Diagnosed Today.....

nikrap
nikrap Member Posts: 9
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Hi, My name is Carolyn and I was just diagnosed with well differentiated invasive ductal breast cancer today. I am still reeling from the death of my mother 3 weeks ago, and today I got the positive test results that we all dread. The hardest part of today was telling my 2 sons, 18 and 20, which broke my heart. Of course I will be going for further tests to assist with determining treatment options.

I thought I would reach out to you ladies and introduce myself and say I AM SO SCARED!
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  • Alexis F
    Alexis F Member Posts: 3,598
    Hi
    Hi Carolyn and welcome! I am so sorry for the loss of your Mother and for the diagnosis of bc. I know it is hard and we all are scared, but, we have to stay strong and positive in order to fight this horrible beast that has invaded our bodies. Your oncologist will go over your treatment plan with you and give you your choices according to what they have found. And, the final treatment plan comes after surgery, with your pathology report. Please come often and ask whatever you want. We are all here to help you!

    Lex♥
  • MargueriteW
    MargueriteW Member Posts: 2
    Alexis F said:

    Hi
    Hi Carolyn and welcome! I am so sorry for the loss of your Mother and for the diagnosis of bc. I know it is hard and we all are scared, but, we have to stay strong and positive in order to fight this horrible beast that has invaded our bodies. Your oncologist will go over your treatment plan with you and give you your choices according to what they have found. And, the final treatment plan comes after surgery, with your pathology report. Please come often and ask whatever you want. We are all here to help you!

    Lex♥

    New
    I see the surgeon on Wednesday to determine when surgery will occur. The second opinion clinic and I have agreed on the lumpectomy. The surgeon presented mastetomy(misspelled) and Lumpectomy choices, but since the % for recurrence were so close it seemed insignificant.

    I do like the website connection. I have lots of up times, few down ones when I am alone mainly. Just glad to write this. I will start journaling tomorrow. Sorry for the rambling, but just needed to talk.

    Oh, I have been reading a lot on nutrition, since I am overweight so I am changing that immediately regardless.
  • New Flower
    New Flower Member Posts: 4,294
    Diagnosed today
    Carolyn,
    Welcome to the network. We understand it is a very tough! Please, Do be scared, cancer should be scared of your determination to win.
    I was diagnosed about 12 months ago. I have had a Stage 3 and underwent surgery, Chemo, and Radiation.
    New Flower
  • VickiSam
    VickiSam Member Posts: 9,079 Member
    Carolyn you are in good company here
    I too am recently breast cancer victim. I sought the opinion (2nd) of a breast cancer specialist. My general surgeon was preparing me for a mac'tmy // shall I say - slice and dice, then push me out .. Chemo for 1 year .. nothing more was explained to me and my husband. I did ask (why???? i don't know) for a copy of my biospy reports.

    My appointment to get all new path reports, along w/mri is scheduled for Tuesday, August 25th at 2:30 p.m.

    I was in a fog/blurred for several days, however, I found our website .. This website has provided me with friendship, love and support. Did I mention the research and data. My cup is overflowing.

    We sat down and spoke to our children. I told them that breast cancer was not a death sentence,but to be prepared as our world would be upside down due surgeries, testing and chemo. The first few days my kids looked at me funny, scared of the unknown. Now things are back to normal .. the yelling, fighting and screaming fills our home.

    I am truly sorry that you lost your mom only 3 weeks ago. We need our mom's during these trying times. Please know .. that we are here for your 24/7. No questions asked - just love and support.

    Read, research and ask questions ..

    Hugs,

    Vicki Sam
  • tasha_111
    tasha_111 Member Posts: 2,072
    Hi Carolyn
    Welcome. Sorry you are having to cope with all this horrible stuff at such a horrible time for you. We are here...

    Hugs Jxxxxxxxxxx
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    Sending big hugs!
    Sorry you had to find us, but glad you did!!!

    I am sending hugs for you at such a terrible time. We are here for you...many of us (me especially) are old enough to help mother you...battling cancer is so much better with friends!

    Try living each day. Don't think about anything but this day. Also, take GOOD care of yourself...treat your body like a faithful, warm friend that is battling this thing WITH you.

    I am over 3 years post-treatment for stage II breast cancer, and 4 years for stage III rectal cancer. There IS a life after this is what I am trying to say.

    Hugs, Kathi
  • Reikigemgirl
    Reikigemgirl Member Posts: 278
    Hi
    So sorry to hear about the passing of your mother and then to get this diagnosis so soon afterwards. We are all here to listen and help you through this trying time. Posting on this board always makes me feel so much better for the people here are wonderful. Welcome.

    Love and Light,
    Vicki
  • chickad52
    chickad52 Member Posts: 497
    CAROLYN
    Just wanted to say Welcome to a wonderful support group. I'm sorry for all your going through at this time. Please write often and keep in touch with any questions we can help you with! Hugs, Diane
  • m_azingrace
    m_azingrace Member Posts: 399
    chickad52 said:

    CAROLYN
    Just wanted to say Welcome to a wonderful support group. I'm sorry for all your going through at this time. Please write often and keep in touch with any questions we can help you with! Hugs, Diane

    Carolyn, I'm so sorry for
    Carolyn, I'm so sorry for the loss of your mother, and then so quickly to be diagnosed with BC. At this website you will meet women with varying diagnosis, in varying stages and types of treatment, from all walks of life, all held together with this one common bond. We all have, or have had, breast cancer. Here we find the hope, encouragement, support and information we need to continue from the diagnosis through treatment, to a return to our "normal" lives.

    Don't hesitate to come here often, to post your questions and get support, and keep us informed of your progress, and share your joys as well. God Bless. Gracie
  • MyTurnNow
    MyTurnNow Member Posts: 2,686 Member
    Welcome, Carolyn
    Welcome to a wonderful group of caring and very informative individuals. I, too, am a recent newbie to this group. I can tall you from experience that they have been very helpful and supportive. Any question you can think of is okay to ask. Nothing is too trivial. I'm so sorry for the recent loss of your mother. My mother passed away a few years ago and I do still wish she were here every day. I don't know if you have siblings but my sister has stepped up and has been very helpful to me as I go through my journey with this beast. We're here for you and will help in anyway we can. Good luck!!
  • nikrap
    nikrap Member Posts: 9
    Ladies,
    I thank you from the

    Ladies,

    I thank you from the bottom of my heart for the warm welcome. I know that I will kick this thing. Not surviving this ever crossed my radar, honestly. I just hate that, as someone in this post phrased it, that I will be turning my families life upside down for a while.

    You know how sometimes we wonder why some things happen? About 15 years ago I was faced with life threatening allergies. I found a doctor that was willing to work with me, and we were able to correct the entire situation with diet. During that process I learned how to eat extremely healthy.Well as time passed, I got lazy and got away from my healthy diet.

    The blessing here is that as soon as the surgeon said she would have been surprised if this came back negative, I was able to swiftly change my diet back to being 100% healthy. I have cut out meat, eat plenty of fish, veggies and whole grains. My goal is to make my body and immune system as strong as possible. I am making this awful tasting juice that does wonders for your immune system. I warn you, this one is not for the weak at heart!

    1/2 head cabbage
    2 beets
    1 turnip
    2 stalks celery
    3 carrots
    1/2 clove garlic
    1/4 onion
    1/4 bunch of parsley

    Put it all through the juicer and enjoy! (well as much as you can anyway)
  • dmc_emmy
    dmc_emmy Member Posts: 549

    New
    I see the surgeon on Wednesday to determine when surgery will occur. The second opinion clinic and I have agreed on the lumpectomy. The surgeon presented mastetomy(misspelled) and Lumpectomy choices, but since the % for recurrence were so close it seemed insignificant.

    I do like the website connection. I have lots of up times, few down ones when I am alone mainly. Just glad to write this. I will start journaling tomorrow. Sorry for the rambling, but just needed to talk.

    Oh, I have been reading a lot on nutrition, since I am overweight so I am changing that immediately regardless.

    Good morning and a warm welcome...
    Marguerite and Carolyn,

    This is definitely one website that one would wish to avoid unless, of course, you have been dx with bc. Everyone who has logged on here has found comfort and support from others who have, or are currently, going through what you are now. It will be, no doubt, the greatest challenge you will have in your lifetime, but you will also be amazed by the hope of the many survivors that will be with you every step of the way so you will not have to face it alone.

    I am a 3-year survivor who came to this site for the first time in May of this year and I have not regretted one moment that I have spent on this board.

    Talk, cry, share, and, surprising as it may sound, even laugh with us. Someone is online around-the-clock, either because of time differences or because they have been stricken with insomnia (again).

    Welcome to the board with the fastest bonding friends you will ever make.
    dmc
  • Cat64
    Cat64 Member Posts: 1,192
    nikrap said:

    Ladies,
    I thank you from the

    Ladies,

    I thank you from the bottom of my heart for the warm welcome. I know that I will kick this thing. Not surviving this ever crossed my radar, honestly. I just hate that, as someone in this post phrased it, that I will be turning my families life upside down for a while.

    You know how sometimes we wonder why some things happen? About 15 years ago I was faced with life threatening allergies. I found a doctor that was willing to work with me, and we were able to correct the entire situation with diet. During that process I learned how to eat extremely healthy.Well as time passed, I got lazy and got away from my healthy diet.

    The blessing here is that as soon as the surgeon said she would have been surprised if this came back negative, I was able to swiftly change my diet back to being 100% healthy. I have cut out meat, eat plenty of fish, veggies and whole grains. My goal is to make my body and immune system as strong as possible. I am making this awful tasting juice that does wonders for your immune system. I warn you, this one is not for the weak at heart!

    1/2 head cabbage
    2 beets
    1 turnip
    2 stalks celery
    3 carrots
    1/2 clove garlic
    1/4 onion
    1/4 bunch of parsley

    Put it all through the juicer and enjoy! (well as much as you can anyway)

    New2
    Welcome! So sorry to hear about your mother! Then the double whamie of your news of BC.
    I too am new here, diagnosed 8/11 w/IDC. I meet with the surgeon today to discuss treatment options. Yes, also scared to death. When I first got the news, I was on a roller coaster of emotions, started typing and was lead here. As others have said, you have come to the right place! You can find alot of info & support here. You are NOT ALONE in this fight! Sometimes just reading others stories can be helpful and informative.
    Not too sure about that juice! (YUK) Sounds very healthy though.
    Keep us posted on how you're doing!
    Prayers & Hugz
    Cat
  • mimivac
    mimivac Member Posts: 2,143
    Welcome, Carolyn
    I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this on top of the grief you must be feeling for your mother. Telling your sons must have been very difficult as well. I know it may not feel like it, but there is some good news in your diagnosis. Well differentiated means that the cancer cells look and behave like normal cells. This indicates a less aggressive cancer, which is always good. My cells were poorly differentiated and classified as grade 3 (different from stages), and my prognosis is still good. There are many aspects to cancer and, unfortunately, you will be on a crash course in the months to come. But you are starting off with -- relatively -- good news. Come here for questions, support, and whatever else you need.

    Mimi
  • EveningStar2
    EveningStar2 Member Posts: 491 Member
    Welcome
    to the club that no one wants to join. I was diagnosised with DCIS in January 2009, had a lumpectomy and radiation and am 4 months post treatment. You are now on a roller coaster and it is a wild ride but we are here to hold your hand, listen to you--whatever you wish to say--and try to help and encourage you. You will get through this.

    Maureen
  • car57
    car57 Member Posts: 5
    So Sorry
    So sorry to hear of the death of your Mom. My Mom died in June of '03 (brain tumor) and I was diagnosed in Oct of '03 with stage llB BC (on my birthday no less). I am a 6 year BC survivor. I went through 6 chemo treatments and 34 radiation treatments. I had a complete mastectomy and no re-construct (my choice). Haven't looked back. The first week after diagnosis is the hardest. So many emotions and decisions. My greatest strength was in my faith. I realized that God knew long before this happened to me and He knew how it would turn out. I had to put my trust in Him and rely on His guidance for every decision. When I put my trust in Him everything just fell into place. Every surgery, every treatment, went so smooth. I was never nauseaous, I went back to work 4 weeks after my surgery, I was back to work on Fri. after each chemo treatment, I drove myself to all radiation treatments, and helped to take care of my 89 year old Dad. Was it easy? No, NO, NO!!!! I got tired, I had insomnia, I didn't want to eat, when I could sleep it would be for hours on end (on weekends). So take each minute, hour and day one at a time. Make decisions based on what is good for YOU! And never look back.
    "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" Phillipians 4:13 Prayers Car57
  • jnl
    jnl Member Posts: 3,869 Member

    Welcome
    to the club that no one wants to join. I was diagnosised with DCIS in January 2009, had a lumpectomy and radiation and am 4 months post treatment. You are now on a roller coaster and it is a wild ride but we are here to hold your hand, listen to you--whatever you wish to say--and try to help and encourage you. You will get through this.

    Maureen

    Welcome Carolyn. I am sorry
    Welcome Carolyn. I am sorry that you found us because you have bc. But, we are all bc survivors and will help each other get thru our treatments together.

    Hugs, Leeza
  • lynn1950
    lynn1950 Member Posts: 2,570
    Of course you are scared
    Breast cancer is a monster. But with help, it can be beheaded! We will fight alongside you. Lynn
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
    lynn1950 said:

    Of course you are scared
    Breast cancer is a monster. But with help, it can be beheaded! We will fight alongside you. Lynn

    M & C,
    Sorry that you have

    M & C,
    Sorry that you have to be here but this is the best place to be for what lies ahead. This is an incredible group that will be with you each step of the way with love, guidance, sympathy, honesty and care. Welcome to the group no one ever wants to join.
    Stef
  • Akiss4me
    Akiss4me Member Posts: 2,188
    dmc_emmy said:

    Good morning and a warm welcome...
    Marguerite and Carolyn,

    This is definitely one website that one would wish to avoid unless, of course, you have been dx with bc. Everyone who has logged on here has found comfort and support from others who have, or are currently, going through what you are now. It will be, no doubt, the greatest challenge you will have in your lifetime, but you will also be amazed by the hope of the many survivors that will be with you every step of the way so you will not have to face it alone.

    I am a 3-year survivor who came to this site for the first time in May of this year and I have not regretted one moment that I have spent on this board.

    Talk, cry, share, and, surprising as it may sound, even laugh with us. Someone is online around-the-clock, either because of time differences or because they have been stricken with insomnia (again).

    Welcome to the board with the fastest bonding friends you will ever make.
    dmc

    Marguerite & Carolyn.....
    .....Welcome! I just want to add that you both are in good hands here! We are better than Allstate!!! (Teehee) Pammy