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and so for ten years I have been fighting......colorectal to liver to liver and endless years of surgery and chemo and now......Breast cancer!who could have thought????? have to say for the last five year my ned status has been weighing heavily.....why me ? could not be me/

okay jeff getting in line.....crap this is a nasty disease....please forgive me tonight.....just a little upset....just found out I have breast cancer.....

 

mags

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I am so very sorry to read this.

Taking on another fight, when your're still battling the side effects from the last one; it just isn't fair. 

You are the third person with CRC that I know to be fighting Breast Cancer. It just doesn't fit. 

You are in my prayers. 

Sue - Trubrit

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I am at a loss for words.  I am so sorry.  Once you have stuff down, what type, stage, treatment plan, location and that kind of stuff go over to the breast cancer board.  Those gals there are extremely informative and sharing and will give you honest answers to any question you have and give you their experiences with different options. 

I kinda know just how scared you may be.  I had a breast cancer scare last January when the mamogram came back suspicious.  Went down to the University of Michigan Hospital for the digital, ultrasound, etc. and radiologist and ultrasound doctor assured me it was a very small fluid filled cyst and to do nothing about it unless it  really bothered me that it was there, etc.  If it bothered me I would have to see a breast surgeon, etc.  I decided to take their advise and do nothing.  In most instances, it goes away on its own.  The same thing happened several years ago and it did go away on its own.

Again, I am so very sorry. 

Love to you my dear friend - Tina

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Oh dear,  this news just hit me in the stomach, I'm so very sorry Mags. :(.  And no, it simply isn't fair,  especially after all that you've been through with CRC.  But as this new fight begins, just remember that you beat the beast down once, so why not again, right?   My thoughts are with you, and feel my arms wrapped around you in a gentle hug.  (())

All my best dear...

Cynthia

 

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I am so very sorry to hear this news.  While the folks on the breast cancer board will be more helpful about treatment plans, etc., please also stay with us for the emotional support.  No one loves you like we do!

I am hopeful that Kathi M will log in here and offer her own experience.  Remember after she beat CRC she was diagnosed with breast cancer.  She beat both, and so can you.

Love and hugs,

Marie who loves kitties

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I'm sorry you had this new fight dropped on you, I can understand why some folks believe life to be a series of tests and trials to some end or purpose. I don't share that view, I think life is random stuff that hits you, while you're planning all the things most humans want to do. It's just some of us get smacked around more than others. In my case, all the genetic bad breaks seem to come my way. Familial stuff like lazy eye at birth, CMT, a neurological disease that attacks extremities, onset at puberty; and of course late stage crc at 49. I'm not complaining, yeah I guess I am, that any lousy condition that runs in the family, runs to me. The fact that having cancer, and the harsh treatments to fight it, makes one at a higher risk for another cancer feels like abuse by a supposedly neutral universe, but it is what it is. Yell, hit a heavy bag, get drunk, walk until your too tired to care[works for me], do whatever takes that initial agnst out of you, and then set your mind to dealing with this new hurdle. I wish I had words of real comfort, but I'm guessing you know how to find refuge, by now, when life overwhelms. At least for a little while. Sudoku and Xanax helps distract me, as does any story on the tv or internet about someone in a tougher battle for some quality of life. I know it can always be worse, and I know that if I apply my mind[when I'm ready] I can make my life better. My thoughts and hopes are with you.............Dave

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I'm so sorry. Cancer is the gift that keeps on giving. What a shock and disappointment for you. I just have no words, it's so crappy. I'm just really sorry you're going to have to go through the fight again.

Jan

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....and my heart, dear friend!

 

I would love to send you my book...I think it would make you laugh....or at least giggle....PM me here, if you would like a copy...

 

"It's hard to say 'No' to a bald lady"  is the title...

 

I just cleared 11 years since my rectal diagnosis, and going on 10 years on the breast....

 

It IS doable, dear one.....with 'a little help from your friends'....

 

Hugs, Kathi

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    So sorry Mags. Please let us know what your siyuation is when you find out more. It seems almost impossible to hide from this crap. Even when we haven't got it we have constant reminders that we had it. Wishing you the best possible outcome and hugs to your hubby as well , your mate from downunder. Ron.

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thank you dear friends......yup I am feeling shaky for sure......weepy shaky unsure....guilty stupid ....you name it......I remember telling myself that is was chronic but i guess I never really really believed that...

just having a cup of coffee and then off to buy a new nighgown.....haha at least I know some of the drill

love to all and thanks......mags

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I am so sorry to hear this. Did they tell you what stage breast cancer it is. I am not making lite of your situation but if it is early stage breast cancer that could be better than a stage 4 colon cancer recurrence. I am right by your side as you have been for me. I am at the one waiting to get my first round of chemo started.

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Dear Jeff......I have not been staged yet.....see surgeon tomorrow for surgery options......

Yes we have been together as the liver resection team......I wonder how long before you get started on your chemo.....waiting.......waiting...

I had forgotten how hard the WAITING is......thanks jeff, mags

janderson1964
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Started treatment around. Will be here until after 5. Yeah the waiting for results sucks. It is still tough even after 10 years.

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Cancer is a horrible beast, and I'm so sorry  you're having to battle it anew after all you've been through. Please let us know what you find out about staging and treatment options, and remember that a lot of people are pulling for you.

Grace

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That you are facing this again.  D--n cancer is so unfair. Thoughts are with you.

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Oh, Mags, I teared up as I was reading your post. It breaks my heart for you to have to deal with more disease. Not fair! 

We are all here for you.  Please know that your name will be mentioned to God several times a day. You are in my heart, dear one.

hugs, CM

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ahhhh CM don't cry......I will get back into the groove.....finding it hard but don;t you cry sweet girl.....mags

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... don't know what to say. So sending just a big hug for the moment.

Thinking of you

Petra

 

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like all of us you have been through so so much......

thanks for being here.....mags

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Just saw your post and my heart breaks for you. Another lousy boulder in the road to overcome. I know you are frightened, but you've got this, girl. We old women don't give up easily.

I'll be right here on the sidelines as you win this battle.

Luv Ya,

Wolfen

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ahhhh there you are......how are you girl?

will never forget your girl ever!

mags

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Mags - That plain sucks.  I know you, you're a fighter like many of us, you'll get through it.  YOu have evry right to be upset and this is just the place to vent.  I hope they've caught it early.  My thoughts are with you.  Traci

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Well that is completely out of the blue and a load of crap if I do say so myself. Time to put the gloves on and fight again. It's so unfair and without rhyme or reason, you don't deserve this at all. Let's hope it's caught early and treatment is quick and gentle. It does feel like cancer stalks us, the little monster. Kick its a$$ again.

Look to us for support, stay strong and hopeful,

Easyflip/Richard

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I'm so sorry to hear this. You've been through so much already...
{{{hugs}}}

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thanks philie

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First of all I am so sorry that this had to happen to such a nice person.  I have seen articles that crc is susceptible to spreading throughout a womans reprodictive share including breasts.  I know you will beat this beast. I pray that the warmth of your family, faith and home heals you.

 

love 

 

fn

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so freaking unfair.  :(

I hope it's early stage and easily treated.  You're a tough gal and get kick the hell out of this cancer just like you did the other one.

Big hugs~AA

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Traci Richard AA......thanks and thanks.....on  lighter note the breast cancer seems to be bringing out lots of nice cuss words from people.....including the surgeon!!! haha rock on english language......

no calls from the surgeon so wait through the weekend......hopefully surgery date sometime soon or I just might have to x@kk*7aF :)

mags

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Glad to see you're finding some humor in all this mess.  Hope you hear from the surgeon soon.  We all know it's hard, but try not to think about it all weekend.  Go out have some fun, do some Christmas shopping.  Take care of yourself and keep us posted.  Traci

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this truly does suck! Enough is enough! You are going to kick it's ***, I know it! I hope the surgeon gets back to you soon. I don't get why they make people wait so long. They know people are worried as it is, why add to the worry by delaying the call? Ugh! 

Please let us know how it goes.

I'll be thinking of you.

Lin

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Just thinking of you. When is the surgeon's appointment?

Luv,

Wolfen

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saw the surgeon last Thursday and he offered a lumpectomy or a mastectomy and we have agreed on the mastectomy.With this surgery he can remove the breast tissue and nodes under the arm for testing.  He felt that was best considering the number of surgeries I have already done. So then he leaves and says his secretary will call and then it's the weekend and then you all know the drill........it's called The Wait. Getting darned close to the holidays so may just get tied up in that and have to wait till January.

I must confess to not doing too well with this one......all the old fears and terrors rest just under the surface come roaring back up.  I am finding the nights long and hard.....have started back on ativan in order to get some rest. Thought I might be stronger at the game as the years pass but apparently not.....

thanks for asking and listening.......mags

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Prayers are with you.. 

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I know of what you speak, dear one.  I look at it as a great bird of prey, soaring behind me, just out of sight.  Occasionally, when it catches my eye (around appointment time), I must push it away.

 

As far as Christmas....dearheart, I know that it's aweful this cancer...but in my humble opinion, the sooner you get it out, the sooner you can start returning to normal.  That is how I felt...and worked through Christmas with a pump from my rectal cancer.  Also, one compromised Christmas and then ''normal" Christmases beyond is the best.  Again, in my humble opinion.  Pull up your 'big girl panties', dear one....git 'er done as the saying goes!

 

BIG hugs from a 'been there/done that'!

 

Hugs, Kathi

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I'm with you, I thought enduring this crap ws supposed to make one tougher as you go, but it seems I land in melancholy a lot more these days. Ah well, back to raking the lawn. It's a beautiful day in Cali, and I want to feel all of it. Hope it's fine where you are, hang tough........Dave

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haha yes it is a beauty day here to Dave.....usually we have a couple of feet of snow by now but this year nothing.....really should rake the leaves .....at least the snow covers them up.  Melancholy is a good word for these feelings....thanks for the nod....

 

mags

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Mags,

I'll keep updated on the bc board.  (As you know I am there for my mom now.)   I just want to add my love to all those here who I know will be with you during this journey.  We all love you so much.

Aloha,

Kathleen

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I am so sorry to hear about your mum. 

My mum had a saying 'It never rains, but it pours'. 

It seems too much to bear for some here. My prayers to you and your mum. 

Sue - Trubrit

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im so sorry sending good postive vibes

 

michelle

 

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Hi Mags, My brain just hurts from this one.  I don't understand this life and sorry this is happening to you is just not enough.  Just to throw it out into the universe . . .has your doctor discussed with you that breast cancer can be a "side effect" from chemo and radiation treatment?  I don't have any actual knowledge on the topic but this happened to my friend.  Her doctor told her that her breast cancer was a direct result of the chemo she had for her thyroid cancer and this is not uncommon.  Keeping in mind that my friend had cancer in the 90s.  I never really read the side effects of the drugs we take, I took them because they were the way to stay alive.  I think I will take some time and read the packaging to see if this is a possibility.  The drugs may have improved since the 90s.  Knowledge is power.  Also I've had precervical cancer cells.  I've come to realize that I am prone to cancer and it's pretty scary.  I wish I knew what I knew now, I would have gone for the colonoscopy in my 30s when my general doctor dismissed me and said I am too young and it's just hemmorhoids.  I haven't addressed him about it yet, still pretty angry.  We didn't have the internet back then=(  I would never have waited now.  As my Aunt (not a blood relative) recently said "once a cancer patient, always a cancer patient".  She's had the same issue with her body. 

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I'm so sorry cancer has come to call again. Can't you just slam the door in its stupid face??? 

Praying this will be taken care of, and you can have some rest from this wretched disease.

 

*hugs*

Gail

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