My, Oh My how life does change sometimes

herdizziness
herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
in Colorectal Cancer #1
I'm not quite sure about this stranger next to me. I hadn't realized how used to the way he had been for the last year or so that any change would seem foreign and indeed strange.
Apparently the words "you will be dead in a few months to a year" seems to have penetrated my alcoholic husband's mind. This is Day FOUR of NO alcohol. I keep staring at him in wonder, he isn't walking around in wet pants from having peed them, no slobbering idiot across the table from me, no mumbling crazy stuff coming out of his mouth. WOW!! I'm not celebrating yet, everyday I'm waiting for this new leaf to turn back over and start again, but I remain cautiously hopeful that it is for real.
He has managed to do this with the help of 3 valium pills a day to prevent DT's and is doing it at home, on his own. I'm shocked, maybe still in shock.
Must of been those well wishes, good thoughts and prays sent his way.
Thank you my friends, keep those good thoughts and wishes still going.
In gratitude for your support,
Winter Marie
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  • wolfen
    wolfen Member Posts: 1,324 Member
    #2
    Winter
    This is great news and I'll keep sending out positive vibes for both of you. Just keep encouraging words & actions handy and he will get through this. He'll be able to look in the mirror and see this new person also and be proud of himself.

    Luv,

    Wolfen
  • buckeye2
    buckeye2 Member Posts: 428 Member
    #3
    That is good news. We will
    That is good news. We will keep sending those positive thoughts your way. Lisa
  • jbeans888
    jbeans888 Member Posts: 313
    #4
    Hi I am from the ovarian
    Hi I am from the ovarian cancer board and I just read your profile and it seems you went thru a lot and are a real trooper. Good news about your husband. It sucks that something like loosing time makes people change, but at least it's for the good.
  • laurettas
    laurettas Member Posts: 372
    #5
    Wonderful news!
    Am so happy to hear this, Marie. I could tell from your description that your husband was a good man but probably overwhelmed by everything concerning your cancer. Will hope that this good news continues and the two of you can again enjoy the good marriage you had before all of this started.
  • Sundanceh
    Sundanceh Member Posts: 4,392 Member
    #6
    "The Winds of Change"
    I hope that this new trend continues...the journey of a 1000 miles begins with the 1st step.

    -C
  • idlehunters
    idlehunters Member Posts: 1,787 Member
    #7
    Sundanceh said:

    "The Winds of Change"
    I hope that this new trend continues...the journey of a 1000 miles begins with the 1st step.

    -C

    Hey Dizz.....
    Simply amazing huh girlfriend???????? Hope it continues...sending good vibes every day!!! Take care.

    Jennie
  • dasspears
    dasspears Member Posts: 227
    #8
    Good to hear! Hope he keeps
    Good to hear! Hope he keeps up the good work.
  • Buzzard
    Buzzard Member Posts: 3,043 Member
    #9
    dasspears said:

    Good to hear! Hope he keeps
    Good to hear! Hope he keeps up the good work.

    Very Happy Winter....
    I know that all will be well in time.........love to you sweetheart........buzz
  • jjaj133
    jjaj133 Member Posts: 867 Member
    #10
    I am also sending good
    I am also sending good thoughts, having some, ok a lot of experience with alcoholism in my family, i know what you are going through,
    Good luck to you both. hugs, judy
  • shmurciakova
    shmurciakova Member Posts: 906 Member
    #11
    how?
    I don't know your story but I just wanted to say congratulations on getting him to see the light. I wish I could do the same thing for my elderly mother. So, did a doctor tell him that if he kept it up he would not live much longer? Maybe that is what she needs to hear too. I don't know whether it is even worth it to try to talk to her about this subject again, but I feel like I have to at least try.
    -Susan
  • LivinginNH
    LivinginNH Member Posts: 1,456 Member
    #12
    Winter Marie, I just wanted

    Winter Marie, I just wanted to say that I'm thinking about you and so glad that your hubby has finally decided to turn things around for himself. All my best, and hugs dear, Cynthia
  • maglets
    maglets Member Posts: 2,576 Member
    #13
    LivinginNH said:

    Winter Marie, I just wanted

    Winter Marie, I just wanted to say that I'm thinking about you and so glad that your hubby has finally decided to turn things around for himself. All my best, and hugs dear, Cynthia

    sorry
    Winter marie....I owe you a very deep apology....when you said your husband was an alcoholic i just didn't think deeply enough. I guess i thought....right....well whose hubby does not have 3 beers while watching the hockey game?

    Winter Marie....your comment about wet pants just struck me......where have I been???

    I am soo sorry.....wouldn't it be great if he can continue with sobriety

    maggie
  • Phoebesnow
    Phoebesnow Member Posts: 600 Member
    #14
    maglets said:

    sorry
    Winter marie....I owe you a very deep apology....when you said your husband was an alcoholic i just didn't think deeply enough. I guess i thought....right....well whose hubby does not have 3 beers while watching the hockey game?

    Winter Marie....your comment about wet pants just struck me......where have I been???

    I am soo sorry.....wouldn't it be great if he can continue with sobriety

    maggie

    Husband
    Good for him and good for you winter Marie. The blue book put out by aa tells stories of people who have been alcoholics and who have turned it around. It really resonates with people. I think u can even download it from the Internet. We will pray for u both.
  • karguy
    karguy Member Posts: 1,020 Member
    #15
    I hope
    I hope the soberiaty continues.It is a hard thing to do,but I know people who have been sober for 20 years.I will be praying for you both.
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #16
    maglets said:

    sorry
    Winter marie....I owe you a very deep apology....when you said your husband was an alcoholic i just didn't think deeply enough. I guess i thought....right....well whose hubby does not have 3 beers while watching the hockey game?

    Winter Marie....your comment about wet pants just struck me......where have I been???

    I am soo sorry.....wouldn't it be great if he can continue with sobriety

    maggie

    Ahh Mags
    It's alright, he was drinking a liter plus of vodka a day, he had lost control of his body, and I feared his mind as well.
    But so far so good!!
    Winter Marie
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #17
    shmurciakova said:

    how?
    I don't know your story but I just wanted to say congratulations on getting him to see the light. I wish I could do the same thing for my elderly mother. So, did a doctor tell him that if he kept it up he would not live much longer? Maybe that is what she needs to hear too. I don't know whether it is even worth it to try to talk to her about this subject again, but I feel like I have to at least try.
    -Susan

    Susan
    I can say I understand, the first visit the doctor just told him he was killing himself. We went back for the blood test results and everything wrong was due to alcohol, his liver, his enlarged red blood cells etc., things I had already been telling my husband, his wasting away from his muscles being ate up by his body. Nothing I said did anything.
    The doctor again repeated to him, how he was going to die, if he kept drinking, I pressed the doctor to tell him how long (those that know and have seen my husband has been figuring a couple of months at best), the doctor said he didn't like to predict these things, I looked at the doctor and I said, "He needs to hear how long, because I believe he is thinking a few years, you need to let him know." The doctor then looked at him and said, "I believe you have a few months to a year at most if you keep drinking." That is what it took to apparently make an impression. He came home that night and got drunk as usual, then the next day, no more. I'm still in disbelief but happy.
    I had bought brand new sheets but refused to put them on the bed because he was peeing the bed. Hopefully, I'll give him a few weeks and if he's still stopped, I'm so looking forward to a new bed, he wanted to buy one before and I wouldn't let him, I didn't want him peeing in it. Try the doctor route, it's the only thing that made a difference, I think he realized he was staring death in the face and decided he didn't want that anymore.
    My heart goes out to you.
    Winter Marie
  • plh4gail
    plh4gail Member Posts: 1,238 Member
    #18
    Winter Marie...I so hope for
    Winter Marie...I so hope for the best for your husband. That it stays in his mind what the impact from "those words" did for him and helps him keep on his course.

    gail
  • marqimark
    marqimark Member Posts: 242 Member
    #19
    Hope and prayers
    Good vibes coming your way, hope they help both of you in your health battles.

    Mark
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #20
    buckeye2 said:

    That is good news. We will
    That is good news. We will keep sending those positive thoughts your way. Lisa

    Lisa
    Thank you, appreciate them, I asked how he was doing this evening, and he said, you know I want a drink, I keep thinking about it. I asked what he planned to do about it. He said nothing, just taking it one step at a time.
    So I'm thinking he needs those positive thoughts to keep coming his way.
    Thank you,
    Winter Marie
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #21
    wolfen said:

    Winter
    This is great news and I'll keep sending out positive vibes for both of you. Just keep encouraging words & actions handy and he will get through this. He'll be able to look in the mirror and see this new person also and be proud of himself.

    Luv,

    Wolfen

    Wolfen
    Thank you for your words, ALL of them and for your vibes. You mean a lot to me. He needs every good vibe he can get, I'm very proud of him for trying so hard.
    Hugs,
    Winter Marie

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