More prayers please.

jim and i
jim and i Member Posts: 1,788 Member
in Head and Neck Cancer #1

I am in need of more prayers, and need I say, pray for Jim. FRiday Jim started to cough up small specs of blood. Saturday it was about a teaspoon of blood. The on call nurse came by to check. She said it was from the cancer. His heart rate has also been in the 100s but they don't seem to be worried. She said she could hear the sound cancer makes in the upper lungs, more so in the right. She warned us that it was rare but she has seen it twice that the cancer will cause hemorage in the lungs and he will cough large amounts of blood. She told us that just to prepare us for worst case. I had a friend whose son had the lungs hemorage. She said it was awful and nothing could prepare you for it. She told me this five years ago. Didn't want to sound like she told me now.

The Hospice nurse gave me a notebook for the caretaker. I read the end of life symptoms. Jim is displaying some of them. I seem to be numb right now and am trying to be strong for Jim. He sees me sometimes as I was in my 20's and wakes calling my name to be sure I am there. The nurse ordered a wheel chair and portable oxygen for him to go fishing. However it is too cold and windy and he isn't real enthused. Mostly he sleeps. Last week and this weekend I have been able to get him up and into the living room to watch a little TV until about 11PM, he dozes more than watches. Today he has no pain but says he feels bad and wants to stay in bed.

Thanks for letting me ramble. It is a comfort knowing I have your prayers and listening ears. We find comfort knowing that Jesus is with us now and will be with us through to the other side.

Blessings my friends

Debbie

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  • CivilMatt
    CivilMatt Member Posts: 4,724 Member
    #2
    T&P

    Debbie,

    I will keep both of you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Peace,

    Matt

  • hwt
    hwt Member Posts: 2,328 Member
    #3
    CivilMatt said:

    T&P

    Debbie,

    I will keep both of you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Peace,

    Matt

    Debbie

    I know all of our thoughts and prayers are with both you & Jim. It is good that he is not in pain.  Prayers that God give you the strength to be there for Jim as you always have been. It is obvious that he is at peace with you by his side. 

    God bless,

    Candi

  • wmc
    wmc Member Posts: 1,804
    #4
    You got it.

    You know I will keep both of you in my thoughts and prayers.

  • Ladylacy
    Ladylacy Member Posts: 773 Member
    #5
    Prayers

    Debbie, I am so sorry to hear.  Prayers coming your way for Jim and you too. 

    Wishing you both peace and comfort -- Sharon

  • inittogether2
    inittogether2 Member Posts: 18
    #6
    wmc said:

    You got it.

    You know I will keep both of you in my thoughts and prayers.

    Debbie
    Heartfelt prayers for

    Debbie

    Heartfelt prayers for you and your husband. Take comfort that the Lord is close to the broken hearted and He has you both in the palm of His hands. MayGods peace that surpasses all understanding surround you and Him in this journey. 

  • Skiffin16
    Skiffin16 Member Posts: 8,305 Member
    #7
    Prayers...

    Prayers for you and my fishing buddy....

    John

  • hawk711
    hawk711 Member Posts: 566
    #8
    Hugs and prayers

    We will all keep you both in our prayers.  God bless. 

  • phrannie51
    phrannie51 Member Posts: 4,716
    #9
    Debbie...

    Keeping you and Jim in my prayers and thoughts.  I wish so much there was more I could say or do to help you through this.....

    p

  • PJ47
    PJ47 Member Posts: 376
    #10
    Sending you prayers and peace

    thankful to hear his pain is under control, you are inmy thoughts,

     

     

    PJ

  • Sunshine60
    Sunshine60 Member Posts: 81
    #11
    Prayers

    You and Jim are in my daily prayers.   Remember to take care of yourself too!  You are not alone...

  • jim and i
    jim and i Member Posts: 1,788 Member
    #12
    Thank you my friends. I have

    Thank you my friends. I have been numb these last two days as Jim's rapid decline stuns me. Today he would not get out of bed and slept all day. Reading your response has touched my heart and I am able to greive a little and release some tears. Please specifically pray that his lungs do not hemorage as I don't think I could handle that and I would never be able to come back to this home. He seems to be comfortable and only needed pain meds at 3:30. However the blood he coughs up has increased in quantity and is brighter red.   Thank you all for your prayers and comforting words.

    debbie

  • debbiejeanne
    debbiejeanne Member Posts: 3,102 Member
    #13
    jim and i said:

    Thank you my friends. I have

    Thank you my friends. I have been numb these last two days as Jim's rapid decline stuns me. Today he would not get out of bed and slept all day. Reading your response has touched my heart and I am able to greive a little and release some tears. Please specifically pray that his lungs do not hemorage as I don't think I could handle that and I would never be able to come back to this home. He seems to be comfortable and only needed pain meds at 3:30. However the blood he coughs up has increased in quantity and is brighter red.   Thank you all for your prayers and comforting words.

    debbie

    debbie, i'm so sorry you and

    debbie, i'm so sorry you and jim are going thru this.   saying prayers for both of you to have strength and guidance thru this time.  i'm very glad he isn't having much pain, that's good.  don't forget to take care of you, that's important.  i wish we could do more for both of you but please know that we are with you in thoughts and prayers.  keep us posted and God bless you both.

    dj

  • donfoo
    donfoo Member Posts: 1,773 Member
    #14
    Prayers for you and Jim

    I will pray for you both for strentgh and serenity during these most difficult times. It is good to hear Jim is not in in pain and able to sleep and rest. So glad hospice is there to support and help too. Lean on them as you have been. Don

  • katenorwood
    katenorwood Member Posts: 1,912
    #15
    Hello Debbie

    You know sometimes I think they give out way too damn much information.  Please take this one day at a time, sometimes one step at a time.  Do you have someone close that can be with you two during the evenings ?  If things get too rough at home to manage, you may think of hospice providers outside of the home.  (just a suggestion)

    You are a very brave and loving woman.  And Jim knows and feels your love with him through this believe me.  You both are in my prayers and thoughts.  Hugs sent,  Katie

  • wolfen
    wolfen Member Posts: 1,324 Member
    #16
    katenorwood said:

    Hello Debbie

    You know sometimes I think they give out way too damn much information.  Please take this one day at a time, sometimes one step at a time.  Do you have someone close that can be with you two during the evenings ?  If things get too rough at home to manage, you may think of hospice providers outside of the home.  (just a suggestion)

    You are a very brave and loving woman.  And Jim knows and feels your love with him through this believe me.  You both are in my prayers and thoughts.  Hugs sent,  Katie

    Debbie

    I am holding you close to my heart.  Sending positive & healing thoughts to Jim that he will continue to be pain free. As Kate suggested, perhaps someone can come & be with you. It is not a time to be alone.

    Luv,

    Wolfen

  • KB56
    KB56 Member Posts: 318 Member
    #17
    Jim

    Debbie, you and Jim are in my thoughts and prayers.   

    Keith

  • Carolinagal
    Carolinagal Member Posts: 91
    #18
    So Sorry

    Praying for stregnth, peace, and comfort for you both.

  • Hondo
    Hondo Member Posts: 6,636 Member
    #19
    Jim

    I pray that his pain and suffering will be minimum, and that our Lord will give you the strength you need in this time of trial. When I am down and can go no lower, when my world starts to fall apart on me I cry out to the Lord and find that He is always there to help me. I am praying for you both everyday.

     

    God Bless

    Tim

  • j4mie
    j4mie Member Posts: 218
    #20
    Debbie

    I am so sorry that you and Jim are going through this...I don't know what to say except that you are both in my thoughts and prayers. Sending lots of love...

    Jamie

  • cid817
    cid817 Member Posts: 58
    #21
    Prayers

    Debbie, My thoughts and prayers are with you and Jim.  I wish you peace and comfort through this heartbreaking journey.  May God hold you both in the palm of his hand.

    Cindy

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