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Condolences to Varmint 5 on the passing of her beautiful daughter

jen2012
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Anyone hear from Sandy or know how her daughter is doing?    Sandy, if you see this, I hope you have a good update for us.

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Varmint5
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I don't have good news. My heart is broken. I read here but have not been able to post or respond because I just have not had the words. I still don't. I am thankful to you for not forgetting about me and my daughter, my only child. I am devastated. Here is why.

Her obituary:

http://www.meaningfulfunerals.net/fh/obituaries/obituary.cfm?o_id=2665940&fh_id=11706

Her interview with Suzanne Lindley of YES! Beat Liver Tumors:

http://johnbrunedigital.com/melanie.html

Her memorial video made by John Brune, videographer for Beat Liver Tumors. Melanie participated in fashion week in NYC as a survivor model at a fundraiser for YES! and at Night of 100 Stars Oscar gala in L.A. with YES! These events were magical escapes for her during her journey through stage IV CC. 

Again, thank you. I am sorry for not being able to participate and offer my support here.

Sandy

 

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I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.

She was a remarkable person.

My sincere condolances to you and the family and all who loved her.

Hugs,

Marie who loves kitties

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Varmint5
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I appreciate your support and sympathy. Hugs back to you.

Sandy

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herdizziness
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my heart just breaks for you, I have tears flowing with sorrow over your loss of your beautiful daughter, too many of you have lost your children to this horrible disease and I am so sorry for that.

Don't worry about not offering support or participating, you and your daughter offers it plenty, it is we, that want to offer you our support.

You and your daughter shall remain in my heart.

I'm so, so sorry for your loss dear.  If I could do anything, please let me know.

Winter Marie

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Your story was one of several that gave us so much hope when this all started and I appreciate that. Keep on kicking this diseases butt. You have my support, even if I am not a regular presence here. Thank you for your support and condolences.

Sandy

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No parent would outlive her child in a just universe.  

I'm so very sorry.

Many hugs~AA

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Varmint5
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You are so right. Thank you for the support. Hugs back to you, too.

Sandy

UncleBuddy
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I am so sorry for your loss. I can't imagine what you're going through. I watched the video of your beautiful daughter. She looked very happy. Her husband seemed to be a great support. Enjoy your beautiful grandson, she lives on, in him. 

Lin

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My sister lost her 33 year old son in 2009 of Testicular Cancer.  My heart breaks for you.

Hugs George & Diane

 

 

 

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Sandy,

I'm so very sorry for your loss of your precious daughter, may she rest in eternal peace.  My sincere condolonces to you and your family.

With sympathy,

Cynthia

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Sandy,

As I ready your daughter's obituary and watched the video tears came down my face.

I will never understand this disease and how it continues to keep taking.

My deepest sympathy to you, your family, son-in-law and grandson. 

Their are really no words..... I am so sorry

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I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter has passed away.  I remember you talking about her involvement with YES! Beat Liver Tumors.  The obituary and video were wonderful and I know you will cherish them.  She was an inspiration to others through the video.  I'm sure that you and your son-in-law will feel close to your daughter every time you see your precious grandson.  It's great that you live near them.  I'm in Lee's Summit in the far southeast part of the KC metro area.  I have no words of wisdom but I will pray for comfort and peace and hope for you and your family.  

Joy

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Wow Sandy, So unbelievably sorry to hear the news.  I can't pretend to imagine, I can only offer my support.

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Sandy, I read Melanie's obituary and watched the interview. I just want to tell you how beautiful she was and you must be so proud to call such a wonderful spiri,t your daughter.  I am so sorry she has passed and don't even want to try to imagine your heart break. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers, please give that little Tate a squeeze for me. Again, I am so sorry.

God's blessings.

Brenda

 

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Say YES to hope. Sandy thank you for sharing. The "Say Yes to Hope" interview was beautiful. And thank God you have a beautiful Grand Son to love and raise. And I'm so sorry for your loss. And I pray that Love will overflow your heart one again. Blessings to you.

 

jen2012
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Oh Sandy...I am so so sorry.  It's heartbreaking and so unfair.  Her obituary is beautifully written.    I can't imagine how difficult the last couple of years have been for you.  Take comfort in that sweet grandson.   

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My heart is breaking for you. I can truly say I know what you are feeling after I lost my Debbie on July 27. It is gut wrenching and unbelievable to know that our beautiful girls are gone. No mother should have to watch the demise of their child.

I read, but don't post often. I am not a good support person right now to so many with hope.

Love,

Karen

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Jen and Karen, thank you for your support. Karen, I am so sorry I wasn't on here supporting you. I just could have not been able to come to the boards - this one and Colon Club - since things started to go downhill for us. I am so sorry about Debbie and I know you know exactly how I feel. I wish we could get together or something. I just don't want to talk to anybody and don't even want to answer the phone. Our girls could not catch a break. I am bitter and angry and devastated. I have nothing upbeat to offer anybody. I probably need to continue my hiatus from the boards. I wish everybody well who is fighting this damn disease and those who have put it behind them. I've lost my only child, you've lost your only daughter. We will never get over it.

Sandy

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Yes, it is so unfair. Her husband wrote the obituary. I thought it was beautiful, too. Their son is who keeps us all going. I can't imagine where we would be right now if we didn't have him. Thank you for the support.

Sandy

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Sandy,

I am so very sorry that your gorgeous, lovely daughter has passed on.  I can offer my love and know I am thinking of you hoping that there can be bits of hope for you  in the days ahead. 

Aloha

Kathleen

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Sandy, my heart hurts for you and for those you love. Your lovely daughter's beautiful 'little guy' will need you to tell him what an incredible a mom he had.  Life isn't fair. Please know that even though I don't have the words, you are in my heart and prayer.

Whether you come on the boards or not, you are held and remembered.

i am so sorry.

CM

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Yes, you are right and I do it at every opportunity. I hope I will get to spend a lot of time with him. I appreciate your support and prayers. Thank you.

Sandy

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I am hoping for that, too. It's just so unbelievably hard. I am so sorry about your husband. We fought valiantly as well. Everybody does. Just such a ruthless disease.

Sandy

janderson1964
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I am so truly sorry Sandy for your loss. I can not imagine the pain and emptiness you are feeling right now.

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You're right. I don't think anyone can comprehend it. I know I couldn't not have until now. I appreciate your sympathy and support.

Sandy

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Dearest Sandy, how my heart weeps for the loss of your beautiful daughter. 

Be good to yourself. No apologies to us, or to anyone.   

Know that you and your family and your daughters family are in my prayers. 

Bless! 

Sue - Trubrit

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I appreciate your support and understanding and prayers. I am trying to just get from one day to the next. Thanks for your kind words.

Sandy

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Just crying, just watched her video.  So awful, 35 years old and a 3 year old baby.  I just can't imagine.

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Varmint5
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Yes, so awful. I'm living every mother's worst nightmare. I appreciate your support and empathy.

Sandy

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I don't know you except that we're bonded through this horrible disease. There's a Chinese saying that the saddest thing in the universe is to bury your own child. I can't imagine your grief, condolences and my heart goes out to you.

Easyflip/Richard

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That saying is so right. Thank you for your support and sympathy. I appreciate it.

Sandy

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your heartbreak.  Prayers for strength and peace in the coming days.

 

Angela

 

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Sandy I cannot even imagine your pain, loss and grief over the loss of your beautiful girl.  This must be the hardest thing anyone ever has to do.....Richard's quote is correct I think.

I have only one daughter and my heart just aches for you.....it is almost impossible to imagine your pain

with greatest love, maggie and a hug

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Annabelle41415
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So sorry to hear of her passing.  My prayers and thoughts are with the family. 

Kim

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My condolences. My the Lord give you the strength to get through the un barrage pain of the passing of your lovely daughter. I'm so sorry  

 

We here will never get pass the pain of so many lost souls! so many friends. It's so heart wrenching. 

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I just read your daughters obit- all of my Dad's family from Chillicothe and then migrated to Brookfield.  My Dad is buried beside the highway coming into town.  Are you from Brookfield?  Would love to swap stories with you, bet we know some of the same people.  

 

I am so sorry to hear of your daughter :(

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@Samdy: I am looking for the right words, but cannot find them *sigh*. I so so very sorry. Please, please always remind your grandson about how great his mom was. Look thorugh photo albums, make her favorite food, keep her in the family! I would pay a million if someone still was around to tell me about my Mother. It's hard to grow up without a mother. So, your job is to keep your daughter around the familyl, keep reminding your grandson about her. Make her food, do what she loved to do. Look at her photos, tell stories. It will help your son....and YOU TOO!!!! You will start to realize that she didn't go far, and that she will always be around. She will follow you, see how you take care of her son, how you help her husband keep going, and still be in the great family you also provided. I wish you ALL strength!!!! It willl not be quick....and it will not be painful. But you guys, together, can make it better...in a way she would love to see you all. Smile, celebrate, love and support each other! You guys are still all a family....ONE GREAT FAMILY! Hugs to all of you (You, the little boy and the husband)!

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