My, Oh My how life does change sometimes
Apparently the words "you will be dead in a few months to a year" seems to have penetrated my alcoholic husband's mind. This is Day FOUR of NO alcohol. I keep staring at him in wonder, he isn't walking around in wet pants from having peed them, no slobbering idiot across the table from me, no mumbling crazy stuff coming out of his mouth. WOW!! I'm not celebrating yet, everyday I'm waiting for this new leaf to turn back over and start again, but I remain cautiously hopeful that it is for real.
He has managed to do this with the help of 3 valium pills a day to prevent DT's and is doing it at home, on his own. I'm shocked, maybe still in shock.
Must of been those well wishes, good thoughts and prays sent his way.
Thank you my friends, keep those good thoughts and wishes still going.
In gratitude for your support,
Winter Marie
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Hi I am from the ovarian
Hi I am from the ovarian cancer board and I just read your profile and it seems you went thru a lot and are a real trooper. Good news about your husband. It sucks that something like loosing time makes people change, but at least it's for the good.0 -
Wonderful news!
Am so happy to hear this, Marie. I could tell from your description that your husband was a good man but probably overwhelmed by everything concerning your cancer. Will hope that this good news continues and the two of you can again enjoy the good marriage you had before all of this started.0 -
Hey Dizz.....Sundanceh said:"The Winds of Change"
I hope that this new trend continues...the journey of a 1000 miles begins with the 1st step.
-C
Simply amazing huh girlfriend???????? Hope it continues...sending good vibes every day!!! Take care.
Jennie0 -
how?
I don't know your story but I just wanted to say congratulations on getting him to see the light. I wish I could do the same thing for my elderly mother. So, did a doctor tell him that if he kept it up he would not live much longer? Maybe that is what she needs to hear too. I don't know whether it is even worth it to try to talk to her about this subject again, but I feel like I have to at least try.
-Susan0 -
Winter Marie, I just wanted
Winter Marie, I just wanted to say that I'm thinking about you and so glad that your hubby has finally decided to turn things around for himself. All my best, and hugs dear, Cynthia0 -
sorryLivinginNH said:Winter Marie, I just wanted
Winter Marie, I just wanted to say that I'm thinking about you and so glad that your hubby has finally decided to turn things around for himself. All my best, and hugs dear, Cynthia
Winter marie....I owe you a very deep apology....when you said your husband was an alcoholic i just didn't think deeply enough. I guess i thought....right....well whose hubby does not have 3 beers while watching the hockey game?
Winter Marie....your comment about wet pants just struck me......where have I been???
I am soo sorry.....wouldn't it be great if he can continue with sobriety
maggie0 -
Husbandmaglets said:sorry
Winter marie....I owe you a very deep apology....when you said your husband was an alcoholic i just didn't think deeply enough. I guess i thought....right....well whose hubby does not have 3 beers while watching the hockey game?
Winter Marie....your comment about wet pants just struck me......where have I been???
I am soo sorry.....wouldn't it be great if he can continue with sobriety
maggie
Good for him and good for you winter Marie. The blue book put out by aa tells stories of people who have been alcoholics and who have turned it around. It really resonates with people. I think u can even download it from the Internet. We will pray for u both.0 -
Ahh Magsmaglets said:sorry
Winter marie....I owe you a very deep apology....when you said your husband was an alcoholic i just didn't think deeply enough. I guess i thought....right....well whose hubby does not have 3 beers while watching the hockey game?
Winter Marie....your comment about wet pants just struck me......where have I been???
I am soo sorry.....wouldn't it be great if he can continue with sobriety
maggie
It's alright, he was drinking a liter plus of vodka a day, he had lost control of his body, and I feared his mind as well.
But so far so good!!
Winter Marie0 -
Susanshmurciakova said:how?
I don't know your story but I just wanted to say congratulations on getting him to see the light. I wish I could do the same thing for my elderly mother. So, did a doctor tell him that if he kept it up he would not live much longer? Maybe that is what she needs to hear too. I don't know whether it is even worth it to try to talk to her about this subject again, but I feel like I have to at least try.
-Susan
I can say I understand, the first visit the doctor just told him he was killing himself. We went back for the blood test results and everything wrong was due to alcohol, his liver, his enlarged red blood cells etc., things I had already been telling my husband, his wasting away from his muscles being ate up by his body. Nothing I said did anything.
The doctor again repeated to him, how he was going to die, if he kept drinking, I pressed the doctor to tell him how long (those that know and have seen my husband has been figuring a couple of months at best), the doctor said he didn't like to predict these things, I looked at the doctor and I said, "He needs to hear how long, because I believe he is thinking a few years, you need to let him know." The doctor then looked at him and said, "I believe you have a few months to a year at most if you keep drinking." That is what it took to apparently make an impression. He came home that night and got drunk as usual, then the next day, no more. I'm still in disbelief but happy.
I had bought brand new sheets but refused to put them on the bed because he was peeing the bed. Hopefully, I'll give him a few weeks and if he's still stopped, I'm so looking forward to a new bed, he wanted to buy one before and I wouldn't let him, I didn't want him peeing in it. Try the doctor route, it's the only thing that made a difference, I think he realized he was staring death in the face and decided he didn't want that anymore.
My heart goes out to you.
Winter Marie0 -
Lisabuckeye2 said:That is good news. We will
That is good news. We will keep sending those positive thoughts your way. Lisa
Thank you, appreciate them, I asked how he was doing this evening, and he said, you know I want a drink, I keep thinking about it. I asked what he planned to do about it. He said nothing, just taking it one step at a time.
So I'm thinking he needs those positive thoughts to keep coming his way.
Thank you,
Winter Marie0 -
Wolfenwolfen said:Winter
This is great news and I'll keep sending out positive vibes for both of you. Just keep encouraging words & actions handy and he will get through this. He'll be able to look in the mirror and see this new person also and be proud of himself.
Luv,
Wolfen
Thank you for your words, ALL of them and for your vibes. You mean a lot to me. He needs every good vibe he can get, I'm very proud of him for trying so hard.
Hugs,
Winter Marie0
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