Request for a VIRTUAL INTERVENTION with my wife Moopy

Aortus
Aortus Member Posts: 967
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
Hello, ladies! I have kept this shameful secret for weeks, trying to do what I personally could to help my beloved Moopster address a certain troubling situation. But now I must appeal to everyone here to help their fellow Sister In Pink.

Moopy needs to buy herself new shoes. The shoes she has been wearing practically every day are hurting her toes, and sometimes make her back sore. Pretty soon, she will resume accompanying the pups and me on our walks. She knows this, but so far all she has done is make a few short visits to local shoe stores. Where, predictably, she doesn't find anything perfect and walks out.

Please help Moopy, ladies. And if I have ever said anything helpful or supportive or amusing on this board, please help me. I know Moopy has had a rough run with the chemo, but she really, really, really needs to buy herself new shoes. I've run out of strategies and I'm at my wits' end. I'll buy her the damned furniture already, but first she needs new shoes.

Please help Moopy. Please help me. I beg you.

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  • rjjj
    rjjj Member Posts: 1,822 Member
    New shoes for Moopy!
    Ok Joe I am on your side with this one! Moopy go get some new shoes!!! I am glad our plea for furture (plural) worked teehee. I mostly live in crocks. They are so comfy to work in and when i garden, i can just hose them off..very practical..but I do have a pair of nikes to roam around in the hills with Tootsie. and of course sandals, flip flops, boots, dress slip ons, moccasins, slippers, casual tennies..hey the list goes on and on and on but i am always ready for new shoes!! go get yours at a store near you!!
    lotsa love and happy shopping!!
    Jackie
  • Marcia527
    Marcia527 Member Posts: 2,729
    Try it, you'll like it
    You should know by now we don't need to be begged to say what we think. :)

    I got a pair of Easy Spirit shoes two or three years ago and love them. I had to have something that didn't tie. The pair I got is no longer on their site but the Astra is close. Here is the site- http://www.easyspirit.com/ They actually have a lot on sale now. I like trying on my shoes first and bought mine at JCPenney's. I need shoes with lots of support.
  • fauxma
    fauxma Member Posts: 3,577 Member
    Marcia527 said:

    Try it, you'll like it
    You should know by now we don't need to be begged to say what we think. :)

    I got a pair of Easy Spirit shoes two or three years ago and love them. I had to have something that didn't tie. The pair I got is no longer on their site but the Astra is close. Here is the site- http://www.easyspirit.com/ They actually have a lot on sale now. I like trying on my shoes first and bought mine at JCPenney's. I need shoes with lots of support.

    NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW
    NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES. This is subliminal messaging. NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES. Tell me if it works.
    Seriously Moopy, what girl doesn't want new shoes. And if yours are hurting, it is long past time. Get shoes, several pairs. Go for it!!
    Stef
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    Not to scare you, but....
    Because chemo causes neuropathy, especially in the feet/toes, it is ESSENTIAL, my dear, to have COMFORTABLE footwear that does not bind!!!!
    Ask the gals who have permanent neuropathy (no feeling at all, or just tingles in their feet)...

    Hugs, Kathi
  • Moopy23
    Moopy23 Member Posts: 1,751 Member
    fauxma said:

    NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW
    NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES. This is subliminal messaging. NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES. Tell me if it works.
    Seriously Moopy, what girl doesn't want new shoes. And if yours are hurting, it is long past time. Get shoes, several pairs. Go for it!!
    Stef

    OK
    Thank you, my dear friends, I will get new shoes. Just tiring to try them on. Whereas, with furniture, all I have to do is sit! Wouldn't it be nice to have a personal shopper?

    Thanks, Marcia, for the Easy Spirit recommendation and info. JCP, here I come.

    Stef, your post reminds me of the **** and Jane post you wrote a while back. I learned to read with **** and Jane! I thought your post was fun, as they often are.

    Love you all,
    Moopy
  • Moopy23
    Moopy23 Member Posts: 1,751 Member
    KathiM said:

    Not to scare you, but....
    Because chemo causes neuropathy, especially in the feet/toes, it is ESSENTIAL, my dear, to have COMFORTABLE footwear that does not bind!!!!
    Ask the gals who have permanent neuropathy (no feeling at all, or just tingles in their feet)...

    Hugs, Kathi

    Neuropathy
    Kathi, thank you for your post. I actually have had some neuropathy in my legs/feet. Did not think about shoes. I guess it is definitely worth using what energy I have today to get some shoes.

    By the way, it is so nice to see you and Hans. You have been through so much, separately and together. It is good to see you smiling and happy and healthy.
  • tgf
    tgf Member Posts: 950 Member
    fauxma said:

    NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW
    NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES. This is subliminal messaging. NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES, NEW SHOES. Tell me if it works.
    Seriously Moopy, what girl doesn't want new shoes. And if yours are hurting, it is long past time. Get shoes, several pairs. Go for it!!
    Stef

    SHOES !!!!
    Moopy ... repeat after me ... I WILL get new shoes, I WILL get new shoes, I WILL get new shoes!

    If your feet and your little toes are hurting ... and your shoes are falling apart ... GET NEW SHOES !! If your feet/toes hurt your entire body hurts. Treat yourself.

    While it is summer (sort of) and you can go barefoot a lot ... cooler/wetter weather will be in the forcast and you need SHOES!

    Like Jackie ... I live in Crocs ... but I'm sure you can find something you will like and that will feel comfy on your feet. So ... go shopping!

    Now ... for the real PUSH in the shoe saga ...Moopy ... you already know how lucky you are to have Joe ... and you know how wonderful he's been through all of this with you ... and he would do anything in the world for you ... right? So ...now it's time for you to do something for HIM. GO GET SOME NEW SHOES! It will make him very happy.

    hugs.
    teena

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  • CR1954
    CR1954 Member Posts: 1,390 Member
    Ok, Moopy........
    I must say that nobody ever had to "encourage" me to go shopping! But girl, you have got to have comfortable shoes to wear!
    Now, I know that shopping of any kind can be exhausting, even when feeling well. But this is not a frivolity. This is a necessity.
    And if you are not feeling well, don't be shy about sitting your keester down in a wheelchair as you hit the mall and ask hubby to chauffeur you right into the shoe store.

    We all love you and want you to take care of yourself. So put your best foot forward! And get some shoes!

    hugs for you,
    CR
  • RE
    RE Member Posts: 4,591 Member
    shoes wonderful shoes
    Moopy, hurry and get those shoes. I concur I had problems with my feet during and after chemo, ended up with planters flacitis which is rather painful. Take your time shopping for them and enjoy it, perhaps you two could shop for shoes, take a break for lunch then shop for shoes again. Take care Moopy!

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    RE
  • Moopy23
    Moopy23 Member Posts: 1,751 Member
    tgf said:

    SHOES !!!!
    Moopy ... repeat after me ... I WILL get new shoes, I WILL get new shoes, I WILL get new shoes!

    If your feet and your little toes are hurting ... and your shoes are falling apart ... GET NEW SHOES !! If your feet/toes hurt your entire body hurts. Treat yourself.

    While it is summer (sort of) and you can go barefoot a lot ... cooler/wetter weather will be in the forcast and you need SHOES!

    Like Jackie ... I live in Crocs ... but I'm sure you can find something you will like and that will feel comfy on your feet. So ... go shopping!

    Now ... for the real PUSH in the shoe saga ...Moopy ... you already know how lucky you are to have Joe ... and you know how wonderful he's been through all of this with you ... and he would do anything in the world for you ... right? So ...now it's time for you to do something for HIM. GO GET SOME NEW SHOES! It will make him very happy.

    hugs.
    teena

    Photobucket

    Ah, you're playing hardball, Teena! I guess that spouse of mine does deserve not to fret. See, guilt works!

    I really, really like the sneaker couple, by the way. How can I resist?
  • jojo elizapest
    jojo elizapest Member Posts: 122
    I would like to echo the
    I would like to echo the encouragement to buy shoes..but also understand how tired making that kind of decision can be...but wanted to address another aspect of this thread....

    Joe...You are truly an awesome partner...and certainly no heel. How brave of you to expose such an extreme and disturbing dynamic going on in your household. I know of some soleful support groups for women and husbands of those women who have more shoes than they know what to do with...I have to believe that somewhere there are women who need encouragement to buy shoes...you may need to go beyond the US borders...

    Good luck to you both during this difficult time...
  • Moopy23
    Moopy23 Member Posts: 1,751 Member
    RE said:

    shoes wonderful shoes
    Moopy, hurry and get those shoes. I concur I had problems with my feet during and after chemo, ended up with planters flacitis which is rather painful. Take your time shopping for them and enjoy it, perhaps you two could shop for shoes, take a break for lunch then shop for shoes again. Take care Moopy!

    image

    RE

    Those are good ideas; we can take breaks, and the mall does have chairs. Joe had plantar fascitis, and I saw how painful it is. I hope that your feet are fine now, Re.

    Thank you both, and for your hugs, too. (Purple is my favorite color, by the way.)
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    Moopy23 said:

    Neuropathy
    Kathi, thank you for your post. I actually have had some neuropathy in my legs/feet. Did not think about shoes. I guess it is definitely worth using what energy I have today to get some shoes.

    By the way, it is so nice to see you and Hans. You have been through so much, separately and together. It is good to see you smiling and happy and healthy.

    Thank you, sweet soul!
    This pic was actually between my 2 cancers...I was in a fashion show with my treatment center..my hair was without grey...(I'LL never tell how...lol!). We used to get "Now, does your daughter (me) want to do this, too?" Lucky for Hans, after my hair came back, grey and dark brown, I decided not to color it....ROFL!!!

    BUT, the smiles now are the same as the smiles in this pic!

    Hugs, Kathi
  • mmontero38
    mmontero38 Member Posts: 1,510
    Moopy go get those new shoes
    Moopy go get those new shoes already. Too bad you don't live near me I would definitely accompany you since I'm a shoeholic. Love those shoes!!! Do something nice for your feetsies they will definitely appreciate it. LOL. Have fun shopping and squeeze in some lunch or maybe a light dinner. Hugs, Lili
  • Mikes Sunshine
    Mikes Sunshine Member Posts: 129

    Moopy go get those new shoes
    Moopy go get those new shoes already. Too bad you don't live near me I would definitely accompany you since I'm a shoeholic. Love those shoes!!! Do something nice for your feetsies they will definitely appreciate it. LOL. Have fun shopping and squeeze in some lunch or maybe a light dinner. Hugs, Lili

    Shoes, shoes, shoes
    Hi Moopy,
    I agree with Joe,go out and buy yourself some new shoes. I know how hard it can be to find just the right kind. I have very wide feet, I live in New Balance sneakers. Mine even have a little pink ribbon on the tongue. I bought them long before I was diagnosed kind of wierd huh. You can even buy them online if you choose. New Balance and Easy Spirit are the only brand I can slip right into and wear without weeks of trying to break them in. Good Luck.
    Love, Nancy
  • Christmas Girl
    Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
    Moopy - RETAIL THERAPY must commence!
    Starting with new shoes!

    As other posters here have already stated, during and after chemo - and to this day - I cannot cheap out on shoes. Comfort and support are essential! And cheap shoes simply do not provide either feature. Thank goodness nowadays really good supportive shoes can be cute & fashionable, too.

    I also totally understand the exhaustion aspect of shopping for shoes, specifically. A couple of tops & a hoodie - simple! You know your size, pick a style & color off the rack, pay - outta there! Easy! Joe, you gotta help her. Moopy - you must get to a real shoe store/shoe department where there's STAFF to assist you. Don't go to the "self serve" places - too tiring right now. Pick a WHOLE BUNCH of styles, then sit down in a chair, and have the staff bring the shoes to you! Might be good to start with a good pair of walking shoes...

    Moopy, dear - you really DO NEED a new and GOOD pair of shoes! Especially if you're gonna start walking with Joe & the dogs again - you know, getting out & about a little more.

    Best of luck to you, as you take this first step (lame pun?) towards RETAIL THERAPY! Then, on to the sofa shopping!!! Hey, you had BETTER get new shoes before you even attempt sofa shopping - furniture stores can be huge! And if your feet are hurting - how will you be able to tell if the NEW SOFA is comfortable?

    Kind regards, Susan
  • Christmas Girl
    Christmas Girl Member Posts: 3,682 Member
    Moopy23 said:

    Those are good ideas; we can take breaks, and the mall does have chairs. Joe had plantar fascitis, and I saw how painful it is. I hope that your feet are fine now, Re.

    Thank you both, and for your hugs, too. (Purple is my favorite color, by the way.)

    I'm wearing a PURPLE t-shirt today!
    Actually, it's one of two I have from the ACS Relay for Life events I've attended.

    Kind regards, Susan
  • sunnygirl
    sunnygirl Member Posts: 57 Member
    Moopy23 said:

    OK
    Thank you, my dear friends, I will get new shoes. Just tiring to try them on. Whereas, with furniture, all I have to do is sit! Wouldn't it be nice to have a personal shopper?

    Thanks, Marcia, for the Easy Spirit recommendation and info. JCP, here I come.

    Stef, your post reminds me of the **** and Jane post you wrote a while back. I learned to read with **** and Jane! I thought your post was fun, as they often are.

    Love you all,
    Moopy

    A suggestion
    Moopy, my dear, when I need new shoes whether uggs or strappy sandles, I go to Zappos.com. They are just the best!!!

    No problem with returns--They pay shipping both ways--AND--they are fast!! Mine arrive in one day usually. Go ahead, take a look--order several pair--and return what doesn't suit you. Believe me, you CAN'T go wrong!! I've even sold my sweet hubbie on them. Have fun--Big hug--Cheryl
  • mimivac
    mimivac Member Posts: 2,143
    Shoes and more shoes!
    These may not help you on your walks with Joe and the dogs, but...:

    http://www.katespade.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3496698&cp=1855192.1991455&parentPage=family
  • Marcia527
    Marcia527 Member Posts: 2,729
    mimivac said:

    Shoes and more shoes!
    These may not help you on your walks with Joe and the dogs, but...:

    http://www.katespade.com/product/index.jsp?productId=3496698&cp=1855192.1991455&parentPage=family

    $35 for a flip flop??? And
    $35 for a flip flop??? And that was the cheap one! Wow. Out of my price range. And gee did you see that spike? I'd fall off.