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  • Lorikat
    Lorikat Member Posts: 681 Member
    #22
    cap630 said:

    I understand
    Sorry to hear you are going through a tough time. We had to place my mother in a skilled nursing home. It is a very hard decision to make, but I was not physically strong enough to take care of her. My father have been in and out of the hosptial as well all summer. It has gotten to the point when I go for a test I am giving my father's birthdate. 5/23/1926 - the women looked at me and said "I don't think so" - that is when I said to myself - you need to take care of you again. Maybe someday it will happen. Good luck. ~Carol

    LOL Carol! The other day I
    LOL Carol! The other day I was asked dates of surgeries, illnesses etc for myself, and with a blank look on my face I answered "I'm not sure but I CAN give you dates of my MOM's illnesses"!!! The nurses just nodded their heads and said they understand.
  • mxperry220
    mxperry220 Member Posts: 496 Member
    #23
    Nursing Home Ratings
    Below is a link that may help you in making a decision on a nursing home for your mom. They have a rating system and report of nursing home care.

    http://nursing-homes.findthebest.com/

    Mike
  • MyHopen413
    MyHopen413 Member Posts: 38
    #24
    Lorikat said:

    Thank You Sephie.. That
    Thank You Sephie.. That felt like a hug....

    I am so sorry you are going
    I am so sorry you are going through this with your mom and your daughter. My mother had to go into the nursing home about 5 years ago. She was in really bad shape with dementia and a host of problems when I found out I had cancer in April of 2011. At first I felt badly because I couldn't do for her the way I wanted to, but I finally just had to trust God and everything did work out. All nursing homes are rated by medicare and your state should have public records on nursing homes in regards to inspections and so forth. I have always felt that the best way to insure the best care is to have family, friends, church groups, etc., visit as often as possible. It is just the nature of people that if the staff knows that someone is observing the care they are giving, the individual will get better care. There are many wonderful people who work in nursing homes and assisted living centers that love the individuals they serve. I will pray that all goes well.
    God watch over you and yours.
    Diane
  • lizdeli
    lizdeli Member Posts: 569 Member
    #25
    mxperry220 said:

    Nursing Home Ratings
    Below is a link that may help you in making a decision on a nursing home for your mom. They have a rating system and report of nursing home care.

    http://nursing-homes.findthebest.com/

    Mike

    Hi Lori
    I just wanted you to know that I'm sorry that you have so much on your plate right now. Some how, some way try to seek some quiet place for yourself so that you can relax even if it's for a day. This is a very stressful time for you and I wish there was something we could do to help. In the meantime sending hugs and good vibes and anxiously awaiting your good news so that we can celebrate your one year NED!
    Best,
    Liz
  • sandysp
    sandysp Member Posts: 868 Member
    #26
    sandysp said:

    Take care of YOUR precious self . . .
    Dear heart . . . Please go easy on yourself. I find I bleed too every time I am under more stress. I think it's because my system gets more acidic and it just burns me all the way through, but who knows?

    Please don't take anything on you can delegate. Your Mom's dementia will continue to surface as anger toward you. You just don't need that, never did, never will.

    You and your Mom are in my prayers.

    Fondly,
    Sandy

    Mom's and dementia
    My mother took it very hard to find herself in Assisted Living. It was a difficult time. But over the years she was there (4) she realized how much she needed to be there. By the time she passed she was at peace with her situation and her children. She was in a place that really helped her with the adjustments. She engaged in almost all of their activities too. She knew all of us to the very end but she didn't remember much of anything else or know where she was. It was a peaceful goodbye. She died a month ago from heart and as a result other major organ failures and I believe my brother, who had to make the decision to place her in Assisted Living a few years back, chose a good place and did the right thing. It's all very difficult though. Please take care of your precious self and know that everything we go through is in God's hands really.

    FONDLY,
    SANDY
  • mp327
    mp327 Member Posts: 4,440 Member
    #27
    lizdeli said:

    Hi Lori
    I just wanted you to know that I'm sorry that you have so much on your plate right now. Some how, some way try to seek some quiet place for yourself so that you can relax even if it's for a day. This is a very stressful time for you and I wish there was something we could do to help. In the meantime sending hugs and good vibes and anxiously awaiting your good news so that we can celebrate your one year NED!
    Best,
    Liz

    Hi Lorikat--
    I just wanted to tell you that I attended a seminar today put on by my local chapter of the Alzheimer's Association. I am so glad I went, as it gave me lots of good information about the disease and a whole new perspective of what it's like to be an Alzheimer's patient and/or a caregiver to someone with the disease. The speaker was a local woman and she was so very well informed and gave a great presentation. You might get on their website, www.alz.org, and see if there are going to be any such seminars in your area. When I spoke with my mom on the phone tonight, I think our conversation was much easier for me to deal with because of the info I got today. We can not let ourselves feel guilty. That was stressed over and over today. I wish both you and your mom well.
  • danker
    danker Member Posts: 1,276 Member
    #28
    Lorikat said:

    Dementia IS a cruel
    Dementia IS a cruel disease.. I have a long time lease on an ice floe in Alaska. If I feel myself slipping I am just gonna float out to sea. Hypothermia anyone?

    Dementia
    My wife has dementia. It is getting to the point where I cannot care for her anymore. Plan on putting her in dementia care home.
    Rather expensive, but I have no choice. Last summer we were married 55 years, unfortunately she is no longer the lady I married so long
    ago. It is indeed cruel.
  • sephie
    sephie Member Posts: 650 Member
    #29
    danker said:

    Dementia
    My wife has dementia. It is getting to the point where I cannot care for her anymore. Plan on putting her in dementia care home.
    Rather expensive, but I have no choice. Last summer we were married 55 years, unfortunately she is no longer the lady I married so long
    ago. It is indeed cruel.

    so sorry
    55 years is fabulous. congrats. bless you and your wife. sephie

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