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Don is getting weaker every day. I now have to give him 60mg of morphine every 8 hrs and a pill for anxiety as needed. He has been in bed all day today and not eating anything. I am just praying that God will take him home and out of this suffering. I know that it is in HIS time, but it is very hard to see him suffer. Please keep us in your prayers. I don't know how I would survive without the support I get from all you folks and friends.

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...from our family to yours. Take care.

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Praying that God will give you both strength. Love to you - Kim

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Dear Reba our hearts and prayers are with you and yours during this trying time.
Stay Strong

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I am so sorry to hear about this, but know that you have many out here supporting both you and your husband. We all will be praying that God will do his work and you will recieve comfort in this most trying time. Sam

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You and Don have been in my prayers daily. It has been a long battle for both of you. I will be praying that Don's pain relief is effective and that he is as comfortable as possible. I am glad that he is home and has your love and support as he makes the final part of his journey.

Best Regards,

Paul Adams
McCormick, South Carolina

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Wishing peace and comfort to both you and Don.


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As everyone else has stated, I'm wishing you peace, love and comfort as you face this next step in the journey. I am so sorry that Don is fading, and I know your pain. I was there, just a wee bit over a month ago. I stroked Lee's arms and hair, told him how much I loved him and just chatted aloud, about whatever came to mind. I gave him permission to go, and told him I'd be ok, and that his beloved doggie would be ok. I don't know how much of this he was aware of, he was pretty out of it for the last week, but it helped me to say goodbye. I'm sure on some level, he knew I was there, by his side every moment. And I'm sure Don knows that as well. You have been a champion caregiver, and you should take comfort in the fact that you did such a remarkable job.

I, like you, was at the point of wishing for Lee to let go. It felt horrible to think it, but I could not stand to watch him suffer any more. I know he is in a better place right now, and for that I'm thankful.

Please lean on us, we are here for you. Take care of yourself, be well and God bless

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Praying for God's comfort during this difficult time.

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Praying for God's comfort to surround you and Don.

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I hate this disease!! How old is don. By the way the color ribbon for esophageal cancer is periwinkle. I am truly sorry Tim is in bed it seems since his first chemo treatment in September, started hospice in November is at home and also on 60 mg of morph every 8 as well. His belly is swollen and this weekend his entire left arm . I had to cut t shirt to give room. I wonder if he will make it to Christmas ? It is in God's hands either way! One thing I can do is pray to God to sustain us! I know He will , Poor Tim was just diagnosed at the end of august and it has been downhill since. When did don have his last chemo? Take care dear sweet Reba

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Don is 78. He had EC surgery last Dec after 6 Chemo and 28 Radiation treatments. They said he was Cancer Free then. In August he was diagnosed with Stage 4 Bone Cancer. The same kind as the EC. They gave him 6 to 8 months to live. He is going down hill fast and it seems the end is near. I don't know if he will last through Christmas or not. It is in God's hands. I don't understand why this terrible Cancer has to claim so many lives. Thanks so much for all your prayers. I will keep you in mine as well.

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This cancer is so cruel and plays so many horrid tricks on people. You and Don are in my thoughts and prayers for pain relief and peace.

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I pray that Dons end will be swift and not agnozing which is what Ias a stage 4 pray for everyday. Throughout my mom dad and sisters cancer deaths I remember them just wanting to be reassured everything is OK time to go peacefully we will remember you and all the good times we had together .Undescribable how to live without your soulmate be it wife husband father mother sisiter brother child or friend. But somehow those destined to continue to live do get through it allthough doesnt seem like it at the time.Hope you have a strong support system you deserve it.Keep on posting helps others get through thier grief as well and to know the caretakers of the world will be cared for too.Take care of YOU Best wishes Meg Mac

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Hugs and prayers for you guys from us. May God continue to wrap His loving arms around you both and provide the strength and comfort to help you through this very difficult time.

Judy & Don

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I am so sorry for your pain and Don's. God is with you.

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Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time. I pray for pain free time for Don and peace for you.

Love & Hugs,


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I sure will keep you all in my prayers.


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Reba, ever so so sorry for your pain as you help Don pass. Please gather strength from us.
Peace and blessings,

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RIBA my heart goes out to you and Don. There are too many people on here who have been where you are now and only they can know your heartbreak and suffering, the rest of us can only imagine the devastating heartbreak. You're in my thoughts as Don nears the end of his terrible journey and I pray for a peaceful passing.

Ann (2)

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My thoughts and prayers are with you both at this time, may you find peace, know that we are all here for you.
Love and hugs

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My thoughts and prayers are with you, your family and Don during these difficult days. I know no words can help make this easier but know there are many here who are praying for you and Don and we will be here to support you through everything that will happen.

As Sherri said whisper those special words to Don, sit with him and give him permission to go. That was the hardest thing for me with my Dad, but I know that it brought him some peace to know that we would all be okay and that we would take care of mom once he was gone. And he knew how much we loved him and how much he loved us. Don knows all those things as well and you both have been blessed with much love and happiness. Take care of yourself too - don't forget that.

Prayers and hugs,

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Reba and Don,
I just wanted to add my thoughts for love and peace for you both and comfort for Don. We all understand how difficult this time is and appreciate you keeping us up to date.

Take care,

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Dearest Reba
Please know that you and your husband are in all of our prayers and thoughts. I will pray today that if it is in God's will...that he please take him home. You are a wonderful caregiver. You have done an excellent job. Continue to give your husband the peace he needs to move onto his next journey. Keep in touch. We are thinking of you.
Tina in Va

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I am praying for you, your husband and family at this most difficult time. May God give you and yours comfort and strength in the days ahead.
Wife of Rickie, dx stage IV EC, Oct. 2010
Mets to bones and brain

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Dear Reba,
This is so hard especially during all the holiday bustle and cheeriness. My thoughts and prayers are with you, that Don will have peace and comfort. My prayers and thoughts are with you and Don and your whole family.

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