My daughter Stephanie's lawsuit settled...

KathiM
KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
edited March 2014 in Breast Cancer #1
As many of you know, my daughter died almost exactly 2 years ago (Jan 7,2007). She was 22 years old, but emotionally disturbed. She died in a facility, under questionable circumstances. Because of these circumstances, there was a wrongful death lawsuit started.

I received word today that it settled. I should be jumping for joy. Instead, I have mixed emotions. It's the turning of another page. I hope that the suit brought an awareness to the facility and their holding company...so that this won't happen again. I am relieved that I don't have to appear in court, but then, on the other hand, I feel badly that I couldn't tell the world what it lost when she died. She was a loving child, quick to smile, when she was 'on'. I miss her terribly.

Thanks for listening,

Hugs, Kathi
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  • mgm42
    mgm42 Member Posts: 491 Member
    No Words
    Words escape me, but I want you to know that I care about you and wish you all of the best that life can offer. Hugs, Marilynn
  • Marcia527
    Marcia527 Member Posts: 2,729
    hug
    I send hugs your way too.
  • Jadie
    Jadie Member Posts: 723
    Hugs
    Here's more hugs coming your way.

    (((((((((((HUGS)))))))))
    Jadie
  • ladybug22
    ladybug22 Member Posts: 646
    I am so sorry to hear of yor
    I am so sorry to hear of yor lost. I dont no as a mother the lost but as a grand mother of a 5 month old i no my love to yor and your family.
  • Eil4186
    Eil4186 Member Posts: 949
    Sorry
    Kathi, I did not know about your daughter. I am very sorry. This is indeed a turning point. I imagine that while the lawsuit was active it was sort of like you were still looking out for her in a way. I can see why this would be bitter sweet news.

    You are in my thoughts.Eil
  • mmontero38
    mmontero38 Member Posts: 1,510
    Kathi, there are no words
    Kathi, there are no words that I can say that would express how sorry I am for your loss. Hopefully, the facility will make much needed changes and insure that this doesn't happen again. Sending much needed hugs your way, Lili
  • phoenixrising
    phoenixrising Member Posts: 1,508
    This must be very difficult.
    This must be very difficult. Working on your daughters case for so long and now it's over must leave an empty spot. My heart goes out to you. I'm sending you a big hug.
    love
    jan
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    mgm42 said:

    No Words
    Words escape me, but I want you to know that I care about you and wish you all of the best that life can offer. Hugs, Marilynn

    Hugs back...
    Thank you, dearheart...and I wish all the best to you, too.

    Hugs, Kathi
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    Marcia527 said:

    hug
    I send hugs your way too.

    Hugs to you, too!
    Thank you...I got them, and am sending them back!

    Hugs, Kathi
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    Jadie said:

    Hugs
    Here's more hugs coming your way.

    (((((((((((HUGS)))))))))
    Jadie

    I feel so much better...
    Thank you, Jadie, for the warm hugs. I needed them badly!

    Hugs, Kathi
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    ladybug22 said:

    I am so sorry to hear of yor
    I am so sorry to hear of yor lost. I dont no as a mother the lost but as a grand mother of a 5 month old i no my love to yor and your family.

    Thank you, my dear!
    It's just not the normal order of things to lose someone young. But, I do go on...

    Hugs, Kathi
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    Eil4186 said:

    Sorry
    Kathi, I did not know about your daughter. I am very sorry. This is indeed a turning point. I imagine that while the lawsuit was active it was sort of like you were still looking out for her in a way. I can see why this would be bitter sweet news.

    You are in my thoughts.Eil

    Thank you, dear soul!
    I never thought of it that way...now everything is done...thank you for that inspiration!

    Hugs, Kathi
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member

    Kathi, there are no words
    Kathi, there are no words that I can say that would express how sorry I am for your loss. Hopefully, the facility will make much needed changes and insure that this doesn't happen again. Sending much needed hugs your way, Lili

    Thank you, sweet angel!
    Lili, I am sending hugs back to you as well. I hold on to the hope that this facility will learn something from this...the nurse who called me with the news of Stephanie's passing was so rude, it broke my heart. I hope he gets straightened out...these dear souls are so helpless and at the mercy of their caregivers.

    Hugs, Kathi
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member

    This must be very difficult.
    This must be very difficult. Working on your daughters case for so long and now it's over must leave an empty spot. My heart goes out to you. I'm sending you a big hug.
    love
    jan

    Sending love back to you...
    Thank you, Jan, for the warm thoughts. I was lucky to find a lawyer that took care of things for me, and was as horrified as I was as to the things that caused her death. He worked very hard...and earned his money!

    Hugs, Kathi
  • chenheart
    chenheart Member Posts: 5,159
    ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
    Sweet Kathi~

    With your post, you absolutely DID tell the world about your loving daughter. As someone once so eloquently said, "there may a legal system, but not so much a justice system". I know that you probably wanted to stand on the judge's bench and tell the world who she was, and what you lost. But Kathi, I dare say, you and Hans aside, perhaps no one but your sisters in arms here on CSN know the pain you are feeling. Of course I don't mean that literally, as all of us have a different story, but Kathi~ could you possibly find a more empathetic group of Kindred Spirits anywhere????? And this is an International Site!!! The love you feel for your amazing daughter shines through brightly!

    Your words, your love, your life, your sadness, your triumphs, your beautiful daughter has touched all of us through you. Thank you for sharing her with us~ even in a sad time. We love you.

    Take time to exhale.....you and yours are loved and cared for.

    Hugs,
    Claudia
  • mimivac
    mimivac Member Posts: 2,143
    Peace to you, Kathi
    I cannot imagine how this must feel, Kathi. I send thoughts of peace and love to you. You have helped me so much in the short time that I've corresponded with you on this board, that I can imagine what a great mom you are and how much you have hurt for your daughter. I hope it is some comfort to you that your actions may have helped others in that facility.

    Mimi
  • kevindee
    kevindee Member Posts: 72
    kathi, i know how you feel
    kathi, i know how you feel having lost my only daughter myself in oct. she was 30 yrs old i lost my baby son 3 yrs before in july . he was 22 yrs. i really give you a big hug and i pray god gives you peace. i know money no matter how much can replace a child or any other loved one for that matter. praying for you ..... dee
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    chenheart said:

    ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))
    Sweet Kathi~

    With your post, you absolutely DID tell the world about your loving daughter. As someone once so eloquently said, "there may a legal system, but not so much a justice system". I know that you probably wanted to stand on the judge's bench and tell the world who she was, and what you lost. But Kathi, I dare say, you and Hans aside, perhaps no one but your sisters in arms here on CSN know the pain you are feeling. Of course I don't mean that literally, as all of us have a different story, but Kathi~ could you possibly find a more empathetic group of Kindred Spirits anywhere????? And this is an International Site!!! The love you feel for your amazing daughter shines through brightly!

    Your words, your love, your life, your sadness, your triumphs, your beautiful daughter has touched all of us through you. Thank you for sharing her with us~ even in a sad time. We love you.

    Take time to exhale.....you and yours are loved and cared for.

    Hugs,
    Claudia

    Always know I get a hug....
    Thank you, Claudia! As usual, you give very sage advice. Thank you, thank you!

    Hugs, Kathi
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    mimivac said:

    Peace to you, Kathi
    I cannot imagine how this must feel, Kathi. I send thoughts of peace and love to you. You have helped me so much in the short time that I've corresponded with you on this board, that I can imagine what a great mom you are and how much you have hurt for your daughter. I hope it is some comfort to you that your actions may have helped others in that facility.

    Mimi

    It's what I hold on to...
    The thought that I made them think about changing their ways....

    Thank you, Mimi, for the kind words.

    Hugs, kathi
  • KathiM
    KathiM Member Posts: 8,028 Member
    kevindee said:

    kathi, i know how you feel
    kathi, i know how you feel having lost my only daughter myself in oct. she was 30 yrs old i lost my baby son 3 yrs before in july . he was 22 yrs. i really give you a big hug and i pray god gives you peace. i know money no matter how much can replace a child or any other loved one for that matter. praying for you ..... dee

    Sending prayers back, my dear!
    It's something that should never happen...having to say goodbye to a child. I am sending prayers up for you, too!

    Hugs, Kathi