This Might Sound Strange, But, Has Anything Good Come Out Of Your Having Breast Cancer? Maybe Just

susie09
susie09 Member Posts: 2,930
edited July 2011 in Breast Cancer #1
I know having bc and going thru all of the treatments is horrible. But, I always believe that out of anything bad, something good must come. It could be something like you found strength you never had, or, you realized how much your husband or someone really loved you, or, you learned how each day is to be treasured.

So, is there anything, even one thing, good that has come out of having bc?


♠♣ Love, Susie ♠♣
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  • marydenzilcookie
    marydenzilcookie Member Posts: 2
    #2
    after surviving breast cancer.
    Having survived breast cancer has made my husband and I much stronger and have appreciated every day we have together.
  • missrenee
    missrenee Member Posts: 2,136 Member
    #3
    marydenzilcookie said:

    after surviving breast cancer.
    Having survived breast cancer has made my husband and I much stronger and have appreciated every day we have together.

    I've learned so much
    Good things have come from this nasty beast--I call them blessings:

    Helping others makes me fret less about myself
    I appreciate my family and friends so much more
    The good things in life seem sweeter, the bad things--not such a big deal
    I am so much braver and courageous than I ever gave myself credit for

    Hugs, Renee
  • LoveBabyJesus
    LoveBabyJesus Member Posts: 1,679 Member
    #4
    Forgiveness can lead to a better life...
    Hi Susie - I learned many things with this experience. My list below.

    1. We spend too much time stressing and worrying about things that aren't really so bad.
    2. Life is beautiful, yet so gentle. It can end any day. So enjoy while you still can.
    3. Forgiving can lead to a better life. When you forgive, you allow yourself to be free.
    4. There are actually good people out there!
    5. Help others who may need you. The world is full of people in need.

    Faith is stronger than any drug.

    Hope you are doing very well.

    @>~~~
  • sea60
    sea60 Member Posts: 2,613
    #5
    Susie
    I have to totally agree with the author and cancer survivor David Servan-Schreiber, when he quotes:

    "Life suddenly takes on an intensity, resonance, and savor we may never have known before."

    And it truly does. We now know and keenly are aware of the value of time and we want to make a consciencious effort to live it well.

    Love your thread Sister.

    Hugs to you,

    Sylvia
  • cinnamonsmile
    cinnamonsmile Member Posts: 1,187 Member
    #6
    I have had so many other
    I have had so many other really crappy things happen in life that bc was just another crappy thing. I have to say the best part is that I no longer have to wear a bra.
  • Ticky
    Ticky Member Posts: 117
    #7
    cinnamonsmile said:

    I have had so many other
    I have had so many other really crappy things happen in life that bc was just another crappy thing. I have to say the best part is that I no longer have to wear a bra.

    Lessons from breast cancer
    Brest cancer taught me to give back. I am now doing volunteer work which I would never have thought to do before BC.

    Ticky
  • sweetvickid
    sweetvickid Member Posts: 459 Member
    #8
    Nope
    Nothing good came put of it.
  • carkris
    carkris Member Posts: 4,553 Member
    #9
    sweetvickid said:

    Nope
    Nothing good came put of it.

    all of the above. do i wish
    all of the above. do i wish it had never happened? yes. did it make me a better person? no. I was pretty good to begin with. But I have learned some powerful lessons, and felt much unconditional love. I am so grateful for this.
  • mamolady
    mamolady Member Posts: 796 Member
    #10
    The Good
    I have a grand daughter with autism that lives with us. I have been able to be home with her while going through treatment. That may not sound like a positive but it has been good for both of us. I am more patient not having to work. Being able to slow down has helped her to function better. The best part of my day is reading her her bed time story.

    Cindy
  • ms.sunshine
    ms.sunshine Member Posts: 707 Member
    #11
    mamolady said:

    The Good
    I have a grand daughter with autism that lives with us. I have been able to be home with her while going through treatment. That may not sound like a positive but it has been good for both of us. I am more patient not having to work. Being able to slow down has helped her to function better. The best part of my day is reading her her bed time story.

    Cindy

    No, Nada, Nil
    I was a better person before bc. Life sure was better.
  • Double Whammy
    Double Whammy Member Posts: 2,832 Member
    #12
    ms.sunshine said:

    No, Nada, Nil
    I was a better person before bc. Life sure was better.

    Positive new opportunities
    I'm not grateful for having had 2 primary cancers this last year, but it did introduce me to some wonderful and interesting new friends and a world of fulfilling activities and opportunities I didn't know existed. I volunteered in some community settings B4 bc, but it was very unrewarding (to me). I also belong to a number of organizations based on my interests, but even those don't provide the personal fullfillment I've gained from what I'm now doing.

    Like Ticky, after my treatments ended, I signed up to be a volunteer at the cancer center where I received my care. The initial inquiry placed me in the training program for peer navigators for newly diagnosed cancer patients. Didn't even know it existed. I haven't been assigned my first patient yet, but the meetings, training, and educational events tell me when I do I'll be doing something worthwhile. For now just being a part of the program is very personally rewarding. I could go on and on about the ancillary good things that have happened as a consequence of this activity.

    And this doesn't even hold a candle to the cyber relationships and support I've developed on this and the uterine cancer boards.

    I could have volunteered at the cancer center in some capacity even if I had not had cancer, but I probably wouldn't have, and I doubt it would have had the profound effect on me that this work is having. As having had cancer is the criteria for this, I guess I could say that something good has come out of this for me.

    Suzanne
  • jo jo
    jo jo Member Posts: 1,175 Member
    #13
    This beast has opened my
    This beast has opened my eyes to alot and alot of good has come out of it for me. I have learned who are my friends and who isnt, i realized how much my family means to me, ive learned not to sweat the small stuff and dont take life for granted...get out and live and have fun with your life....and a bunch of other stuff like that but on the flip side of the same coin....I GOT A NEW BOOB JOB out of it...lol!
  • camul
    camul Member Posts: 2,537
    #14
    So much good...
    Starting with beautiful family and friends, and friends who are more like family! The ability to ask for help when needed, and a new appreciation for all the beauty around me.
  • maddie711
    maddie711 Member Posts: 5
    #15
    I am breast cancer survivor
    I am breast cancer survivor almost 5 years. What I learned is that we may think we are in control of our lives but we are not. God is and he never leaves us nor abandons us. When we surrender to him, even in the cross of having breast cancer, is when we can have joy rather than fear.
    At the beginning when I was first diagnosed, a friend sent me an e-mail about being on a bicycle built for two with God. Everytime I went to get tests run, I would look out the car window imagining a bicycle built for two with God on the front seat and me on the back seat.
    When I went to the doctor, I would imagine God on that bicycle built for two outside the window of the doctor's office waiting for me to get the tests results back. This image would make me smile and comforted me. Try it. It works!
  • maddie711
    maddie711 Member Posts: 5
    #16
    I am breast cancer survivor
    I am breast cancer survivor almost 5 years. What I learned is that we may think we are in control of our lives but we are not. God is and he never leaves us nor abandons us. When we surrender to him, even in the cross of having breast cancer, is when we can have joy rather than fear.
    At the beginning when I was first diagnosed, a friend sent me an e-mail about being on a bicycle built for two with God. Everytime I went to get tests run, I would look out the car window imagining a bicycle built for two with God on the front seat and me on the back seat.
    When I went to the doctor, I would imagine God on that bicycle built for two outside the window of the doctor's office waiting for me to get the tests results back. This image would make me smile and comforted me. Try it. It works!
  • maddie711
    maddie711 Member Posts: 5
    #17
    I am breast cancer survivor
    I am breast cancer survivor almost 5 years. What I learned is that we may think we are in control of our lives but we are not. God is and he never leaves us nor abandons us. When we surrender to him, even in the cross of having breast cancer, is when we can have joy rather than fear.
    At the beginning when I was first diagnosed, a friend sent me an e-mail about being on a bicycle built for two with God. Everytime I went to get tests run, I would look out the car window imagining a bicycle built for two with God on the front seat and me on the back seat.
    When I went to the doctor, I would imagine God on that bicycle built for two outside the window of the doctor's office waiting for me to get the tests results back. This image would make me smile and comforted me. Try it. It works!
  • maddie711
    maddie711 Member Posts: 5
    #18
    I am breast cancer survivor
    I am breast cancer survivor almost 5 years. What I learned is that we may think we are in control of our lives but we are not. God is and he never leaves us nor abandons us. When we surrender to him, even in the cross of having breast cancer, is when we can have joy rather than fear.
    At the beginning when I was first diagnosed, a friend sent me an e-mail about being on a bicycle built for two with God. Everytime I went to get tests run, I would look out the car window imagining a bicycle built for two with God on the front seat and me on the back seat.
    When I went to the doctor, I would imagine God on that bicycle built for two outside the window of the doctor's office waiting for me to get the tests results back. This image would make me smile and comforted me. Try it. It works!
  • maddie711
    maddie711 Member Posts: 5
    #19
    I am breast cancer survivor
    I am breast cancer survivor almost 5 years. What I learned is that we may think we are in control of our lives but we are not. God is and he never leaves us nor abandons us. When we surrender to him, even in the cross of having breast cancer, is when we can have joy rather than fear.
    At the beginning when I was first diagnosed, a friend sent me an e-mail about being on a bicycle built for two with God. Everytime I went to get tests run, I would look out the car window imagining a bicycle built for two with God on the front seat and me on the back seat.
    When I went to the doctor, I would imagine God on that bicycle built for two outside the window of the doctor's office waiting for me to get the tests results back. This image would make me smile and comforted me. Try it. It works!
  • poplolly
    poplolly Member Posts: 346
    #20
    Susie
    Sorry, but nothing
    Susie

    Sorry, but nothing good has come from this for me.
  • sbmly53
    sbmly53 Member Posts: 1,522
    #21
    My puppy, Honey!
    I got her in the middle of rads - she was the only thing that got me off the couch. She is the sweetest little thing on 4 paws I ever met.

    And - oh, my goodness! - all of you! After that, nothing.

    Sue

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