My, Oh My how life does change sometimes

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  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #22
    jbeans888 said:

    Hi I am from the ovarian
    Hi I am from the ovarian cancer board and I just read your profile and it seems you went thru a lot and are a real trooper. Good news about your husband. It sucks that something like loosing time makes people change, but at least it's for the good.

    jbeans
    Thank you so much for taking the time to "come on over" here and your kind words!! I do appreciate it.
    Good health your way!
    Winter Marie
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #23
    laurettas said:

    Wonderful news!
    Am so happy to hear this, Marie. I could tell from your description that your husband was a good man but probably overwhelmed by everything concerning your cancer. Will hope that this good news continues and the two of you can again enjoy the good marriage you had before all of this started.

    Thanks Hun
    I'm so looking forward to a bit more happiness to be sure!!!
    Thank you for thinking of us.
    Winter Marie
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #24
    Sundanceh said:

    "The Winds of Change"
    I hope that this new trend continues...the journey of a 1000 miles begins with the 1st step.

    -C

    Craig, Jenny
    My dear friends, even in the battles you are both waging at the moment, you always take the time to come over and hold my hand. I'm proud to have two such great friends as you both are, thank you for being there every time I need you.
    Winter Marie
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #25
    jjaj133 said:

    I am also sending good
    I am also sending good thoughts, having some, ok a lot of experience with alcoholism in my family, i know what you are going through,
    Good luck to you both. hugs, judy

    Judy
    Thank you. I just realized I haven't had to try to pick him up off the floor in days, I went to school and didn't have to stress about coming home finding him laying on the floor, I'm 5'5" and he's 6'2" and it would take me sometimes up to 20 minutes trying to get him up off the floor, it was exhausting for both of us. I don't know how many times I've had to ask my son to come pick him up and carry him to the bed. Even my neighbor (my son's friend) has had to help on occasion. I keep thinking how nice it feels not worrying about it.
    Winter Marie
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #26
    LivinginNH said:

    Winter Marie, I just wanted

    Winter Marie, I just wanted to say that I'm thinking about you and so glad that your hubby has finally decided to turn things around for himself. All my best, and hugs dear, Cynthia

    Cynthia, Phoeb's
    Thank you for your words and thinking of us, and for your suggestion Phoeb's, I do appreciate it. I told him tonight, just a step at a time hun, and your doing well. I make sure to let him know I'm proud of him many times a day. So nice to see him showering and shaving again. Life can turn around and surprise you, sometimes bad, sometimes good. I'm always in favor of the "sometimes good"!!!! Thanks for you hugs Cynthia, I always like looking at the pictures you post in your avatar.
    Winter Marie
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #27
    karguy said:

    I hope
    I hope the soberiaty continues.It is a hard thing to do,but I know people who have been sober for 20 years.I will be praying for you both.

    Thank you
    His sister has been sober for about 20 years now (he didn't let her know he drinks, I was thinking when we go in December she was going to figure that one out by now, but he might gain enough weight back by then). I appreciate the prayers.
    Winter Marie
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #28
    plh4gail said:

    Winter Marie...I so hope for
    Winter Marie...I so hope for the best for your husband. That it stays in his mind what the impact from "those words" did for him and helps him keep on his course.

    gail

    Gail
    Thank you for your kind words.
    Winter Marie
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #29
    marqimark said:

    Hope and prayers
    Good vibes coming your way, hope they help both of you in your health battles.

    Mark

    Mark
    I'll take all the good vibes I can get!!!
    Thank you my friend.
    Winter Marie
  • Kathleen808
    Kathleen808 Member Posts: 2,342 Member
    #30
    Winter Marie
    Winter Marie,
    I am so glad you have more peace in your life. Sending great vibes your way. Praying your hubby takes sobriety one day at a time.

    Aloha,
    Kathleen
  • Annabelle41415
    Annabelle41415 Member Posts: 6,742 Member
    #31
    Proud of Him
    I'm so proud of him and YOU. After reading your first post about the caregiver, guess I'd never thought it was that bad that you literally had to pick him off the floor and then wetting the bed. I'm wondering how you ever got him to go to the doctor if he really didn't want to quit when you told him before. Getting him to take a blood test was another hurdle that would have been hard to do. He is so lucky to have a wonderful wife like you that has stayed by his side through everything you, yourself, has had to go through. Hope he continues amazing you every day.

    Hugs! Kim
  • relaxoutdoors08
    relaxoutdoors08 Member Posts: 521 Member
    #32
    herdizziness said:

    Susan
    I can say I understand, the first visit the doctor just told him he was killing himself. We went back for the blood test results and everything wrong was due to alcohol, his liver, his enlarged red blood cells etc., things I had already been telling my husband, his wasting away from his muscles being ate up by his body. Nothing I said did anything.
    The doctor again repeated to him, how he was going to die, if he kept drinking, I pressed the doctor to tell him how long (those that know and have seen my husband has been figuring a couple of months at best), the doctor said he didn't like to predict these things, I looked at the doctor and I said, "He needs to hear how long, because I believe he is thinking a few years, you need to let him know." The doctor then looked at him and said, "I believe you have a few months to a year at most if you keep drinking." That is what it took to apparently make an impression. He came home that night and got drunk as usual, then the next day, no more. I'm still in disbelief but happy.
    I had bought brand new sheets but refused to put them on the bed because he was peeing the bed. Hopefully, I'll give him a few weeks and if he's still stopped, I'm so looking forward to a new bed, he wanted to buy one before and I wouldn't let him, I didn't want him peeing in it. Try the doctor route, it's the only thing that made a difference, I think he realized he was staring death in the face and decided he didn't want that anymore.
    My heart goes out to you.
    Winter Marie

    Praying for Your Good Health and Healing for your Husband
    Winter Marie,
    My family has a family history/risk of alcoholism and I know how tough it is to be the person who has to practice tough love and wait for your loved one to "reach bottom" and then begin the healing process. I will continue to keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
    NB
  • thingy45
    thingy45 Member Posts: 632 Member
    #33
    Annabelle41415 said:

    Proud of Him
    I'm so proud of him and YOU. After reading your first post about the caregiver, guess I'd never thought it was that bad that you literally had to pick him off the floor and then wetting the bed. I'm wondering how you ever got him to go to the doctor if he really didn't want to quit when you told him before. Getting him to take a blood test was another hurdle that would have been hard to do. He is so lucky to have a wonderful wife like you that has stayed by his side through everything you, yourself, has had to go through. Hope he continues amazing you every day.

    Hugs! Kim

    Fantastic. You have taken
    Fantastic. You have taken many hurdles. Every new day is a new hurdle. I am so proud of you that you are able to support him in this and for him to quit just like that.
    My girlfriend quit 12 years ago and every day is a new day and struggle, but she has mot taken a drink all this time. Just be proud and give encouragement. 
    Many prayers and good vibes are being send your way.
    Much love and hugs, Marjan
  • christinecarl
    christinecarl Member Posts: 543 Member
    #34
    that is awesome
    I have seen family, that I never thought would get sober, get sober. I thought I would've been going to my uncle Sonny's funeral, yet he got sober and was able to drive my mom to all of her chemo appointments. After my mom died I though my stepdad would drink himself to death, the last time I saw him before he went in the hospital his eyes were yellow.

    Both of them are doing well, AA has been a great help to them. I pray you husband continues to take it one day at a time.
  • herdizziness
    herdizziness Member Posts: 3,624 Member
    #35
    Kathleen808 said:

    Winter Marie
    Winter Marie,
    I am so glad you have more peace in your life. Sending great vibes your way. Praying your hubby takes sobriety one day at a time.

    Aloha,
    Kathleen

    Thank you
    He is on day 8 of no drinking. I'm still shocked at his walking though, I guess I thought if he stopped drinking he would be walking like a normal man again. The doc did say he didn't know if it "ataxia" would go away. I do so pray it does, this month my husband turns 58 and he shuffles like a 98 year old (my 90 year old mother bless her soul was walking faster then him before she passed away), I have to realize it will take time for him to get his muscles back, (they pretty much have almost completely wasted away), so I've got to remember patience. I'm thankful for his eight days so far, I'm thankful he gets to live a longer life because of his choice to stop drinking, I just have to remember patience, patience, patience. It took awhile for him to get in this position, I must realize it'll take a while to get out of it.
    Thank you all for your support for me and especially for your support for him.
    Much gratitude,
    Winter Marie
  • alexinlv
    alexinlv Member Posts: 194 Member
    #36
    Winter Marie,
    Praying for
    Winter Marie,
    Praying for you both, one day at a time! I have many alcoholics in my family and have seen some miraculous recoveries! I thing we never know what is going to be the thing that makes a person turn it around. xo Alex
  • tina dasilva
    tina dasilva Member Posts: 641
    #37
    sending
    sending all you need from here winter marie hugs Tina
  • janie1
    janie1 Member Posts: 753 Member
    #38
    tina dasilva said:

    sending
    sending all you need from here winter marie hugs Tina

    Thinking of you - a lot
    Winter Marie, i pray that all gets better and better each day. And, yes, patience will be needed. You are amazing in so many ways.

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