 2 children, great walker of our 2 dogs, and the very best friend that I could ever hope for.  He fought this battle bravely for almost 3 years, and when he got knocked down, he dusted himself off, and kept fighting till the very end.  

He was a hands on type of guy.  He loved woodworking, gardening, refurbishing old cash registers, and weekly trips to Lowe's or Home Depot.  DIY was his motto and he did it well.  He didn't have much time for tv unless it was sports, especially our hometown Philadelphia teams.  Drove a truck for the same company for 30 years and was a proud Teamster.  One of 14 children (9 sisters/5 brothers) and lost 2 sisters and his father to cancer.  

Pat wasn't much for technology.  I made him get a cell phone when he returned to work about a year after his colon resection for just in case.  He hated that little phone!  Our computer only seemed to confuse him.  And when I mentioned all the good folks on this board and would he like to join, he always put it off.  But, I would read many a topic and responses to him and that was good enough for him.  

How am I going to manage without him?  We started dating when I was 16 and he was 18, got married when I was 22, have 2 wonderful children (now young adults) made a home and a life that suited us just fine.  A very good balance for so many years.  And now he is gone.  I am so sad that my body seems unconnected and lost.  I miss him.

Ellen


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  • Lovekitties
    Lovekitties Member Posts: 3,364 Member
    #2
    Dear Ellen

    I am so very sorry for your loss.

    You dear husband sounds like a wonderful man and your devotion to him was always obvious in your posts.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you go through the next very difficult days.

    May you find that each day that passes the grief eases a little and your wonderful memories of your time together sustain you.

    Hugs and love,

    Marie who loves kitties

  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576 Member
    #3
    Lovekitties said:

    Dear Ellen

    I am so very sorry for your loss.

    You dear husband sounds like a wonderful man and your devotion to him was always obvious in your posts.

    My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family as you go through the next very difficult days.

    May you find that each day that passes the grief eases a little and your wonderful memories of your time together sustain you.

    Hugs and love,

    Marie who loves kitties

    Ellen

    Dear Ellen.....what a wonderful tribute to your dear husband and your life together.....

    he sounds like the very greatest kind of guy..I find words for your pain almost impossible so ....sending you deepest love....i hope you will consider staying round here.....

    mags

  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #4
    Oh Ellen

    If only words could take away your pain of the loss of your dear husband.  I am so sorry that his life was cut too short and he had to leave you alone, but always remember how well he fought to remain with you.

    I can only give you a virtual hug and send my love, I am so sorry.

    Winter Marie

  • Lisa2012
    Lisa2012 Member Posts: 142
    #5
    Ellen

    So sorry for your loss.   I pray that you and your children find peace.

  • Trapbear
    Trapbear Member Posts: 108 Member
    #6
    Ellen
    i am so sorry you lost

    Ellen

    i am so sorry you lost your beloved husband.  This is such a horrible disease. 

    Bill

  • aggie0053
    aggie0053 Member Posts: 110
    #7
    i am so sorry for your loss

    i am so sorry for your loss

  • Cathleen Mary
    Cathleen Mary Member Posts: 827 Member
    #8
    aggie0053 said:

    i am so sorry for your loss

    i am so sorry for your loss

     

    What a love story!   I am

     

    What a love story!   I am so very sorry to hear of your beloved Pateick's passing. Your tender, loving presence must have been such a consolation to him. 

    Please know we don't want to lose you, too....and we care. Check in when you want to.

    Hugs and prayers,

    CM

  • Trubrit
    Trubrit Member Posts: 5,804 Member
    #9
    Dear, dear Ellen

    Please accept my heartfelt and most sincere sympathies. 

    Your tribute to Pat was so very touching. No words will suffice at this time to comfort, but know that you will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers, along with your children. 

    Peace be with you as you begin this new journey. 

    Virtual hugs and prayers. 

  • marbleotis
    marbleotis Member Posts: 720 Member
    #10
    Dear Ellen

    So sorry for your loss.  What a treasure your husband was and you can see the amazining life and love you both shared from your tribute.

    My heart breaks for you that this terrible disease has taken another beautiful soul.

    Please continue to let us know how you are doing.

  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    #11
    Sorry

    So sorry to hear of your loss.  Sounds like you had a wonderful life together.  My sympathies to you and your children.

    Kim

  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH Member Posts: 1,456 Member
    #12
    Ellen,
    I'm so very sorry that

    Ellen,

    I'm so very sorry that you've lost your dear husband.  My deepest condolences to you and your family.

    With sympathy,

    Cynthia

  • PatchAdams
    PatchAdams Member Posts: 271
    #13
    So sorry

    I'm so sorry for your loss. 

  • fatbob2010
    fatbob2010 Member Posts: 467 Member
    #14
    Sorry to hear

    Thank you for sharing this touching moment and life narrative. 

    Very sorry that you have lost this great man.

    Peace and comfort to you an the children,

    Art

  • YoVita
    YoVita Member Posts: 590 Member
    #15
    I'm so sorry for your loss

    You have been such a loving caregiver for Patrick.  What a wonderful description of your dearest husband and the life you shared.  What a rich life!  I hope the memories help you during this difficult time. 

  • UncleBuddy
    UncleBuddy Member Posts: 1,019 Member
    #16
    I am so sorry for your loss!

    He sounded like a wonderful husband and father. <<HUGS>>

    Lin

  • wolfen
    wolfen Member Posts: 1,324 Member
    #17
    UncleBuddy said:

    I am so sorry for your loss!

    He sounded like a wonderful husband and father. <<HUGS>>

    Lin

    Ellen

    I'm so sorry that Patrick has lost his battle. May you and your family find peace.

    Luv,

    Wolfen

  • lilacbrroller
    lilacbrroller Member Posts: 412 Member
    #18
    wolfen said:

    Ellen

    I'm so sorry that Patrick has lost his battle. May you and your family find peace.

    Luv,

    Wolfen

    So sorry

    I very sorry about the loss of your husband. My sincerest condolences.

    Karin

  • jen2012
    jen2012 Member Posts: 1,607 Member
    #19
    Oh Ellen, what beautiful

    Oh Ellen, what beautiful words you have for your dear Patrick.  I am so sorry for your loss.  I hope you have lots of support...let people help you and take care of you.

  • Helen321
    Helen321 Member Posts: 1,460 Member
    #20
    Hi Ellen, What a beautiful

    Hi Ellen, What a beautiful tribute.  I wish I had the right comforting words but no words ever seem enough.  I truly hope you find yourself again and he knows that he'll be in your heart forever. 

  • geotina
    geotina Member Posts: 2,111 Member
    #21
    Ellen:

    I am so sorry for your loss.  The days, weeks, months ahead will be so very difficult.   Your life is forever changed but you already know that.   Please know that so many others know personally the grief you are and will be experiencing and are so very sorry for your loss.  If you need anything, just want to chat, ask questions, anything at all, please send me a pm. 

    I'm so sorry -

    Tina

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