Hospitals, hospitals, and hospitals

Lorikat said:

Thank You Sephie.. That
Thank You Sephie.. That felt like a hug....

I am so sorry you are going
I am so sorry you are going through this with your mom and your daughter. My mother had to go into the nursing home about 5 years ago. She was in really bad shape with dementia and a host of problems when I found out I had cancer in April of 2011. At first I felt badly because I couldn't do for her the way I wanted to, but I finally just had to trust God and everything did work out. All nursing homes are rated by medicare and your state should have public records on nursing homes in regards to inspections and so forth. I have always felt that the best way to insure the best care is to have family, friends, church groups, etc., visit as often as possible. It is just the nature of people that if the staff knows that someone is observing the care they are giving, the individual will get better care. There are many wonderful people who work in nursing homes and assisted living centers that love the individuals they serve. I will pray that all goes well.
God watch over you and yours.
Diane

sandysp said:

Take care of YOUR precious self . . .
Dear heart . . . Please go easy on yourself. I find I bleed too every time I am under more stress. I think it's because my system gets more acidic and it just burns me all the way through, but who knows?

Please don't take anything on you can delegate. Your Mom's dementia will continue to surface as anger toward you. You just don't need that, never did, never will.

You and your Mom are in my prayers.

Fondly,
Sandy

Mom's and dementia
My mother took it very hard to find herself in Assisted Living. It was a difficult time. But over the years she was there (4) she realized how much she needed to be there. By the time she passed she was at peace with her situation and her children. She was in a place that really helped her with the adjustments. She engaged in almost all of their activities too. She knew all of us to the very end but she didn't remember much of anything else or know where she was. It was a peaceful goodbye. She died a month ago from heart and as a result other major organ failures and I believe my brother, who had to make the decision to place her in Assisted Living a few years back, chose a good place and did the right thing. It's all very difficult though. Please take care of your precious self and know that everything we go through is in God's hands really.

FONDLY,
SANDY

Lorikat said:

Dementia IS a cruel
Dementia IS a cruel disease.. I have a long time lease on an ice floe in Alaska. If I feel myself slipping I am just gonna float out to sea. Hypothermia anyone?

Dementia
My wife has dementia. It is getting to the point where I cannot care for her anymore. Plan on putting her in dementia care home.
Rather expensive, but I have no choice. Last summer we were married 55 years, unfortunately she is no longer the lady I married so long
ago. It is indeed cruel.